Schroeky

Thank you everybody- a lot of this has been incredibly helpful and insightful, I appreciate your time and knowledge.
On the other hand...I don't think mildly patronising statements concerning the ridiculous correlation between adulthood and marriage should be applauded- I think we all know this is bureaucracy and theory and starting to chastise young people who are trying to build a life for themselves, and above all find legal employment, should be told off because they are naughty children who aren't 'ready' for marriage is sad.
I personally see marriage as paperwork, pure and simple, I am not proud to be married- I don't see it as an achievement. My wedding cost me $20. I just want to get a job, that is all- that really is all I want, to live with Kyle and get a job and come home to him every night and share a fridge.
Some people can tell me I'm naughty for not doing all my research properly, goodness knows I tried very very hard to cover every base, and I understand there will be monumental sacrifices- I just wanted some literal help concerning the issues raised.
I mean- dear lord, none of my other friends who are engaged or living together have ever had to justify themselves financially to the government, they are free to build their life however they see fit. These marriage visas are a ###### situation whichever way you look at it...

They have not deposited the money yet- this is all at a theoretical stage. I wouldn't let them do it anyway, as it is obviously a flawed plan.
I do think that two young people who are very much devoted, intelligent, well educated and emotionally stable who have waited for two years to make this move, should perhaps be given the benefit of the doubt in this case. I am an adult, and so is my husband- in the WORST CASE scenario he could quit his job, I could sit around on my ####### and not look for a job, and we could claim welfare that his parents have to reimburse the government for. That simply isn't going to happen.
I love my husband, but marriage is something I would never have committed to if we were both in the same country at this stage in my life, it was unfortunately the only option that enabled us to live together on the same continent. Sometimes you have to fight for something in this fleeting life- I am lucky, Kyle's parents co-sponsored my I-129f petition and so I thought they were on board.
I got a first class degree, I worked hard for it, Kyle will get one too- but until I am able to get Employment authorisation and apply for jobs I fail to see how I can prove to anyone I will earn above the minimal poverty limits.
It is, in my opinion, on this occasion, a low risk 'leap of faith'- coming to this country has offered me virtually no benefits compared to what I had in England. If for some reason (reasons I fail to even imagine) I get to a stage in my life here where I cannot even earn enough money to eat and I have to ask the government for help- I will leave America and go back to England.

Thank you everybody- a lot of this has been incredibly helpful and insightful, I appreciate your time and knowledge.
On the other hand...I don't think mildly patronising statements concerning the ridiculous correlation between adulthood and marriage should be applauded- I think we all know this is bureaucracy and theory and starting to chastise young people who are trying to build a life for themselves, and above all find legal employment, should be told off because they are naughty children who aren't 'ready' for marriage is sad.
I personally see marriage as paperwork, pure and simple, I am not proud to be married- I don't see it as an achievement. My wedding cost me $20. I just want to get a job, that is all- that really is all I want, to live with Kyle and get a job and come home to him every night and share a fridge.
Some people can tell me I'm naughty for not doing all my research properly, goodness knows I tried very very hard to cover every base, and I understand there will be monumental sacrifices- I just wanted some literal help concerning the issues raised.
I mean- dear lord, none of my other friends who are engaged or living together have ever had to justify themselves financially to the government, they are free to build their life however they see fit. These marriage visas are a ###### situation whichever way you look at it...

I'm sorry I keep saying 'suing', I see it as my responsibility to claim government welfare and therefore I would be the one making the decision to put my in-laws in trouble.
I have also been informed that it is my responsibility to make the government aware that my co-sponsor isn't filling their financial obligations and that I could sue them for the outstanding amounts (If I possessed absolutely no moral grounding whatsoever!)

They have not deposited the money yet- this is all at a theoretical stage. I wouldn't let them do it anyway, as it is obviously a flawed plan.
I do think that two young people who are very much devoted, intelligent, well educated and emotionally stable who have waited for two years to make this move, should perhaps be given the benefit of the doubt in this case. I am an adult, and so is my husband- in the WORST CASE scenario he could quit his job, I could sit around on my ####### and not look for a job, and we could claim welfare that his parents have to reimburse the government for. That simply isn't going to happen.
I love my husband, but marriage is something I would never have committed to if we were both in the same country at this stage in my life, it was unfortunately the only option that enabled us to live together on the same continent. Sometimes you have to fight for something in this fleeting life- I am lucky, Kyle's parents co-sponsored my I-129f petition and so I thought they were on board.
I got a first class degree, I worked hard for it, Kyle will get one too- but until I am able to get Employment authorisation and apply for jobs I fail to see how I can prove to anyone I will earn above the minimal poverty limits.
It is, in my opinion, on this occasion, a low risk 'leap of faith'- coming to this country has offered me virtually no benefits compared to what I had in England. If for some reason (reasons I fail to even imagine) I get to a stage in my life here where I cannot even earn enough money to eat and I have to ask the government for help- I will leave America and go back to England.

Thank you everybody- a lot of this has been incredibly helpful and insightful, I appreciate your time and knowledge.
On the other hand...I don't think mildly patronising statements concerning the ridiculous correlation between adulthood and marriage should be applauded- I think we all know this is bureaucracy and theory and starting to chastise young people who are trying to build a life for themselves, and above all find legal employment, should be told off because they are naughty children who aren't 'ready' for marriage is sad.
I personally see marriage as paperwork, pure and simple, I am not proud to be married- I don't see it as an achievement. My wedding cost me $20. I just want to get a job, that is all- that really is all I want, to live with Kyle and get a job and come home to him every night and share a fridge.
Some people can tell me I'm naughty for not doing all my research properly, goodness knows I tried very very hard to cover every base, and I understand there will be monumental sacrifices- I just wanted some literal help concerning the issues raised.
I mean- dear lord, none of my other friends who are engaged or living together have ever had to justify themselves financially to the government, they are free to build their life however they see fit. These marriage visas are a ###### situation whichever way you look at it...