Yaads

Congratulations!!! Isn't it such a great feeling to be done?!

Hi Everyone...its been a long time since I posted last...I usually just read these days. Love seeing all the pictures...all the babies are getting so big.

Well I was looking to get some help on introducing food into my babies diet. We are waiting til she is 6 months old but that is just a couple weeks away and I wanted to try and get things all figured out first. I am still exclusively breastfeeding so I guess that is the part I am unsure of. Do you replace a nursing session with food? Nurse then feed? Feed then nurse? Any insight would be so helpful. Thanks

Hey everyone - hope you had a good weekend!

Love all the pics and videos...your kids are just sooooo cute

I have a question for the BF'ing mothers - when did you buy your supplies? Nursing pads, bras etc? I can't imagine that I will know what size bra to buy until my milk comes in but who wants to go shopping after you have a baby? I am also thinking about doing cloth nursing pads - anyone use those? What kind of nursing tops have worked best for you? Sorry for all the questions...thanks for any insight

Oh and CONGRATS Jamie

MARM - So sorry for the loss. That kind of thing is one of my biggest fears

Round ligament pain is awful! Anyone else having tons of pelvic pressure/pain? I swear after 20 mins of walking I feel like my pelvis is broken...so much pressure and pain. The doc did say that I am carrying really low and that the baby has been head down since 20 weeks so all the weight is RIGHT there but geesh it's painful.

Regarding Moms - I am so glad y'all said that cause my mom is the same way! She is always saying "I can't remember pregnancy being so difficult, I never had those problems, I didn't experience this or that etc". For the longest time it was making me feel abnormal or a hypochondriac like Jenn but I concluded that my mom just has that baby amnesia so many moms tend to get after labor and delivery lol

For the moms to be. I would just recommend reading reviews. You will only learn thru trial and error and you will find many things you bought were never even used. Its all part of being a new mom

Thanks! It sure is overwhelming honestly. Even reading all the reviews I don't know which to go with but like you said it's going to be more trial and error than anything.

Re: carseats - did anyone buy a carseat and then find out it didn't fit in your car? Are the bases pretty universal or is there some way to figure out what style/brand will fit in our cars?

89 days to go

Saludos,

Caro

Woohoo!!!

I hadn't look at it in days but I only have 65 to go Wow that sure doesn't seem like a lot left to go! I have so much to do. And how weird to think I have been preggo for 215 days already

Nessa - The Ultimate Baby Wrap looks really nice. Does it take a while to figure out how to wrap it? How easy was it to learn?

the first time it probably took 20 min, no kidding. they give you an instructional video, but still, it's kinda tricky. the next 2 times it took me quite some time, but then it gets easier. it still takes more time than I'd like to and for now, I don't see myself going anywhere with it. I prefer to wear the sling or have Ben in his car seat or his stroller. I can't imagine getting out of the car and trying to put that wrap on. But when Ben outgrows the sling, and I want to use the wrap to go grocery shopping for example, I'll probably leave the house with it and just put the baby on when i get to the place.

Wow So I should buy now and start practicing! Thanks for the info...one more question. Does all that extra fabric make you hot? I am due in August and I am thinking about how warm it will be and if a wrap with all that fabric is even practical in warmer weather.

Thanks Yaads! It is looking pretty definite for the trip. The only thing that would stop us is if we can't find a hotel.

All of the stress of the past year finally hit me today and I have really been feeling awful. I am looking forward to getting away so much and to one weekend of not stressing.

Definitely sounds like you could use a trip! A stress free weekend!

I am definitely hoping that my next baby will allow me to baby wear

Ya know, I wonder if some of Declan's problems with that was due to his diaphragm/chest issue. On that note, I got a call from his surgeon this morning. She reviewed his recent follow up x ray and said his diaphragm looks fine! Yay!!!

That is a blessing!!!

Interesting scenarios with the carseats/strollers vs. wrap. I will probably end up getting a travel system as well cause like others have said...it's cheaper to buy them together and you never know what the baby will prefer.

Nessa - The Ultimate Baby Wrap looks really nice. Does it take a while to figure out how to wrap it? How easy was it to learn?

A trip to the zoo sounds fun! Hope you get to do it

Good to see you Yaads!

Nice to see you too Dillon Only 11 days til the big day?!?! Congratulations!

Wow Lawns that isn't right at all

Sorry to hear about Granny, Kims. Pure foolishness...poor granny

This is such a senseless tragedy I am really sorry for the loss

Yardie; a ow much obeah ooman it tek fi call u?

:rofl: Mi nah really knoa...mussi whole heap. Mi juss need fi tek wan likkle break fram everyting an mi did sick fi wan good while dat kept mi away fram deh computa. Now mi good so si mi ere. Yuh alright wid dat?

StoneLove - So is he asking that you not do things with them or saying that he doesn't want to do things with them? Different can of worms imo.

If it is him not wanting to do things with them - Have you looked at it through his eyes? Not saying this is the case but maybe he is jealous and threatened of all the time and attention you give your family and how close you are. He came here expecting the two of you to be married and become your own family unit and didn't expect you to spend tons of time with your family which he probably doesn’t feel a part of just yet. Think how hard it's got to be coming into the mix - your family all knows each other, knows each others quirks and personalities, has inside jokes, tells stories that he can't relate to cause he wasn't there, has traditions he isn't a part of etc etc. That sure would be hard to be around and it would be hard to be around all the time. There has to be a healthy balance.

Maybe it's sensory overload - I don't know your family but DH came here and said we talk "different" and all the slang and short hand talk got to him when he would be around us all. He didn't like being at our family get togethers all the time cause he never felt he could understand exactly what we were talking about so he would check out - whether it be our "slang" or the stories from "back in the day" that he couldn't relate to or even be a part of the discussion. Caused huge fights for a while cause I wanted my family and him to get along and it seemed like the harder I pushed the gap just kept getting wider and wider.

