minicyni

get off her case, gary, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all, dang, you're so evil, don't you have anything better to do then monitor who writes what and play "inspector gadget" on here. geez

and I am wondering. aren't we suppose to help people & not judge them? I feel like, that's what you are all doing right now ...
OP, you have 3 options:
1) talk with your husband about everything and maybe he's willing to change so you can make it work
2) go to his squadron commander. they will help you for sure!!! this will have serious consequences for him.
3) leave him, go back to Russia & start a new life
good luck on whatever you decide!

If you use it right it can work. You have to put words one by one, like who+did what+... You can also check spelling on a computer. Or look at the dictionary if not sure how to spell. I'm already in a bottom of the hole, and I'm not digging, I'm just asking for advice. If you don't wanna help why are you here? So I sound too perfect to you? Guess what, I just came here, had my child, cooked, cleaned, learned English and tried to be a good wife. And trusted my husband as long as I could, until everybody started telling me what it could be like if he was more responsible. Yes, why are you here?

Of course because my husband isn't home, he is dating, I told you. Why is that hard to believe? He bought me a computer, it's nice of him, I never said he is a bad person, I said that he does these things and it doesn't help me to get my papers done. What's wrong with people having their bad side and a good side? My husband loved me, he sent me $400 every month when I was pregnant in Russia. Then things changed, he didn't like me anymore and started cheating. What's wrong with this logic? When I was in Russia we talked online, but come on it's different when you write and when you speak. Even at school we had English class but nobody could speak or understand. They don't teach that, it's another level. You learn faster around native speakers.

Being a soldier and risking his life doesn't excuse abuse. Of course people are advising off her side of the story, what else would they do? That is the case for every single post here. Posters have to assume what is being said is true in order to give advice. I'm not sure where your hostility is coming from in calling her out as ridiculous and horrible based on ... the idea that she COULD be lying? We all could be, you included. But unless her spouse comes here to defend himself we will have to assume what she says is true. And it does read like a classic abusive relationship.

Because the husband is in the military he deserves more leeway? No sale. Take half of what's been told as the actual truth and the husband is not acting like a decent person.

I havent been to my appointment yet but I am staying at La Quinta. I have had a friend stay there and recommended it. They charge you $10 less a night if you use the code HOMEDL. Its is 7 mins away from the embassy and have fridge and microwave for leftover food hope it helps