Milan&Pam

restudy form I-864, and the instructions. it's all covered there.

Oh yes, I knew that I would be financially responsible for his support. Although he currently has a well paying job and I am not worried, I have no problem with this. Even with everything that has happened, I still love him and want to be sure he is taken care of. He won't take money from me anyway as he believes I am "involved" in the conspiracy.

I think I am more concerned with any legal responsibility I have being his sponsor. Such as, if he were to be arrested for assault or even if he is committed to a hospital by the authorities. There would be financial costs incurred with these events also.

I am starting to think he may be a danger to himself or someone else. This of course is a whole other issue NOT related to immigration and I have been discussing this with his family.

Ever so slightly off topic -

1. How easy is it for the person to claim financial support from the person supporting the I-864? My ex supported mine, but by no means do I want a single penny from her. I'm just curious as to what it does, as I never really read the form to clearly I don't think, as I never expected her to have to support me.

2. Is there a way for the non US citizen to stop having them as your support? For example could I do anything to get her off of the I-864, by saying by no means do I want anything from her or to do with her financially? Which may also be able to apply to Milan&Pams case!

I have wondered this also. My ex-husband wouldn't take any money from me anyway. I tried to give it to him and he refused.

I have a very serious legal question that I wondered if anyone has experience and/or advice.

In 2012, my husband and I (the US citizen) were married in the US on his K-1 VISA. Very shortly after, I started to notice a huge change in him. Long story short, as I could write for days, he started to believe that people were breaking into our home, putting up cameras in our house, following and surveilling him. When he accused my daughter of trying to kill him, I contact a therapist who was certain that he was schizophrenic. She seems to think that the stress of moving to the US triggered it or made (what I didn't know he had) worse. Needless to say, it was impossible to live with him. He then was convinced "my intel" people were threatening him and he left and moved to across the country alone.

He is now living in Las Vegas, has his green card and is employed and seems to be supporting himself ok. I haven't seen him in over a year but we do talk regularly. Our divorce was final on May 5th of this year as I cannot be legally and finically responsible for him because of the job I have.

I spoke with two therapists who both said he was schizophrenic but I have never been able to get him to get help as he thinks it is all part of the "conspiracy". He refuses to see a doctor so none of this is actually documented. He seems to be getting worse and I am afraid that he will physically harm someone if he thinks he is being pushed too far.

My question is….since I was his sponsor, how much legal and finical responsibility do I have still…if any now that we are divorced? Should I contact immigration about this? Has anyone had this experience and how did they handle it on the immigration/legal side?

On a side note; No, he did trick me into marrying him or getting his green card. This has extremely devastating for both of us and is a very serious issue. He has maintained these actions from the beginning and has gone so far as to go to the police and the FBI. His family in Macedonia is also very concerned for his health and safety.

Thank you for any help or advice you can give.

Thank you everyone for the information. And no, we will be absolutely honest during the interview...if we make it that far. I wouldn't even considered anything else. I will just let immigration, and the laws, make the decision. I will definitely post the results on VJ afterwards.

Need some advice please!

My husband came to the US on a K-1 VISA and we were married in December 2012. Shortly after arriving is was apparent that it was impossible for us to live together. We have now agreed to divorce. Everything started out as a perfect romance but did not have a happy ending. It happens sometimes to those with the best intentions. I prefer not to go into personal details but I can say these two things for certain: 1) I was not being abused and 2) he did not marry me for a green card. The rest of the details are unrelated to to his immigration case and I prefer to keep them private in this forum.

The facts are, we have filed for his AOS in February and are still waiting for an interview. Knowing he would come here, and thinking we would be married forever, he gave up his job and his home in his country. He basically has nothing to go back to. Since moving to the US he has found a job, recently a new place to live and is trying to start his new life. He has asked if I would please still attend his interview and try to obtain his green card as it will be difficult for him to return home. We are not on bad terms...we just know we are not good for each other. I still care about him and want to see him happy.

