Traviesa

I am starting a Christian weight loss class tonight. I'm wondering what about this particular weight loss makes it Christian...

Traviesa used to be Miss Liss....

And in the middle I was Heina!

My story (quick version)-

Engaged to illegal Mexican

K-1 interview for Mexican failed (mistake-not ours)

Married Mexican

Filed I-130 for Mexican

Got to the NVC and realized I didn't want to go any farther so we decided to divorce

Met illegal Guatemalan and starting dating one year ago

Had my divorce hearing last Wednesday finally

That's it!

Hmm 4th of July is what I was just discussing w Charity. So not sure yet. Hopefully I could convince E to meet my parents-they have a cookout at their house every year and I've never not been there but I also couldn't imagine not spending the day with him. We always also go to the park for the concerts and fireworks but if I can't bring him I might have to look for some other fireworks I could see with him or just go without him...

Actually the correct form would be "What's the sweetest thing your pet has ever done for you??"

Thanks! I guess he's afraid since we haven't told them anything yet. He wants me to have told them about him beforehand. And I'm a little worried about that too-this is the first time I ever kept a boyfriend hidden. But I realized that you know once you're out of high school you're not exactly obligated to bring every single boyfriend home for mom and dad approval. Also I decided that I would just say I didn't feel it was appropriate to bring him around until the divorce actually occurred. I'm still worried about the whole infidelity aspect of it, which you can tell them all you want that both me and Javier agreed to do it this way, but to them it would still be "wrong."

Yeah, I understand that. Well hopefully they'll be open minded enough to accept him. You're exactly right, you don't have to take every bf home to meet the parents. As far as I'm concerned that should be left for the one you feel is the right one. So maybe you could explain that to them. I know it's hard for you to talk to your parents anyway. I think they'll be happy you have found someone else to make you happy. I'm sure, as parents, your happiness is very important to them. It'll all work out in the end.

It will definitely be interesting since this one doesn't really speak English. LOL!

Thanks! I guess he's afraid since we haven't told them anything yet. He wants me to have told them about him beforehand. And I'm a little worried about that too-this is the first time I ever kept a boyfriend hidden. But I realized that you know once you're out of high school you're not exactly obligated to bring every single boyfriend home for mom and dad approval. Also I decided that I would just say I didn't feel it was appropriate to bring him around until the divorce actually occurred. I'm still worried about the whole infidelity aspect of it, which you can tell them all you want that both me and Javier agreed to do it this way, but to them it would still be "wrong."

Good morning. Today really needs to get better soon!

What's up? My day is going ok so far. I can see it dragging though because there is no one in my office today. Just a couple of us so there is nothing to do. Plus, mom rode to work with me and you know how I feel about that.

I will be extremely busy today and tomorrow because when everyone else slacks to get their work done, I'm the one who gets piled on at the end. I'm disappointed because I thought Friday would be the perfect time for Edwin to meet my parents but now it looks like he's not ready to do that yet.

Good morning. Today really needs to get better soon!

Well my OB/GYN referred me to the RE (reproductive endocrinologist). I was at a fertility center. And for whatever reason she said they don't prescribe it for PCOS very often anymore. What I have to do is get all these tests done plus a hysterosalpingogram (fun word). And start taking vitamins, lose weight and then whenever I would start TTC which may be sometime next year they will use Clomid.

that sucks. good luck on the weight loss! I know its easier said than done, but if you ever need a push to exercise I'm the exercise nazi of the say anything thread so I will give you a push

thanks I will be needing that I'm sure!!

Well my OB/GYN referred me to the RE (reproductive endocrinologist). I was at a fertility center. And for whatever reason she said they don't prescribe it for PCOS very often anymore. What I have to do is get all these tests done plus a hysterosalpingogram (fun word). And start taking vitamins, lose weight and then whenever I would start TTC which may be sometime next year they will use Clomid.

I could say much more but I said I would stop so I have to keep my mouth shut. I can't believe I was called ignorant! Of all people to be called ignorant. I think I know a thing or 2 about that subject.

Yeah, well you just have to realize it's ignorance from them. We won't get into it on here but you know what I've always said about that group. Anyway, I'm done with it too. I gotta go exercise in about 15 minutes anyhow. They can argue amongst themselves because in my opinion they are reading way further into posts than they need too.

Happy exercising. I'll be doing probably excessive amounts of that soon since the dr. wouldn't prescribe me metformin yet somehow expects me to lose 10% of my body weight.

what do you need that for? I take it for PCOS, but it's a diabetes medication. It didn't make me lose weight, but I didn't have any weight I needed to lose either.

PCOS. I went for the first time to a RE today just for the purpose of getting on met. She told me they rarely ever prescribe it anymore for PCOS. I was really disappointed. But the thing is, when I first got PCOS I was 120 lbs and very athletic. So I don't even really think it's weight related for me except that it made me gain a ton of weight over the course of about 5 years.

