MIBEN

I never sent them any originals but my husband had the original at the interview and yes they asked for it.

I never sent them any originals but my husband had the original at the interview and yes they asked for it.

I agree MENA men are very sociable with each other as they are brought up to do alot of bonding time with men not women. If anything bothers you, speak on it. It does not have to be an attack but perhaps bring it up in conversation and say what your expectations are, no harm done. Tarik and I have been married 19 months and he was not a social butterfly in Morocco and he is not one now. He hates smoke so the coffe shops were never a common hanging spot for him, he visited the cyber only when his PC was in repair. He was very active in education, fitness, and religion, and his job at the gym and security business. He continues to study, he never gets enough and carries a notebook to take notes and is always learning new words. He is studying at night, he goes to the gym with me and the boys. He is looking for work as well, unfortunately it has not happened but I encourage him to not get frustrated when it is right he will find a job. He is a home body as well but at times he gets bored as I work alot and he goes for walks with the dog and we do the usual dinners as a family, movies, the mall, take up shows, now he is volunteering with a church group and we finally found a wonderful church. He has starting taking care of things in the home, he repaired some shoes for me, he knows all about doing the yard, he attempts to schedule the maitenance in the home and he is just very helpful. The cooking lessons are coming. He does not seek out friendship with others, we are very close actually alot of things he does with us at home he has never done in front of others. At times we find ourselves dancing, he even raps to me in Arabic, he sings, and is always joking those are things he does not do around anyone not even his immediate family. I am very blessed, to have found Tarik he is a wonderful man.

If you do not agree with something communication does wonders, my dad used to say, "he who does not speak, God cannot hear."

Good luck,

You need to print the entire conversations that are substantive, prepare like you are going before a federal judge. Good luck!

I agree with 4ever mine, it has to be substantive to support what you have said all along. Hints I found useful from other members, don't give them any chats where you fight especially not about religion. Another red flag is professing love too early so we did not provide anything conversations where we spoke about relationship or complimented each other, we kept those to ourselves. I did however, give them a copy of the email when we decided to become engaged. It had been about 6 months into our courtship. I am sure like most conversations are very extensive so I chose some that had substance and we cut them off did not submit the entire conversation just those that lended themselved to proving a bonafide relationship. If you speak to him in any language other than English make sure it is translated to English, yes I know someone who gave them all the chats in another language. Include chats where where you spoke to his family. This was something the CO focused on with my husband's second interview. He kept asking if I got along with the family. I gave them pics I took during EID and the other visits I made with the immediate and extended family. I chose to establish a relationship with his sister and mom outside of him and I gave them emails where we conversed. They took a liking to my husband's cat and most would think who cares but it was the ice breaker the CO with the beard was laughing and asking about the cat. My kids also spoke to my husband when I was not home so I provided a few of those chats as well..

Good Luck, I completely understand the frustrations doing the chats is a process in itself....

I am refering to citizen in general terms, not a USC there is a difference it is legal talk. Regardless of opinion that is not what happened, he is here legal or not he has a family and has legal representation and did not get deported, ICE did not take him into custody they signed him over to the attorney.

Everyone has a right to their opinion, Lord knows I served this nation's military for 22 years to give other the right to an opinion. Some may not agree but it is what it is...

Unfortunately, I was there when he went to both the intitial interview and the follow on interview after 14 days. He told us that one CO called him back for a second interview and the one with the beard that interviewed him on the first interview stopped the second interview and told the CO he had already decided the marriage was not bonafide because she had only visited once during their marriage. They just did not like him I suppose, he only spoke Spanish not English therefore they had to get a translator because he did not want to interview in Arabic. He thought if he interviewed in Spanish it would validate that they could communicate since she is originally from Puerto Rico. He did get asked several times why she never came back to visit if they had been together since Nov 08 and married March 10.

I suppose I my intent was not that they got denied but to state their is a need for family support groups. In Morocco that is a red flag, only one visit that resulted in marriage.

I know because of the high fraud rate in Morocco the CO's are not as user friendly.

