Husband's Change of Temper and Attitude Since Marriage

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Dear Mrs Jibowu, Gigii, Old Dominion, Sylvia n Joseph, Nigishkaw, Brad and Vika ,

Thank you all for your kind support. I suggested couple therapies but he refused to go. I am helping him with his business and we are blessed that business is going very healthy. I though sometimes feel he is using me. He would talk about work, usually tell me what to do for him at work from the moment I wake up until the minute I go to bed. When I say let's talk about it when we get to work when I cannot take it anymore, he says I am stubborn and I have to let him talk (our fight at 1:30 am last night on the street evolved around this similar issue).

Since someone mentioned he may feel I am needy, he basically has no responsibilities, except letting me to stay at his place which I contribute financially for it. We spend most of our times apart now. I love going to museums, a day in the park and just go outside to explore. I usually invite him but never force him to go with me (but don't you think he could at least show me around?) so I just do what pleases me on my own now.

No drinking or drug addiction.

He talks down to his parents or gets into fights nearly every other time we have lunch or dinner together. He is extremely impatient. He laughs at his parents' English accent when they make an effort to speak to me in English (they are from Russia). Older people usually speak slower and he would rush his parents to finish in three sentences (he does this to me too). I feel very sorry for his parents.

He does not see how it is to give up my family, friends and work. He said I have a better life here, which I honestly do not, both financially and emotionally. Then he would make some unreasonable arguments like Hong Kong, where I am from will be come communist also and they will arrest people and I would mostly be fired by my company because economy is not good (again, not true!).

Sorry for all these negative news I am located in New York. I found an organization called Safe Horizon. I will give it a try though I am not sure if they only serve women who are physically abused only (but not verbally). I will take care of myself and do what makes me feel better.

Thank you all for helping me to remain strong.

Hana

Hana, Please try and get out of that relationship...I'm sorry to say he sounds unstable.....also where is the love on his part?