I could say much more but I said I would stop so I have to keep my mouth shut. I can't believe I was called ignorant! Of all people to be called ignorant. I think I know a thing or 2 about that subject.

Yeah, well you just have to realize it's ignorance from them. We won't get into it on here but you know what I've always said about that group. Anyway, I'm done with it too. I gotta go exercise in about 15 minutes anyhow. They can argue amongst themselves because in my opinion they are reading way further into posts than they need too.

Happy exercising. I'll be doing probably excessive amounts of that soon since the dr. wouldn't prescribe me metformin yet somehow expects me to lose 10% of my body weight.

I could say much more but I said I would stop so I have to keep my mouth shut. I can't believe I was called ignorant! Of all people to be called ignorant. I think I know a thing or 2 about that subject.

Wow I never thought the day would come when I would come to VJ for some friendliness. But it did. LOL-Charity are you here?

This is kind of on topic and it's a real-life example I've seen and it makes me so sad. The guy I'm seeing lives about 5 minutes outside of Baltimore. (Baltimore and DC are very similar-I'm actually more scared in Baltimore than in DC). He lives in a little housing development. They aren't nice houses by any means but they're not crappy houses either. Well across the street and one house down from him is a crack house. The sad thing is it didn't take me very long at all to figure that out. The sadder thing is that there is a handful of kids who come and go from that house-school bus stops there every day. Sometimes I sit and think about the day when one will be caught in a drive-by, or the day when the house is raided and the kids are traumatized for life. What's the best outlook for these kids? If they survive, following in their parents' footsteps? This is not even inside the city. That's the kind of situation we're dealing with in MD suburbs.

Bethesda is nice!

I have only been to Bethesda once-we went to an English pub. And it wasn't bad!

MD has many very nice suburbs. Of course, they tend to be very expensive.

Bowie used to be nice. That's where I grew up. Now they have had to form their own police department. Of course there are nice places-there are nice places everywhere-even in DC. Most of the higher-end clients at the catering company I work for live inside the city.

This is kind of on topic and it's a real-life example I've seen and it makes me so sad. The guy I'm seeing lives about 5 minutes outside of Baltimore. (Baltimore and DC are very similar-I'm actually more scared in Baltimore than in DC). He lives in a little housing development. They aren't nice houses by any means but they're not crappy houses either. Well across the street and one house down from him is a crack house. The sad thing is it didn't take me very long at all to figure that out. The sadder thing is that there is a handful of kids who come and go from that house-school bus stops there every day. Sometimes I sit and think about the day when one will be caught in a drive-by, or the day when the house is raided and the kids are traumatized for life. What's the best outlook for these kids? If they survive, following in their parents' footsteps? This is not even inside the city. That's the kind of situation we're dealing with in MD suburbs.

Bethesda is nice!

I have only been to Bethesda once-we went to an English pub. And it wasn't bad!

Unfortunately I live on the edge of a bad neighbourhood here in VA and I sure hope someone figures out what to do and then brings that solution down here. I have no suggestions of what would work, but I can see the Mayor of DC recognizes this is a short term solution and I am guessing until someone comes up with a better plan they will stick with what they have and see if it works.

I'd imagine DC can't very well solve this problem by itself. The immediate surrounding area is depressed too isn't it?

Yes, suburbs of DC suck.

If you ask me what is being done is all that can be done, there really is no other way to make an area where 8 people were killed safe other than try to regulate who goes in and out and making sure they have good reasons to be there. We enjoy our freedom and we enjoy not being burdened with the need to explain ourselves to to the police but those same people complaining about the hassle would also be complaining if their child or loved one was hit with a stray bullet and died. What is it they expect to happen? What else could be done?

I can only speak for myself, but I wouldn't be going places where things like that happen. If someone chooses to do so, then that's obviously a risk they're willing to take and I don't really think it's anyone's problem what happens to them. What are they going to do with the bad guys? Kick them out of one neighborhood so they'll go take over another? What exactly is the point in that? Just because you seal off one neighborhood, or even 10 neighborhoods, doesn't get rid of the bad guys. They will always be there to shoot someone else's children. But...I guess we only care about the children in this neighborhood. I just don't get it. It makes no sense whatsoever.

What about the innocent people who live there. It's not always as easy as packing up and moving to a nicer part of town. There are certain sections of DC known for violence and they also tend to be the same areas with cheaper housing. Moving from one poor part of DC to another with crime isn't going to exactly change these peoples' way of life.

