I have read the OP's subsequent posts and say "cool, do you.." However, for the other posters here, I want to thank you for re-affirming the emotional experiences of other spouses who have been in the OP's husband's position. This community is sincerely a treasure for those who have few (including spouses) who truly empathize with what immigrants experience.
Thanks and keep sharing.
For the OP: I realize you are uptight (possibly understandably so)about seeming kinda unreasonable, but please be compassionate in how you approach the member from whom you solicit advice.
Cool breeze
Moy got a reaction from Amy and Michael in Waiting 2 years to file AOS