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Exit Tax?!! Why not? They tax the dead.

Oh If ONLY I had that sort of money to play the games these people play.

I read all about that ITIN a few days ago and saw a youtube of it too. That's quite the "understanding" going on between government IRS and illegals.

You say your MIL is not taking advantage of the situation and you want to do everything within the law. Really???

Let's look at the bottom line here

1. MIL comes here on a tourist visa and overstays and now lives here.

2. MIL is now working here illegally.

3, IF MIL goes back to Costa Rica you and your wife can't afford schooling so it sounds like she is giving you what little she earns to keep you and your wife going. She is living with her employers so has room and board provided for herself with them so she can afford to give you what little she does earn.

Yeah I can see why you want to keep the family together. If she goes back to Costa Rica you're out wages. That would be inconvenient.

Good heavens. Can't you see it's illegals who make it so difficult for the legals? Then everyone complains about the system taking so long.

I have nothing positive to add to this thread nor any solution or easy fix for the OP.

If this gets me thread banned then so be it.

Good luck. You're going to need it!!

Present is correct.

Thank you nwctzn. I have provided all the requested information. If they ask me stuff that's on the N-400 forms I'll tell them I wrote it in the forms so I wouldn't have to remember it.

It's enough information to absorb to get through my civics questions. I have those memorised now. I just hope I get the interview before I forget them again. Although I do study them every day I hope I don't overstudy them right out of my brain.

I'm afraid I don't know how to start a poll. I'm techno challenged.

Aren't such threads closed?

Oh and BTW....I also know what verboten means. Should we take a poll to see if it's really 15% or 85%?

Pooky OMG you hurt my eyes!!!

That's too funny. I can relate to that and I sympathize with him.

I'm from tropical Australia, have been here for more than 12 years and I'm only just starting to go outside after our long winter.The snow has finally melted so I may even go out and collect our mail today. One of our neighbour's asked my husband when I was coming back from Australia. He said I didn't go anywhere but I was inside the house all winter. He told them they should start seeing me in the next couple of weeks.

The snow was a novelty 6 years ago when we first moved here and I even made a snowman. It turned out to be a 5 foot high Koala which I called Snowala. It made the local newspaper. I haven't made any snowmen since then.

Of course he is, he signed on the line. As did every petitioner.

I wish everyone understood that. Maybe the OP does, I'm not talking specifically.

There is no 'in light of what happened' clause, unfortunately.

That's kind of tough but how it is I suppose. I didn't know all the "rules" Too bad though cause I believe it's immigration fraud although it can't be proven.

I suppose the moral to stories like this is "Be sure of who you are marrying"

Yes, I hope the OP moves on and learns from this experience.

Thanks Anh map, I thought I had read in other threads about I-864 having been withdrawn but I guess not. Must have been different circumstances.

That's too bad for the guy.

Surely he won't still be financially responsible for her after the divorce though in light of what's happened especially if she's with someone else? Should be victim #2 who is responsible for her now.

Don't mean to hijack this thread but it's pertaining to similar information.

In my case I've waited for some 8 years since I got my 10 yr unconditional green card to go for citizenship. I just didn't see the need for any hurry to get it sooner as long as I'm living here legally. I have 2+ years remaining on my 10 yr green card and am now going through same N-400 process.

There is no way I can remember exactly when I entered the US or other dates which pertained to acquiring my green card all those years ago.

I can give and have given on N-400 forms all the information on all my trips outside the US since becoming an LPR.

If they ask questions which go back more than 5 or 6 years to do with original green card process they may have to do a brain scan to extract the information as I just don't remember.

I did complete the necessary N-400 forms and supplied all the necessary documentation so have submitted the correect package with all the necessary information. Have been for bio and just waiting on interview notification/appointment.

Do you think I should undergo hypnosis in the hope of tracking down information from 10+ years ago?

I see that most people will get their citizenship at either 3 or 5 years from entering the US. Has anyone EVER just dawdled with citizenship process or renewed a 10 year green card? I've never read about anyone actually renewing a 10 year green card.

Just wondering.

I'm sorry if I don't understand too much about the actual green card process as mine was done many years ago so I don't know how it all works now but isn't there some way this guy can withdraw his I-864 affidavit of support? He doesn't want to have to be responsible for her anymore if he's getting divorced. She's already taken him for his tax return without his signature and who knows whatever else - not to mention had him reported to the police a number of times to suit her own agenda (I believe him). I've read other forums of people withdrawing the I-864. Why can't he?

Just asking.

I can't believe so many people are telling the OP to go to marriage counseling. That only works when BOTH parties want the marriage to work. Clearly the guy in this partnership does not wish to stay married any more!

This isn't just a rough spot in a marriage or a few marital problems that can be ironed out.

The guy doesn't want to be married anymore. Sad but true! He's too young to be married and know what he wants. He just enjoys the chase and will continue to be an internet predator.

You asked in your thread title if you should give up or fight for him.

Who are you going to fight?? HIM??? You can't fight him for HIMSELF!!

You are NOT fighting another woman for him. You WOULD be trying to fight HIM. He's already said he doesn't want you anymore. Sad and hurtful words to be sure but it is what it is. You should move on while you are still young and have your whole life in front of you.

