K3 expired and divorce

[breman 0]

I married several years ago to and indonesian woman, 13 yrs older then me. I loved her had a kid with her and went through the hell of the visa world to get her to america. she has been here with me long enough that the K-3 has expired but before it did we went down hill, it expired in april and i was told she NEVER loved me in Nov and that no on ever would. I was kinda crushed but i have had time to process the stuff and am better now. During this same time i had my patient pass away( i do long term hospice single patient care) and have not had any hours at work. So the payment of the adjustment( i was gonna be nice and remain married until it was filed) is just not happening. so the Visa expired on APR1 and as you can see its definately past that. I tried to submit with a fee waiver but it was just turned back around. Atm she has cause significant stress to my family as she continualy emails and calls them hurting them to hurt me. I live in a family vacation home while going to college and they want her out with a quickness, but she will not leave, and they are scared if they file evictin for her then she will not allow them to see ther grandkids. I'm kinda between a rock and a hard place here and have a few questions if anyone can help:

1. can i withdraw my petition(not sure if it matters being as its expired)

2. Is it possible for her to be deported( and not being able to take my kids away to indonesian where ill never see them again)?

3. Are there any other options for me other then what i have asked about?

4. How can i go about any of the first 3?

[jojolicious 38]

Just for clarification, you tried to file the AOS with a fee waiver and that was rejected? So you have not started the AOS process for her yet?

And the child you both have together, where was he/she born and what kind of passport does he/she have, if any?