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    pluis got a reaction from Indykittykeilah in Any Dutch/American couples??   
    We'll likely be working with a company called Crown Relocations.
    They're pretty full service (pack stuff for you, unpack it later, handle all the paperwork at customs, etc.) and seem reasonably priced. They're also the one company that I contacted that called me back the same day.
    However, I recommend being very critical of what you'll bring. Shipping (even in 'groupage', which is likely what you'll do, unless you have enough to fill a 20ft or 40ft container all by yourselves) is pretty expensive and to may make financial sense to bring only mementos and highly personal stuff and just buy the rest in the US.
    Just to compare: we'll be shipping a maximum of 3 cubic metres of stuff, all boxed and ready. The price for that (minus possible additional cost if something gets delayed / there is a paperwork mess) is pretty close to € 2000. I've heard prices of well over € 10.000 for people who brought actual furniture, bikes and whatnot. You can buy a _lot_ of stuff for that kind of money, so unless you own high quality, inheritable or otherwise valuable things, I'd not bother bringing them.
    Oh and, since you'll be providing the company with a copy of your visa (once you get it), there will be no taxes you need to pay on whatever you bring in.
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    pluis reacted to rlogan in Fiance' was cheating while PREGNANT   
    Another example of starting by denying the thing you are about to do: The speaker professes themselves to be the "sad bleeding-heart type". Boundless compassion for others - look at the happy face. We are taught to see if the next sentence will demonstrate the opposite: in this case to deny the OP any compassion at all. So right on cue:
    BUT. (Translation: I'm going to do the opposite of what I just said). "Devil's Advocate" means to blame the victim: to take up the side against him. The OP has a cheating green card scammer beneficiary and we'll show him no heart at all, let alone a bleeding one. No happy face here!
    After you provoke someone, make sure to minimize what you've done, and blame them for answering your question:
    The word "only" is the minimizer. All I did was ask this little bitty question and here you went and over-reacted with an answer. How could you be so unreasonable when I am showing you zero compassion and all?
    Then finish off by casting even more aspersions on the OP. Such a Bleeding heart happy-face thing to do, you know. Look again how the words mean the opposite of what they say. I don't know much of this person, but we are taught that this is an important signal we should pay attention to.
    Look for this in your beneficiary. The OP had a beneficiary that was doing the opposite of what she was saying and there will have been signals just like this that he discounted because love is blind. Look back over your history with her verysadguy - where your gut was telling you something but you explained it away. They'll profusely declare their love for you in words, sure. But the actions - gee, it's almost like they love someone else or something!
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    pluis got a reaction from I & B in Pending consideration   
    Do you still want your question answered? In that case it may be wise to quote the entire letter, minus your identifying information, as Gowon suggested. From just the few words 'in pending consideration' no one can really tell you what's up.
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