what's the best thing to do????????

[shaqkeys 0]

HI EVERYONE....MY INTERVIEW DATE IS ON THE 9TH BUT ME AND FIANCE NOT YET READY WITH THINGS..SO WE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED HERE IN PINAS...WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO DO?ARE WE GOING TO TELL THE EMBASSY THAT WE ARE CANCELLING THE PETITION??

[miss_jane 0]

HI EVERYONE....MY INTERVIEW DATE IS ON THE 9TH BUT ME AND FIANCE NOT YET READY WITH THINGS..SO WE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED HERE IN PINAS...WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO DO?ARE WE GOING TO TELL THE EMBASSY THAT WE ARE CANCELLING THE PETITION??

Yes.... the best way is to contact USEM ASAP .Tell them about this matter ... Good Luck Mare

[shaqkeys 0]

HI EVERYONE....MY INTERVIEW DATE IS ON THE 9TH BUT ME AND FIANCE NOT YET READY WITH THINGS..SO WE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED HERE IN PINAS...WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO DO?ARE WE GOING TO TELL THE EMBASSY THAT WE ARE CANCELLING THE PETITION??

Yes.... the best way is to contact USEM ASAP .Tell them about this matter ... Good Luck Mare

THANKS JANE...I'M HAPI FOR YOU...WELL SAYANG DI NATAYO MAGSASABAY...PERO I KNOW ME AND MARK WILL BE BETTER ON OUR JOURNEY...MAYBE IT'S NOT REALLY YET TIME...

[RDDIXON 0]

WOW, this means you'll have to start over at the beginning.

[Loolie 56]

if i were you just continue anyways you can go back here and get married again so you can celebrate it with your family...you have the chance already why let it pass just like that..a lot of people are like dying to have their interview already..you should have not filed it if you think you were not ready.

i dont know what readiness you need but this time i think you need to think a hundred times when you will be ready.

God bless you.

[rheanick 42]

HI EVERYONE....MY INTERVIEW DATE IS ON THE 9TH BUT ME AND FIANCE NOT YET READY WITH THINGS..SO WE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED HERE IN PINAS...WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO DO?ARE WE GOING TO TELL THE EMBASSY THAT WE ARE CANCELLING THE PETITION??

Once you get approved, the visa is good for 6 months. Once you enter US, you have 3 months to get married.... you think about it...

Edited February 1, 2009 by rheanick

[geezer 1]

HI EVERYONE....MY INTERVIEW DATE IS ON THE 9TH BUT ME AND FIANCE NOT YET READY WITH THINGS..SO WE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED HERE IN PINAS...WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO DO?ARE WE GOING TO TELL THE EMBASSY THAT WE ARE CANCELLING THE PETITION??

Yes you can call the embassy to cancel or you could ask them to reschedule the interview a couple of months from now while you decide what to do.

Most people on this board are here to find out how to make the visa process go as fast as possible and get their visa as soon as possible so its hard for them to imagine how anyone might not want to do that.

But from my own experience I know that not all Filipina are ready to quickly come to the USA. You need to do what is in your heart. I personally am much happier that I married to my little darlin rather than pursued a K-1 and only had her as a fiance while the visa was processed.

It's up to you but I think everybody need to do what makes them happy and the visa process is secondary to that.

But you should talk to your future husband about his plan. Ask him how long can you stay there. Does he make enuf money to come there to see you often, can he support you after you marry, do u wanna have kids, where you gonna live...there are lots of questions you need to talk about cuz once you get married in the Phils you gonna be married for life. I know some get annulment in the Phils but it very hard to do espically if you married to foreigner and you start having a family

So you need 100% sure you want to be married, a K-1 give you chance to change mind, but if you marry no choice you will have to live with your decision.

I very happy with our decision and so is my wife but our decision is not right choice for everybody.

If you really wanna marry go for it but if you not 100% sure maybe you should just postpone interview for a couple of months.

Edited February 1, 2009 by geezer

[shaqkeys 0]

HI EVERYONE....MY INTERVIEW DATE IS ON THE 9TH BUT ME AND FIANCE NOT YET READY WITH THINGS..SO WE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED HERE IN PINAS...WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO DO?ARE WE GOING TO TELL THE EMBASSY THAT WE ARE CANCELLING THE PETITION??

Yes you can call the embassy to cancel or you could ask them to reschedule the interview a couple of months from now while you decide what to do.

Most people on this board are here to find out how to make the visa process go as fast as possible and get their visa as soon as possible so its hard for them to imagine how anyone might not want to do that.

But from my own experience I know that not all Filipina are ready to quickly come to the USA. You need to do what is in your heart. I personally am much happier that I married to my little darlin rather than pursued a K-1 and only had her as a fiance while the visa was processed.

It's up to you but I think everybody need to do what makes them happy and the visa process is secondary to that.

But you should talk to your future husband about his plan. Ask him how long can you stay there. Does he make enuf money to come there to see you often, can he support you after you marry, do u wanna have kids, where you gonna live...there are lots of questions you need to talk about cuz once you get married in the Phils you gonna be married for life. I know some get annulment in the Phils but it very hard to do espically if you married to foreigner and you start having a family

So you need 100% sure you want to be married, a K-1 give you chance to change mind, but if you marry no choice you will have to live with your decision.

I very happy with our decision and so is my wife but our decision is not right choice for everybody.

If you really wanna marry go for it but if you not 100% sure maybe you should just postpone interview for a couple of months.

THANKS FOR YOUR REPLY..IT'S REALLY HARD TO EXPLAIN HOW I FEEL RIGHT NOW BUT HE IS THE PETITIONER SO I CAN'T REALLY DECIDE.I'M NOT AFTER THE PETITION AND I JUST WANT TO TAKE CARE OF HIM BUT LIKE WHAT I'VE SAID I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.I KNOW EVERYBODY WANTS TO BE WITH THEIR FIANCE PERMANENTLY BUT MAYBE WE REALLY SHOULD ACCEPT AND RESPECT EACHOTHER.I LOVE HIM THAT'S WHY I'M STILL HERE FOR HIM WHATEVER DECISSIONS HE WANTS....