I spoke with our immigration attorney and told him the situation. I also told him and my husband, if I agree to go, I will NOT go and pretend we are happily married. I will fully disclose my intentions of following through with the divorce. My attorney stated "As long as you prove that you entered into the marriage in good faith (which we absolutely did), then he should still be able to adjust his status".

Why doesn't this sound right to me??

My questions are as follows:

1) What are the changes of Immigration approving his AOS?

2) If they do, I assume I am still financially responsible for him. If so, for how long?

3) If they do not approve him, how long does he have to vacate the country?

4) I am waiting until after the interview to file, in case it helps, but are there any ramifications to this? In other words, am I making a mistake but not filing before and/or revoking my petition?

This is was all such a huge emotional mess. Adding immigration and legal worries to it is just becoming too much. I know know if I should I trust my attorney or should I maybe consult another. Not sure what I should do here. The truth is i don't care one way or the other...I just want everyone to be happy. We have been through so much already and I am only trying to help him to maybe make this easier on him. But I also have to think of myself and how this will affect me legally and financially.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Haven't checked in for a while and wanted to see how everyone was doing. Rong and David...thank goodness you are finally making progress! I hope everything from here on out goes more smoothly. You deserved it!

Res....so sorry to hear what happened. As it turns out, my luck is no better than yours. My husband and I are separated and getting divorced. I wish it would have happened before we went through this whole process though. I look back at where we were a year ago...so excited and waiting everyday for our interview..and now here we are. We love each other still but it is impossible for us to live together. Some of it is cultural but most of it is...well...it's a long story but the problem prevents me from living with him. It is just constant fighting all time. It was so bad, I took a job back in Afghanistan which is where I am now.

Anyway....

This brings me to a question for you all: We have not yet had our AOS interview. Milan would like to stay in the US and I have no problem with this. I just don't want to be financially and legally responsible for him. I agreed to go to his interview and see if he will be allowed to receive a green card based on our current situation. I will NOT, however, go to the interview and lie or pretend that we are happily married. This to me is fraud. Our attorney is aware that I will file for divorce as soon as his interview is over. He says that "as long as we entered in the marriage in good faith (and we absolutely did) , it doesn't matter if we are divorcing. They should still adjust his status".

Why does this not sound right to me?

I tried researching but really couldn't come up with a straight answer to this question; Will he still be able to Adjust Status or will he be denied based on the fact we are getting divorced?

Any knowledge???

Today has been truly devastating in all ways possible. I have finally found out the complete truth as to why my fiance has acting the way she has for so long. Back in January she went to a rave with some friends and was drinking heavily and ended up at a bar afterwords. While in the bar she was drinking straight out of a vodka bottle and became severely drunk. One of her friends had taken advantage of her that night and had relations and she has no memory of anything that happened. The worst part is that she became pregnant, she tried to have an abortion but the doctor said it was to dangerous and so 25 days ago she had a baby boy. She initially gave it up for adoption but now wants to fight to get custody back with help from her parents because she is not working. At the moment the POS friend that did this to her does not know as they have not spoken since that night. I am in shock and have no idea what to do from this point. She sincerely apologized and said that i have always been the love of her life and would not know what to do without me. We both love each other very much but i dont know what to expect with the fiance visa pending..... IM LOST :crying: :crying:

I surely hate to be the one to point this out, but I can't see that this is going to look very good during her interview. Even though she states she was drunk and taken advantage of, you must consider how the Embassy will look at this? Their job is to prevent marriage fraud. The facts are she was engaged to you at the time, didn't tell you about this and didn't file charges against this person. From an outsiders point of view, it might look to be somewhat dishonest. It is just something you should think about as it would be twice as devastating if she was denied her VISA because of this. What a horrible situation and I wish you all the luck.

I told her i would make an emergency trip to see her for seven days and she said that she could not bare to only have me for such a short time only to let me go again.

Go! She is just upset and confused by the distance. Don't ask...just go. It's the rest of your life you are dealing with and you can't give up now. Not after all you have been through. Once she is with you, all things will change.

I love these stories too and honestly, they are really helpful. I forget that just six short months ago, I was going through the same thing. I really must learn more patience.