Try looking ahead a few years and see where you really want to be. You sound intelligent and have ambitions. Surely you don't want your future to include a spouse who is untrustworthy and unreliable. Surely you would want a real man who will stand by you through thick and thin. A man who doesn't have to have his laptop snooped though to check on him. Sounds nice doesn't it to have such a man?! Sorry to say this isn't him. Get rid of the kid you married, continue with your schooling and your ambitions and move on with your life. You are young and will get over it. There are plenty or men more worthy of you than this kid.

It sounds to me like the original poster does NOT want to go back to her own country. When she said "I don't want to leave" I believe she was referring to wanting to stay in the US. Not that she didn't want to leave him. I do believe she wants out of the relationship as it is indeed making her sick to the point of suicidal thoughts.

Kris, PLEASE NEVER NEVER go down that road. Depression is a serious thing. You must leave the relationship before he totally destroys you.

You mentioned you have friends who he won't let you talk to. As someone else suggested, when he isn't home sometime call those people and see if they will take you in for a while. As previously stated take everything that is valuable to you (especially all your paperwork and passport).

DO NOT tell him where you are going. Once you leave the house never go back and have no contact with him at all. When you feel up to it seek out professional help by way of women's abuse shelters. They will help you in all aspects of getting out of the relationship without having to deal with his controlling and abusive inflictions upon you. They will help you get a divorce and even help you get a job and start a new life.

You have your green card so you can get a job. WHen he's not around start looking for a job but NEVER tell him of your plans to do so.

Get away from him as quickly as possible. RUN don't walk to either your nearest women's abuse center or to a friend's house.

Don't let him kill you. Pick yourself up and leave.

Take care and hang in there.

What's the rush? You got an appointment or something?

BrittandDan, such a sad story but she is blessed that you took her in and gave her a loving home. She looks like she might have "some" pitbull in her but not much. Who cares. She's a dog and dogs are the purest form of unconditional love. I hope she heals and has a happy and long life with you. Whatever age she lives to, know that you have given her love and that's all that matters. I hope her collar can come off soon. Blessings to you for taking her in. She will give you much joy.

NickD I can sympathize with your feeling like you were somewhat like cattle being processed but in defense of the USCIS if they were to stop and meet and greet every family who walked through their doors the wait would be much longer than it already is for everyone. They are not there to make friends. They are there to process the interviews as quickly and efficiently as possible. Having said that, however, I do agree that some of the interviewers' "tactical medthods" leave a bit to be desired.

My letter came 12 days before my biometrics date.

I will take my husband so he can drive the 2 and a half hours to get there then I will let him take me to lunch afterwards....well, that's assuming I have a morning interview otherwise he can take me to dinner. He knows he will have to wait in the waiting room and doesn't mind that. If they won't allow him to wait inside the waiting room (in case it's crowded) while I'm being interviewed then he's prepared to wait outside the offices but still inside the building. We know the drill.

Still makes me laugh

Oops I already said that didn't I.

How many of you here have seen the movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding"? Well I LIVED IT!!

OK so we didn't get married in the Greek church and we didn't baptise my husband in the little swimming pool in the Greek Church we still took him to the church.

I was born and raised in Australia but all my family are Greek. I'm first generation Australian on my father's side and second generation Australian on my mother's side so dad was born in Greece and mum was born in Australia and her parents were born in Greece. When I took my American born husband to Australia to meet my big fat Greek family it was like living the movie. All my extended family came out to meet him at my parent's place in one weekend. My husband had a different person sitting in front of him every half hour for 2 days straight. He even started understanding the Greek language. We did nothing but eat eat and eat some more for weeks to follow. When we arrived there was a crowd of people to greet us at my parent's place and when I said "This is my husband" they all rushed him to kiss him all at one time. All this happened when the movie first came out and everyone asked us if we'd seen the movie. We said no so a few days after our arrival we went and watched the movie. OMG - my husband said if he had seen the movie before he married me he never would have married me. So much that happened in the movie happened to us in real life. Sitting down to dinner one night my mother asked my husband if he had enough to eat and when he said "Thank you - no more, I've had plenty" she said "OK I'll get you something". As he met my cousins he thought it was great that all the girls were named Ann or some variation of it like Marianne or Dianne and all the boys were named Brett or Victor which is the same translated into Greek. I think it would have been harder for us if the movie hadn't softened the blow for us as I was first in a long line of Australian/Greeks to marry outside of our culture at the time. I came home with a xeno. The movie made life easier for everyone to not only accept but embrace my xeno husband. We suddenly felt like and were being treated like celebrities.

Not to make light of your situation but just lightening the mood with my story here. I think after your family meet your husband and sees your happiness they will eventually come around. In the meantime they are just cooling their heels waiting to see how he treats you. They will come around in time. Suggest you don't talk about sex, politics or religion.

Oh OK I understand now. I didn't fill in the forms so I didn't get that far.

We'll look into that again when we are ready for that process.

Thank you.

I just went to the website and found the application online so it's still available online. Cost $60 for expedited card. I didn't fill it in yet but if it's still available when we're ready we'll do it that way for my husband. Unless the website is outdated and the application cancels out when you start to fill it in perhaps? I don't know cause I didn't fill it in but it was there.

OP has people in the states and that's why he wants to come here cause they can offset his expenses but again I say I wouldn't mention weight loss as a reason for coming here. As others have noted the USA isn't the healthiest country to visit to lose weight. It's a pretty feeble excuse for visiting here. I still say you're better off just applying for tourist visa and mentioning visiting friends and/or family as reason for coming here. Don't emphasize weight loss reason cause I really don't think it will fly with officials and it could possibly even cause denial of visa.