Exactly, while crime is a part of any major city when you have 8 people killed in a weekend I am sorry but that requires some type or extreme measures to be taken. No one should feel as if they are a prisoner in there own house. Im not saying they only care about the children in that neighborhood but its pretty clear those neighborhoods have a bit more problems than the average area. And they arent sealing it off, just trying to make sure that the people going in there dont have the intention of doing illegal things or hurting someone. What makes no sense to me is the business owners thinking that the road blocks will have a negative effect on their sales, I wouldnt go into those neighborhoods just for the fact that 8 people were killed in one weekend there, to be honest I would feel safer knowing that atleast the police are trying. DC has come a long ways since the 80's and when I lived there 8 years ago there were places i would not go for anything still but it wasnt a feeling of everywhere I went I was in danger. If the police do happen to get the right car or the right people that are referred to as "bad guys" and they have illegal drugs (main driving force in crimes such as these no matter if it is a sale gone bad, a turf war, or just plain robbery for the money) or illegal guns the minimum mandatory sentence for some of those is atleast enough to take them off the streets all together for 5 -7 years. They can take over a prison neighborhood if they desire to do so but these innocent people who are trapped in this violence are really just that, trapped.

That's an excellent point, which didn't occur to me. Hopefully they will be that successful.

It does seem to be yet another example of blunt (treat the symptoms rather than the cause) thinking.

Heavy enforcement doesn't alter the causative factors of high crime. Something you'd think would be realised by now...

That's pretty much what I was trying to say. It's the way we do things. Another fine example is illegal immigration. That's a whole other topic though.

If you ask me what is being done is all that can be done, there really is no other way to make an area where 8 people were killed safe other than try to regulate who goes in and out and making sure they have good reasons to be there. We enjoy our freedom and we enjoy not being burdened with the need to explain ourselves to to the police but those same people complaining about the hassle would also be complaining if their child or loved one was hit with a stray bullet and died. What is it they expect to happen? What else could be done?

I can only speak for myself, but I wouldn't be going places where things like that happen. If someone chooses to do so, then that's obviously a risk they're willing to take and I don't really think it's anyone's problem what happens to them. What are they going to do with the bad guys? Kick them out of one neighborhood so they'll go take over another? What exactly is the point in that? Just because you seal off one neighborhood, or even 10 neighborhoods, doesn't get rid of the bad guys. They will always be there to shoot someone else's children. But...I guess we only care about the children in this neighborhood. I just don't get it. It makes no sense whatsoever.

What about the innocent people who live there. It's not always as easy as packing up and moving to a nicer part of town. There are certain sections of DC known for violence and they also tend to be the same areas with cheaper housing. Moving from one poor part of DC to another with crime isn't going to exactly change these peoples' way of life.

I didn't mean to make it sound like I don't feel sorry for them. I could go on forever about how government programs for low-income families hurt the very people they're "intended" to help and how there's a cycle in place that's breeding "bad guys." But the simple answer is that there will always be low-income areas, there will always be bad guys in these areas. It's unfortunate, but it's the way things are. If you kick them out of DC, they will move to other areas until eventually they're in the neighborhoods which are now maybe still liveable. I've lived in PG County my whole life and have watched its steady decline. Just wait until we get all of DC's garbage on top of that.

If you ask me what is being done is all that can be done, there really is no other way to make an area where 8 people were killed safe other than try to regulate who goes in and out and making sure they have good reasons to be there. We enjoy our freedom and we enjoy not being burdened with the need to explain ourselves to to the police but those same people complaining about the hassle would also be complaining if their child or loved one was hit with a stray bullet and died. What is it they expect to happen? What else could be done?

I can only speak for myself, but I wouldn't be going places where things like that happen. If someone chooses to do so, then that's obviously a risk they're willing to take and I don't really think it's anyone's problem what happens to them. What are they going to do with the bad guys? Kick them out of one neighborhood so they'll go take over another? What exactly is the point in that? Just because you seal off one neighborhood, or even 10 neighborhoods, doesn't get rid of the bad guys. They will always be there to shoot someone else's children. But...I guess we only care about the children in this neighborhood. I just don't get it. It makes no sense whatsoever.

They were talking about this on the radio this morning. And I agree with what they said that something should be done, but this isn't it. There were concerns expressed over local businesses losing customers because basically they're not planning on letting people in if you don't have a good enough reason.

Cool cop, no doubt.

I would have no problem with someone driving without a license as long as they were somehow insured in case they got in an accident. If I get hit by someone who isn't insured, I would do everything I could to make sure they paid out their a$$ for being irresponsible. No doubt your intentions are good though...just make sure if you drive without a license that you're covered if you get in an accident.

I'm going to show my ignorance here because I'm not a driver, but how does one get insured without a license?

It's the vehicle that would be insured, not the person. However, I don't think insurance covers an unlicensed driver.

I think I pi$$ed someone off earlier today. I didn't mean to do it and it wasn't my intentions. It's just sometimes this person takes things a little too seriously. You think I should care? Or do you think they just had their feelings on their sleeves?

I hate having to walk on eggshells. They'll get over it. Or they won't. Either way, does it really matter??

anyone use something other than an anti-itch cream for mosquito bites? I somehow got 6 in my sleep!

I don't know if this actually works or just in my mind...I like to use hydrogen peroxide to dry them out. Stops them from itching.