Step 2 of my plan to visit - Ties

[Caladan 19]

A doctor's appointment doesn't count as proof of ties. Think about it-- you might break a doctor's appointment without thinking about it just because you didn't want to get out of bed that morning. How much easier would it be to break it when you have a fiancee waiting for you?

The VWP is not broken. It's actually about the only thing that makes sense. You're from a country with low risk of fraud, you have a passport, we trust the foreign government to issue you a passport, we've agreed on standards for the passport: come on in and stay for up to 90 days. Don't live here more than you live at home.

But the thing is, most people can't take 90 day vacations and with a fiance in the U.S. (i.e., every reason to stay) and a history of long visits, you run a risk of being turned around. We never had any problems in three years of visits, but our longest visit was 24 days and they never asked for proof of anything. We had a history of two-week long visits, basically.

[Caladan 19]

I'm just saying, I'm not going to chastise someone for wanting to be with their loved one and doing something about it. If someone has to use the VWP to visit their loved one, then the system is broken anyway and needs to be fixed. That's where the concern should lie, not with the few people who may technically be abusing it, but who are doing it for all the right reasons anyway. People like the OP are not the problem. The real abusers--the criminals--those are the people who are creating the real problems in the system.

Let's just throw customs & immigration rules out the window, eh?

Ah, the old "begging the question" fallacy. Because of course this is the only conclusion that can be drawn from my argument, eh?

People, just as a favor to those of us who work with arguments for a living... 'Begging the question' does not mean 'raises a question.' Put down the word 'fallacy' and back away slowly.

What you mean is, "devilette, this is not the only conclusion that can be drawn from my argument, and that's not what I meant."