No the tail light was not broken, they had just purchased the vehicle from a dealership only two days before they pulled him over.

An update on the case he,was transferred to the county jail, his wife posted bail and he was released today at 5:00 p.m. ICE was there when they posted bail and they handed him over to his attorney with the agreement that his wife secured the attorney's services and all necessary paperwork will be processed through USCIS etc... The attorney will fight to get the only charge he got for SSN fraud dropped because he has had the card all these years and never used it. It was his first offense and has been a law abiding citizen, is married to an American citizen and has a child with special needs.

They dropped the no license charge since he could not renew it as a result of his expired status. There is a light at the end of the tunnel for them.

Point to consider, if you claim to be the father now don't you have to prove by DNA that you are the father so that she can get her citizenship. I am assuming you are the USC. Sounds like you need an attorney, the easy part is changing the birth certificate in her country. The hard part will be changing her status. Wish I was of any help but claiming to be her father now and then not being able to prove it may compromise the entire process you just went through. I would not lie and put your name on the birth certificate know you are not the father. Could this potentially can be viewed negatively if she ever chooses to become a USC?

Good Luck,

Initially this is what I thought that he would still be turned over to immigration but the lawyer is trying to convince her to post bail before he gets transfered from the city jail to the county jail. According to the lawyer, the county jail does not hold them for the same reasons as the city jail. Thanks for your input.

Initially this is what I thought that he would still be turned over to immigration but the lawyer is trying to convince her to post bail before he gets transfered from the city jail to the county jail. According to the lawyer, the county jail does not hold them for the same reasons as the city jail. Thanks for your input.

Thank you for moving it, was not sure where to post it.

I hope you hear something soon, I completely can empathize with the challenges our loved ones go through to get to Casa. My husband was called for his second interview the day Ramadan started, there were no buses running to Casablanca that morning only buses coming out to the countryside and smaller cities. He ended up riding in a cattle truck to Rabat then taking the train to Casa just to make it to his interview. He left home at 4:00 am and got to Casa at 1:00 p.m. he had to be there at 3:00 pm. He called me after the interview and I was so happy we got approved that I told him to take his sweet time going back home. I was just so relieved to know he would come to me in a few days.

Hope you hear something soon...

I need some input from the VJ members. I got a call from my bestfriend today, her husband was stopped last night for a busted tail light. The vehicle he was driving is brand new just bought it on Tuesday. So she thinks he was pulled over for discriminatory reasons. Turns out he did not have a valid drivers license or a current greencard. In the process of changing out things from his old vehicle to his new vehicle he had a jacket on him with an old wallet in it. Apparently, back in early 2000s before they got married he was using a fake SS card. Once he got married, he eventually started the immigration process and was here legally. He got a valid SSN but he let his status expire. He never got rid of the fake card, and as luck would have it the card was in the old wallet in the jacket. He was taken in for the traffic violations but held primarily for the SS fraud and the fact that once his greencard expired he never removed the conditional residence status.

She wants to post bail but there is still no guarantee he will be release because he is currently on an immigration hold. So my question, if she pays for bail can she get him out? The immigration lawyer she is talking to is guaranteeing her that if she retains his services he can get him out and keep from getting deported. Now after being on VJ a while I have never heard of an attorney having any said authority when it comes to immigration issues.

Does the 10 year ban apply since he did not do the paper work to remove the condition on his CR1? It is his first offense and she is being told by the lawyer he will not be held but cannot guarantee he will not be deported if she does not bail him out. They have been married since 2001-2002 timeframe and they have a child together. Does he even have a fighting chance to ask for a waiver?

I would normally be able to think things through and give her feedback but being that is happening to someone so close to me I am not thinking very clearly.

Thanks,

Just thought I would mention that I don't need help with child care, was hoping to get a pulse in what people go through. I see the post has been read but no one commented, made me wonder if people are reserved in commenting because they may be afraid they will be volunteered.