So happy to hear about Miguel and Kaaha!!! Finally things are moving! I know some of you are still in limbo, but it will happen. Even though my sweetheart is here now, I still won't forget what nightmare it was to get to this point.

So Milan arrived at JFK on Friday. Had NO problem getting through. Every single person on his flight got called into a room but they let him go through with barely even a question. We are happy and trying to get settled in. I don't think I have ever seen him so relaxed! This is his first trip ever to the US and I expected it to be a little bit of a culture adjustment for him. BUT WOW!! It was more than I thought! He is loving everything but for me...I am exhausted!!! lol I didn't realize how much I would have to teach him. Simple things I take for granted; how to use the microwave/dishwasher/garbage disposal, how and when to take out the trash, the difference in trash and recycle, how to work the central heat and air, what a credit rating is and why it is important for him to have one, how to pump gas, what is all the food on the menu, why we don't pay to park at Target, that a restroom is the toilet not really a place to rest, etc. I haven't even attempted to teach him to drive my automatic vehicle yet! It appears to intimidate him! I think we will just start off slow. Of course, none of this is his fault and neither do I mind one bit, but I just wasn't expecting it and it's taking a little patience so he doesn't get frustrated. He is however understanding more what I went through in Macedonian for four months..so that is good.

Please share your experiences with your spouses when they get here as I am curious if you are/will go through the same thing and how you handled it.

We leave Saturday morning for Vegas and then get married on Wednesday!! Keeping my fellow Marchies in my prayers!!!!

Got a busy week so bye for now!!!

Givn2fly, that is horrible about your things. But congratulations on your marriage!!

islandgal, we are not afraid to see your picture!!

I am glad to see so many things moving for us now. But for the ones that are still at a standstill...we are here for you!

IT'S OFFICIAL!!! WE HAVE A VISA!!! My love will be here in 2 days!! I was crying so much I am not sure if he could understand a word I was saying. HAHA This time...happy tears!

My hope and wish now is that each and everyone of you get to be with your sweethearts as soon as possible!!! Thank you all for your support and advice throughout this ridiculously emotional experience.

HELLO MARCHIES!!! I couldn't wait to tell you what happened this morning, but of all days...my internet was out!

So I am 99.9% sure we will have the VISA on Thursday!! He gave them over 200 pages of emails, Skype, Affidavits and a letter from me. Four-five minutes later they called him to the infamous "window". He had a different person this time. The guy handed him all our original documents and said "You are good, we don't need these anymore" and then asked for his passport and told him to come back Thursday at 4:00 pm. NOT ONE QUESTION WAS ASKED! He also said that there were at least 5 other people there that were with him last week. Apparently saying "no" is a standard procedure for these clowns.

So based off what I have heard...if they keep your passport and you have to go back, this means they are going to give you the VISA right? I can't imagine why else they would keep it. I hope this is the case because I am making plane reservations for him for Friday morning! I am not taking any chances.

Hey Marchies, I passed the interview Visa will be done tomorrow or the day after, thats when I can pick up my passport.

Wishing all the others Marchies who are still waiting so much needed good luck

That is so awesome! Congratulations!!!

My fiancee's 2nd interview is in 7 hours. I am pretty sure we killed a forest to get all that new evidence he is bringing with him. I have to stay positive, but I am still saying an extra prayer tonight.

Good night everyone

Bought my wedding dress yesterday!!! Yes, I am completely convinced our second interview will be successful. I refuse to think anything else.

Hope everyone had a fantastic Thanksgiving weekend and wish luck to all of us this coming up week!

STAY STRONG!

Thanks to everyone for your encouragement and help... To all those still waiting Do not give up!

So happy for you!!

Peeps, we got approved, 5 min interview, 1 question and shes approved!

Now its time for me to sleep thats if i can sleep tonight!

So happy for you!!!! Congratulations.

We are all wishing you the best of luck!!!! It's so exciting!!!!