I really had to step back and make sure that I was putting my husband his feelings first. Yes my family is my family and they always will be and I made that very clear but when I got married I was making the choice to make my husband my new immediate family unit and he should be first priority. Now not staying to cut out your family or never do anything with them but make sure that there is a healthy balance of where you spend your time. Make sure that you are paying attention to him when you are with your family as a couple so he doesn't feel like the odd man out. Make sure he knows that it is the two of you and not you and your family against him.

Now if he is demanding you not do things with your family and contact them then that is a whole other can of worms and he has some serious issues.

Just my two cents.

@Jenn: A wrap is a great thing while baby is small. HOwever the t-shrit material of the wrap tends to strech once they get a little heavier AND if you baby does just not want to be carried, you might want to consider a stroller. Adam was a great baby that wanted to be worn...Allie however, I couldn't get in the carrier. Maybe you can try how it goes and still get a stroller once your babe is here. I thought I could go without a double stroller for the kids but hten Allie didn't play along and I got a cheapo handmedown double stroller for 60 bucks. Best thing ever.

One way to avoid this and get more use out of your wrap is to get a wrap that is made out of a woven material and isn't quite so stretchy. It can be harder to master the art of wrapping but it should last longer for ya. If you are for sure hoping to babywear I would invest in a woven wrap if you aren't sure about the babywearing thing and just want to try it out then I would start with a moby and you can always "upgrade" later. All this depends of course on how the baby cooperates

I am trying to get a variety of carriers so I have a selection to choose from and if something doesn't work for me and baby there is always the opportunity to resell them. So far I have two Oopa ring slings, a gypsymama woven wrap and I am still looking at what type of meitai to invest in. Plus DH is becoming more and more interested in BW'ing so hopefully I will by something for him too.

Any recommendations on a good meitai seller?

Thanks for all the input on the carseat. I think we will end up getting the Graco Snugride 32.

Regarding strollers, maybe this sounds weird or naive, but I feel like I wouldn't get a lot of use out of it. I plan to use a Moby Wrap and I can't think of a situation where I would need a stroller instead of the wrap.

I think the same way you do. I really can't imagine using the stroller that much but like Eveline mentioned if the baby doesn't like to be carried it will become a necessity. I am going to register for a stroller just in case and think it will be my mom and others that take the baby places that will use it. I haven't quite talked them into the babywearing thing.

Get a good MeiTai as a carrier or the Ergo. No Snugli or Bjorn or whatever, especially when you have a little boy ALL of his weight is gonna be on his crotch. It's better to get something more ergonomical, especially since baby has an unnatural position in the Bjorn when worn forward facing (which unfortunately a lot of parents do).

This is great advice. A good meitai or even a good ring sling (not a pouch) for when they are in the infant stages. I have been told by tons of babywearers to avoid all the "common" carriers (peanut pouches, bjorn, infantino etc) that you will find in BRU and other places and get carriers from the net.

Thanks for all the registry tips and advice

Hey everyone. It took me a little while to catch up...what in between laughing...hurting...falling asleep. Thank you all for all your wonderful words of encouragement and prayer...they really made my heart well up with love. I really think this time is different. I'm in a LOT of pain...but I feel stronger. I feel that I may actually be able to beat this thing this time around.

(((Jawi)))

You will most definitely beat it this time around. I know that myself and many others are praying for your recovery back to 100%. Love you lots chica and I will link you soon...the weekend just ran away from me. Thinking of you lots.

Jenn - we were just looking at that carseat over the weekend at BRU. Seems to be a really good carseat from all I have read so far. Graco is a reputable brand so that is always nice. I am interested to see what others think as well.

Everyone - Regarding baby registries...where did you register? I am having the WORST time doing my registries. I just feel weird asking people for things *ugh* My mom called to tell me that they are throwing me a shower on August 1 (wasn't expecting that at all!) so I better get on the registries. I just don't know what all to put on there. Any tips/helpful hints?

Congratulations Jenn!!!

No hehehe not for the baby....I meant anyone here had dental problems while they were pregnant?

I have just had the regular check up/teeth cleaning. Nothing major.

Hey everyone Hope you all had a great weekend. Off to catch up on the posts!

thanks yaad. charles was happy with a boy because he can help him mow the yard lol. do u have a name yet?

lol gotta love a boy for the yardwork lol

We have a name but are keeping it on the down low just in case we change our mind lol I envision seeing the baby and thinking the name we like just doesn't fit and changing it. I hope not but it makes me all nervous to tell people.

it depends. I just took a developmental psych class and learned that human development starts with conception and the mothers' emotional status in the pre-natal period can influence development. Stress, depression and anxiety can affect the fetus' growth and personality, also may lead to preterm births. Since many pregnant women go through emotional rollercoaster rides from time to time, it is ok to be sad and cry, more than usual. However, if you feel frequently depressed, talk to your ob/gyn! They can help you.

I remember crying a lot when I watched TV.

Very interesting. Thanks for the info

I cry at the silliest things...commercials on tv, ads on the radio...I am a mess sometimes! Blame it on the hormones. I think though if it is for extended periods of time and you can't "shake it" it could be more of a depression thing than just the excess hormones and I would talk to your doc.

@yaads: almost there, enjoy your sleep while it lasts.

Thanks! Ben is such a cutie

Yaads- you're almost there hun do u know what you're having?

Thanks We are expecting a baby girl DH was sure it was a boy so when we found out it was girl he was shocked. Poor guy was expecting trucks and playing in the dirt - not so much the dressing up and having tea parties lol