Caryh

I am not sure why there is so much pressure to immediately sync together in harmony.
God it's hard enough to adjust with out adding pressure. I don't know how many times the bags were packed and fighting and emotions kicked in at first.
We were married and apart for over a year, and weeks after approval I had a heart attack, she had family member severe illness to deal with, and then suddenly move to a foreign country on top of her marrying a lifelong bachelor who really didn't know what to expect and who really didn't have a clue.
Welcome to America now be happy dammit.
Point is there HAS to be time to adjust and a plan and a vision. It is not about being happy in 2 weeks it is about a future vision and goals and baby steps along the way.
Real measurable goals that can give a feeling of independence and time getting to know each other all over again. Everyone needs space and understanding and patience.
I am in Columbus and this is the 15th largest city in the USA. There are networks and support and social circles for most people. No there is not a huge Asian concentrated community where one stop happiness stores line the tree lined boulevards.
I don't know every simple answer to tell you about being happy, I do know goals and results. She has a driver's license and her own car. She completed 32 hours community college ESL classes with 3.68 GPA, She has started prerequisites for masters degree and teaching certificate, she has worked a service job for a year after being a teacher for 8 years which in theory is a slap to anyone's face. But that leads to another better position, independence, sense of worth and contribution to society and not feeling trapped in a prison.
In the first 2 weeks I would have given us less than 50% odds to succeed but it's not about instant gratification it is about communication and support and just getting used to each other without the weight of the world on your head.
She sacrificed her whole life to be with you, but she is not shut off from her family and friends, if she can just find the way to try, it might be easier every day.

Your packet wasn't lost, your packet wasn't sent yet. We ran into the same thing. Many cases are taking over 30 days after NOA2 to get sent on to the NVC. After the NVC receives it, call daily asking if they have the case number assigned yet. Once the case number is assigned, you can pay for the interview, then get the date set. While you're waiting for the date to come, get her to her medical. You want to try to get that done early, so there is enough time for it to arrive at the embassy before her interview. Get the CFO out of the way to, so she just needs to get the stamp after she has her visa.
We did every thing we could to rush our case to. We wanted to be together after all. It worked out and all our tight timing worked out. But it was rather stressful trying to rush everything. BTW the 90 days starts counting when she enters the country. She had until February to actually fly here and our NOA2 was June 28th. But we did know many couples who did not get their visas in time for their hoped for flights. If I had it to do over again, I might not have tried to set the flight so close to the interview, we were pretty lucky ours made it in time. I'm pasting our NOA2 thru departure time line, maybe it will help you out in planning. Do not get an airline ticket you cannot change, because our time line is probably close to the fastest you can hope for. Like I mentioned, we knew others trying to do the same and it took them a couple weeks longer before visa was in hand.
I-129F NOA2 : 2011-06-28
NVC Received : 2011-07-28
NVC Left : 2011-08-01
Packet 4 Received : 2011-08-03
Interview Date : 2011-08-25
Interview Result : Approved
Visa Received : 2011-09-03
US Entry : 2011-09-08

Its this part that disturbs me the most. While it is silly to quit a job before you have a new one lined-up, I can sort of understand if something happened at work and he just snapped and walked-out without thinking the consequences through. But to turn down a job in this economy? That is not right. Your husband needs to man-up and wipe poop to support his family if that's what is needed.

A man should take care of business.

At this point, I wouldn't worry about it. in my situation the NOA2 expired on Nov 30th. the interview was scheduled before the expiration. the interview date was Dec 13th. the Embassy automatically revaildated the petition. if you are unable to schedule an interview date before the expiration, contact the Embassy and ask for the petition to be revalidted.

Your packet wasn't lost, your packet wasn't sent yet. We ran into the same thing. Many cases are taking over 30 days after NOA2 to get sent on to the NVC. After the NVC receives it, call daily asking if they have the case number assigned yet. Once the case number is assigned, you can pay for the interview, then get the date set. While you're waiting for the date to come, get her to her medical. You want to try to get that done early, so there is enough time for it to arrive at the embassy before her interview. Get the CFO out of the way to, so she just needs to get the stamp after she has her visa.
We did every thing we could to rush our case to. We wanted to be together after all. It worked out and all our tight timing worked out. But it was rather stressful trying to rush everything. BTW the 90 days starts counting when she enters the country. She had until February to actually fly here and our NOA2 was June 28th. But we did know many couples who did not get their visas in time for their hoped for flights. If I had it to do over again, I might not have tried to set the flight so close to the interview, we were pretty lucky ours made it in time. I'm pasting our NOA2 thru departure time line, maybe it will help you out in planning. Do not get an airline ticket you cannot change, because our time line is probably close to the fastest you can hope for. Like I mentioned, we knew others trying to do the same and it took them a couple weeks longer before visa was in hand.
I-129F NOA2 : 2011-06-28
NVC Received : 2011-07-28
NVC Left : 2011-08-01
Packet 4 Received : 2011-08-03
Interview Date : 2011-08-25
Interview Result : Approved
Visa Received : 2011-09-03
US Entry : 2011-09-08