Oh no...I feel so bad that I have gotten everyone so worried! I really think this is an isolated case. Or should I say just isolated to this embassy. My fiancee said he was talking with people that were waiting with him and they were saying that they were there for the 2nd and 3rd time. Not all for K-1's but still. I guess Skopje is just a difficult embassy. Lucky us!!!! lol

New interview date...November 27th. This one is scheduled at 11:00 am. I am thinking, optimistically of course, that because they kept all his original documents and this interview is later, they plan to give him the VISA as long as everything looks legitimate. And he is more aggressive. This is me being hopeful...because, well...it's all I have right now.

PLEASE DON'T THE REST OF YOU WORRY!!! Just go in with confidence, express how much you love your fiancee and everything will be fine!!!

(and if there is any chance you can be at the next interview .... that is another option)

Thank you all so much. It has truly been a rough day. I spent no less than 8 hours on the computer, the phone and Skype...or blowing my nose from all the crying. In addition to every single Skype conversation and 470 emails, I am gather affidavits from his family, my co-workers, our friends...everyone that knows us and has witness us together. There is no way they can say no now!

As for going for his second interview...that actually isn't a bad idea. However, I overstayed my 90 days and when I left two weeks ago, they told me not to come back for six months! Which means, we couldn't get married there until April. NOT GOING TO THINK ABOUT THIS!! EVERYTHING IS GOING TO GO WELL THE NEXT INTERVIEW!!

Ok, gang...no more crying on here. Next post will be a happy one...I hope. All of you are wonderful!

Try one more interview at least!

Oh we will! After that, I see no choice but to get married and file for the CR-1. AND WAIT ANOTHER YEAR!

This is rudiculous! What else they need? Isn't that enough? And who would use a phone and pay a colossal bill when there is Skyp and Face Time and God knows what else. I feel so sorry for you but at the same time I am so mad at this whole process. As you said, "How can a person just sit in an office and with the swipe of a pen, determine your entire life"!

Soo can you provide them with additional evidence and they're gonna consider it again? My thoughts are with you.

I totally agree with you on this! Even my attorney is shocked, but like he said "every embassy is different". The notice they gave him stated that he was denied but requested him to schedule another interview and bring more evidence. So it wasn't a TOTAL denial. He can't reschedule until tomorrow and who knows how long it will be before we get another. Hopefully it will be very soon.

My poor fiancee was so upset this morning he was talking in circles and it was hard to get details out of him but I just spoke with him again a few minutes ago. He said he could see the look on her face as he was walking up there. She already assumed he was there for marriage fraud. He was in a big waiting room with at least 40 other people trying to get various VISA's. The interview is done, right there, at a glass window. He said he was extremely uncomfortable having to tell his personal life, in detail, in front of a huge room of people. I can only imagine how awful this was...yelling through plate glass about how we met in Afghanistan, fell in love, etc. He said he answered all the questions that were asked as he assumed that this was a business office and that is what they wanted. He was the only person there that spoke in English but his English is sometimes limited. I don't think this helped at all because I don't think he understood the need for him to elaborate. Maybe next interview, he should consider asking for an interpreter for backup.

Of course, right now he is very upset because we have waited so long and had high hopes this was over. He is packed and moved out of his apartment and staying with family. We had NO REASON to believe that this would not turn out well. Guess I got fooled. He is also offended that the US automatically thinks he is a criminal. And before we got off Skype, he asked me if I thought he was just marrying me for a VISA. He sounded so sad when he said it. This poor man! It's just been a crappy day all around. I tried to explain to him that no one thinks he is a criminal, but because of the thousands of others before him that WERE criminals, he is having to pay.

Actually, every single one of us on this forum are having to pay. Right now, my heart breaks for all of us.

Anyway, we are preparing every SINGLE document: Skype, emails, more pictures, Facebook posts and what ever else I can come up with. I am also going to get letters from his family stating that we have a legitimate relationship. They should know....I just spent 4 months with them. My attorney is also going to speak with my fiancee before his next interview and prepare him to give more detail and say what he needs to say. Hopefully this is just a standard "we deny the first time" thing and there is really nothing wrong. I mean seriously....what more in the world could we possibly give? (Jokingly he said "our porns". HAHA!)

