My fiancee character

[JessJoe 9]

My fiancee keep testing me everyday, he always making fun all the time,he seems enjoying that I get annoyed,and sometimes I get hurt by his simply called joke. He is sweet, caring, loving but I just dont get his humor sometimes, im scared that my love for him turned to hatred, and I dont want that to happen, coz he is the man im devoted to share my whole life. What to do?

When I started to date my now fiancee....she made me jokes that actually hurt me.....she got me pissed off while in the other side she laughed lots.....took months to understand her humor....ironically present day if she doesn't joke I start to miss her because it is one of the points of her "all" that I love and I don't never wish it someday vanishes.....

She still jokes, but at difference from our beginning I follow her humor and enjoy it.....

Well, that's an example..... it is normal to be afraid when you don't know someone at all.... but of course in every couple is different, not the same....

[Zedayn 486]

My advice is to talk about it. Let him know how it makes you feel. To him he doesn't see anything wrong with it, and maybe doesn't realize just how much his joking around hurts you. Let him know what is acceptable and unaccpetable with you.

[Caryh 5,206]

Funny, I'm the Kano and my wife is the Filipina and she also does these jokes that used to hurt. Part of if comes from her insecurities, part of it comes because she's a pretty big joker. Took me a while to get used to her ways, but I did. Sometimes I still don't care for some of her jokes, but then sometimes she doesn't care for some of mine to. We tell each other and accept we're not always going to like everything the other person does. But what does do is let me know I'm loved and that means so much more than a joke I don't care for. Mostly though our jokes are shared and we go about life laughing together. I guess what I'm saying is don't get pissed off by his jokes, but let him know about the ones you don't like. They may not totally go away, but they should be reduced. After all when joking, often we're not thinking, it just comes out, still over time we learn what jokes our spouse doesn't appreciate. No person is perfect and no relationship is either. When you learn to accept your spouse's lesser qualities, the relationship grows stronger, as you both will have your lesser qualities to your spouse.