I am frustrated with the constant (posted) stereotypes, male chauvinism, abusive sexism and regular insults...thrown at Filipino women and culture.
IMO and my observation...There are not many men (relatively speaking) that seek and marry a Filipina following "western" relationship equality guidelines (so to speak). "It's a man's world" is the dominate mentality amongst (many but not all) men in Fil-Am relationships. That is (often but not always) why we see posts stating.."my Pinay" or .."my Filipina". (at 46 years old I have never heard an American..man or woman...refer to their spouse as...my American)
I refer to these (most but not all) men as "predators". They go to PI hunting a product.
One VJ poster often refers to Filipino women as "units" (even typing the statement makes my blood pressure rise). Not woman...lady...girl...or even female. Nope...he chooses .."unit". Tell me..is he thinking product or person?
Another will state..."having been married to 3 Filipinas...(get this) I KNOW THEM NOW AND HOW THE FILIPINA THINKS." (I don't think it's a good idea to take advice from a 3 time loser. Common denominator? The 3 time loser.)
Another poster..."believe me...I've been around the Filipina and I know how they can be." (Have I lost something in translation? Isn't this a blatant stereotype comment made by a racist?)
(I can quote many more examples but 3 is good for now.)
My question...what's the motivator? The root or roots of these offenses?
Asian Flu? Yellow Fever? Olongapo? AC? (The lure is cast and the fish bite?)
(is it) "Age doesn't matter in PI...? (I welcome stories about Pinay / Pinoy marriages with large (20+ years) age gaps...any1? any1?)
(could it be) Kano's rejected and burn out with failed "western" relationships having no confidence but the (often very few) Dollars they have in their pocket used to purchase a (better future) wife from a hopelessly impoverished family "gifting" away a breadwinner for a better tomorrow?
Thank you for reading. Any and all feedback is very welcome.
Thank you! I had the same disgusted feeling but was unable to articulate it as well as you have.
When one guy was dumped by a Filipino woman, one of the posts in response said, "Just go sit at an open air cafe, and you'll find another ONE in no time."
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As if a woman were nothing more than a used car - interchangeable and disposable. And the poster was treated as if he (and all other American men wanting to marry Filipinos) were God's gift to women.