So it is what it is. We will just push along and take it one day at a time. Thank you all for your support. I hope and pray that all of you have a much easier time than we do. It was rolling fine up until this point...then BAM!

BACK TO GO...DO NOT COLLECT YOUR VISA!

OMG! HIS VISA WAS DENIED!!! I am so upset right now I can barely concentrate! They wanted more proof of our relationship. It didn't matter that there was 8 months of Skype conversations or that I LIVED with him in Macedonia for 4 straight months, had a dozen pictures of us together and with his family or the confirmation of our planned wedding....she questioned why we didn't have "phone" conversations and why we didn't get married in Macedonia. WTH!!!??? First of all I was in Afghanistan and, until 2 weeks ago, was with him in Macedonia. Second, who wants to get married in Macedonia! That doesn't even make sense.

Oh and she asked why he didn't work in Macedonia when he came back from Afghanistan.

I am now gathering up every SINGLE piece of documentation I can find...ALL emails, Facebook posts, etc. To be honest, I don't even know what else to send. Just waiting for my attorney to come in his office so he can tell me what to do. Who knows how much longer it is going to be before we get another interview scheduled. Thanksgiving is ruined...I am sure i am going to have to reschedule our wedding now. So now...if I can quit crying...I can get this done.

I so hope I don't scare anyone with this, but I wanted to share. DON'T LEAVE ANYTHING OUT!!! My attorney and I both thought we had enough.

What a horrible day...month...year. I don't wish this experience on anyone. How can a person just sit in an office and with the swipe of a pen, determine your entire life. Nothing about this or this process is right. I have spent the last 10 years of my life, six of them in the military, and the last four in Iraq and Afghanistan, on and off, to protect our freedoms and pursuit of happiness and this is how MY OWN COUNTRY thanks me. I am just totally sad and angry right now.

Sorry about the rant.

Well I mailed all the documents for my fiancees interview last Monday by USPS. They charged $68 for 5-8 day delivery. It finally arrived yesterday..two days before the interview. No kidding, I was sweating it!!!! So, in 7 hours my fiancee will go for his interview!! I am so excited and nervous at the same time. Pretty sure I am not going to be able to sleep tonight.

Can't believe after all this time, it is finally happening. It seemed as if this day would never come...but IT DID!! I know it is easy for me to say now, but for all of you still waiting..hang in there. IT WILL HAPPEN! Nothing good every comes easy and it will all be worth it in the end. And don't forget that all of us are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers too!

Sending love today!!!!

I was thinking about your problem with getting documents to the embassy today, couldn't get it out of my head actually.

I would, first contact the embassy in Moscow, explain the problem, they may allow scanned/notarised copies of the documents, if not, then check if its ok to send the docs directly to the embassy since that is not 'individual to individual' or another option, go to your local USCIS office and see if they could send the docs to the embassy in Moscow on your behalf.

Best of luck!

That is exactly what i was thinking too. I wouldn't give up on this. Surely the embassy understands what is going on there for goodness sakes!

Well my wait has been extended .... I have to wait for a certificate of singleness ... (I never heard of such a thing) 20 days I have to wait before we can have the interview

you have got to be kidding me

My fiancee had to have something like that too. His divorce papers weren't good enough. The embassy requested some sort of notice that he was not currently married. Luckily Macedonia prints this information on their birth certificates.

That is awful they waited this long to tell you this information.

i finally have some time to tell you guys how everything went! poe (newark) was really easy: the only thing asked me was "when are you getting married" - other than that, there was just lots of waiting in line

theres really not much else to tell you about poe, because it was SO easy!! everyone was really nice to me - much nicer than each time i entered on ESTA and also much nicer than they were to everyone else in secondary..

the last few days here have been pretty busy - just getting new stuff for the house and unpacking, fighting cockroaches and then, of course, still the jetlag.

but i am very glad i am here now

keeping my fingers crossed for each one of you!!!! i know everyone says this, but it really IS worth it!

So happy things are going well for you!!! )