Just thought I would mention that I don't need help with child care, was hoping to get a pulse in what people go through. I see the post has been read but no one commented, made me wonder if people are reserved in commenting because they may be afraid they will be volunteered.

I have been on VJ for several months and I have read over and over again, "I cannot visit my husband/fiance etc. because I do not have reliable child care." It would be nice to see people come together and by city, state, or region make friendship/bonds/relationships that could lend themselves to assisting with taking care of children for short periods of time to allow single mothers opportunities to visit their loved ones.

I am not by any means saying leave your children with unknown personnel, but can relationships be fostered in your area for personnel in need and anyone who is willing to give there time to assist.

Example at hand, I met a young man who was a friend of my husband (I met him on all three trips) and his visa was denied because his wife was not able to come see him from the time they married to the time he interviewed. The CO told him why has she not returned to see you? In their case, she made enough money but had no assistance with her three children while she left the area for 8-10 days. They are now going through the entire process again. In that case, it was the summer time and I expressed to my husband I would not mind meeting her and forging a relationship and assisting them but it was just heartbreaking that she had no family support.

Food for thought....

When you go for the physical the doctor will tell you if you need any additional immunizations.

Go to US Department of State website and put reentry permit in the search engine, this is the link but most times vj takes out links http://travel.state.gov/visa/immigrants/info/info_1333.html

Key to remember is that you have to maintain residence in the US, the immigration can use discretion upon re-entry.

Good Luck,

I am so sorry, I will continue to keep you in prayer that you may both have the strength to go through this pain. You have each other, he is your husband regardless of their decisions and as soon as possible pay him a visit. I do not know your current situation, nor can I claim to know your pain but we are all here to lend support.

God Bless,

Mimi

I will keep you both in prayer, God Bless

MIBEN

Yes Guam is a US territory, if you are effectively now assigned to Guam you have to do a change of address and they will know that Guam can be her POE. I had the same thing just in the reverse order I was stationed in Puerto Rico and came to the US. After you do the change of address ensure you check the status to get any future correspondence and yes you can get married in Guam.

Good Luck

MIBEN

Call USCIS or whoever sent you the notice to remove condition and inform them of your previous action and that you have the 10 year card therefore there is not need for a removal of condition. You are correct when you had it corrected previously the department that issued the 10 year card did not notify the department that sends out the notice or they did not update the database they use. I would do it as soon as possible before the May deadline they are tracking. Or just email them and scan a copy of your documents (green card and letter you got previously stating you did not have to pay anything) and request that they update the record.

We checked the block as well but never heard anything so we went to the local office with the green card, his birth certificate original and translation, and his Moroccan ID. Our local office requested proof of residence (home title) and marriage certificate and they requested his card. We got the card in 10 days.

Should not be a problem I say call the office first and confirm what they require. We had to go twice, it will save you a trip.

Good luck,

Congratulations to you both, I know you are elated with joy. God bless you in the remainder of your visa journey.

MIBEN

I was in the military at the time of our journey and I changed my name on my military record and military ID. I happened to retire as well as move and updated my record none of which affected the process. I also changed my license to my married name but kept my state ID, SSN and passport under my maiden name until my husband got the visa. I made some changes but chose to keep some form of ID in my maiden name particularly SSN and passport.

To play it safe, I say stand fast and change everything after he arrives. I had to change my name officially to reflect my married name on my retirement documents so I was under a time crunch I took a chance as well.

By the way taking his name is a great honor and sign of respect my in-laws were ecstatic when they saw my military ID with their last name.

Good luck

It could happen that he gets interviewed there sounds logical but the only similar case I read ended up getting transferred to Casa. Living with him is good to establish proof of a bonafide relationship but for Morocco getting married after the first visit is a red flag. Do visas still get approved yes if you can prove strong legitimate relationship. This would include leasing together, sharing bank accounts and insurance policies, owning property together etc... My husband and I for example had a strong case and we were on administrative processing for two months before they issued the visa 13 months after applying. I don't mean to sound negative, just trying to be realistic. The process could be arduous.

Good luck,