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Infopass appointment time. If it is of any consolation my AOS was similar - applied in July 2004 - first biometrics in September 2004; 2nd biometrics in February 2006 and approval in May 2006. No explanation or anything. I think an infopass might shake loose where the file might be sitting on someone's desk. Hopefully you will hear something positive very soon.

thanks guys..he entered on k2 ..my wife got her green card quick ..like 3 months but this one is getting me on edge.

GUYS im at a lost for words. I sent my step sons aos petition in oct 2007.. yes that right 2007!! i still to this day have not been approved. I have called the 1800 zombie line and made inquiries and all i recieve is there processing..duhhh..i send a case problem to ombudsman in washington dc..been a few weeks on that and heard nothing..no rfes..no nothing.. i did however get another bio appointment in march but even after that so far nothing.. im at a lose for words or what tto do..any thoughts or advice.. thanks for help

I would really try hard to get him in his own bed. I dont think the child should be still sleeping with you and his mom.

My step son was 9 when I met his dad. He tried to pull alot of stuff on us when I got here, but things have calmed down over the last year with him. I think he was just jealous of me. He matured alot over the last year. He was spoiled too by his dad, but seems to be growing out of it.

thanks guys.. im really dead on my feet.. i havent slept well in over month..im getting frustrated.. the past few nights i noticed he wants his mom to get out of bed at 300am and give him milk..what??.. i told her that he is playing her like a deck of cards. my god.. some time he ask her to wipe is but after he uses bathroom?? during the day ,when im off work, he finds ever excuse in the book to hold her attention away from me. it feels like im the child in the corner so to speak.. weve tried to make him stay the room beside my older son but after 2 hours he comes running and momma takes him back in.. im trying to figure this out but im dead on my feet...

She really needs some parenting classes (but with you together). Did she come from a big family? Does she have any younger siblings? Brothers? It might help your frustrations to find out where she's coming from. Jinky has a 5 year old son, also, and he has been sleeping in her bed now for the last 6 months, so I'm going to facing some of the same challenges. She does tend to be strict with him though. Perhaps a lot of it is cultural - like helping him to wipe after going to the bathroom - I know Jinky has done this also.

I'd be clear and firm without being harsh that this type of behavior is not acceptable. If she is just feeling helpless because she doesn't know how to say 'no' to him then parenting classes should be the first thing to do. I can try to find some links to organizations out there. The parenting classes I took were sponsored by my local church.

she has 2 older brothers and 1 younger sister. i know she means well but it seems like the past few days im getting ignored.. feels kinda bad really..

I would really try hard to get him in his own bed. I dont think the child should be still sleeping with you and his mom.

My step son was 9 when I met his dad. He tried to pull alot of stuff on us when I got here, but things have calmed down over the last year with him. I think he was just jealous of me. He matured alot over the last year. He was spoiled too by his dad, but seems to be growing out of it.

thanks guys.. im really dead on my feet.. i havent slept well in over month..im getting frustrated.. the past few nights i noticed he wants his mom to get out of bed at 300am and give him milk..what??.. i told her that he is playing her like a deck of cards. my god.. some time he ask her to wipe is but after he uses bathroom?? during the day ,when im off work, he finds ever excuse in the book to hold her attention away from me. it feels like im the child in the corner so to speak.. weve tried to make him stay the room beside my older son but after 2 hours he comes running and momma takes him back in.. im trying to figure this out but im dead on my feet...

I'm back to looking at wedding rings again, and I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch. Réjean (my Canadian fiancé) isn't going to be able to afford to get me a wedding ring. If I want one (or at least one that I can tolerate), I'm going to have to buy it myself. He can't afford one on top of the costs he's going to incur for the medical and the visa fee... plus who knows how on earth we'll get his stuff here...

I guess I'm just really disappointed. I shouldn't be... and I feel terrible that I am, but I can't help it. I should be incredibly happy that I get to bring him here and be with him... still... arrrgh.

Anyone have any tips on how to deal with it? Anyone been in the same situation? Even knowing that I'm not alone will help.

i been there. i both my ex wife a necklace and i admit i didnt spend alot on it but i was brought up to believe the love is in the idea not the cost. just think ..i was working 14 hour days at a no where job and i took my last bit of money for that necklace..when she found out what i paid she broke it off her neck and thre it at the wall..man..even today that thought hurts a little.. look at like this.. if u have 25.00 and you use thatmoney..all of it on one special person..are u being cheap..u just spent all your money for that one person..i think not.. thats why loe is in the idea not the cost.. hope u understand this and good luck..

thanks guys for all the advice. im trying to be understanding. i see my family as a gift from god. i try to look at both sides of the problem.. but from what she tell me he has always slept with someone and he is 5 now. i have a son that is 13 and he was sleeping by himself by 4. i just think there has to be time out the day whether hard or not..for alone time ..just to talk about the day.you know that special time. i do everything i can to help her. i clean sometime , cook..anything to make her see i truely love her and her son. i spend time with my son and my step son playing ball or games. i just feel empty when night comes couse i love the closeness.. i miss it..i hope im seeing this in the right light.

thanks for comments. we agree on how to raise kids. she just has trouble saying no sometime . she seems to think we need to give him more adjustment time couse not long here. i think longer the worse it gets

hi guys,

my asawa has been here almost 1 year now.. heaving on earth.. she is kind, loving, caring,everything a man would want. now heres the problem.. her son, who is 5 years old is spoiled. WE hardly get any alone time. He doesnt mind and no ..to him.. is the end of world. He expects when he calls mother,regardless of whats she is doing,,she should come running. most of the time she does. i tell her this is feeding his ways and doing him no good. he still wants to sleep with us and wakes up several times a night and its beginning to drain me. his mother thinks there is nothing wrong but i see it. if he doesnt get his way he falls in the floor and kicks and screams...until she gives in. i tell her to let him kick and sceam till he quits. i just think something needs to be done. any advice is appreciated.

hi guys,

i sent my aos in may and already have a date for interview in september. my question is when i received the paper with the interview date on it and all the requirements it also had a white paper that said..notice to applicant. if you have been arrested or chargd with a crime.please bring yadda..yadda..yadda.. has anyone else seen this paper with there interview papers?

Where is she located? It took about four days to get the visa to Mindano (Cagayen De Oro)

she is in tagbilaran

sorry about that.. she was interviewed and approved on march 24th.. i will update.thanks

hi guys,

my sweetie had her interview at the embassy and she was approved. they told her to pay for delivery and it would soon be there. i called the state department today and when they look my case number up they say its pending.pending can mean several differnt things.what do u think about this?

2 years without filing is well outside the grace period, I would think. Unless you're in an area where there will be no postal service whatsoever, then you probably won't be able to get a waiver or whatnot. That's something that a lawyer would have to clarify for you, and I'd retain his services all the way through! O.o

Prepare as many of the forms as you can in advance. Several of them, like the biographic data and whatnot, can be done before you and your fiancee get married. Why not start compiling the information for this now so you'll have less of a delay? Likewise, the affidavit of support and such can be obtained in a similar manner.

I would endeavour to get all of the material you can together and if you will be in a location/situation where filing is not an option, then could you possibly get your wife-to-be to do it? Or family to help out with? If there's plenty of notice in advance, you could certainly work with a sibling, parent, cousin, etc. to explain what needs to be done and have them help out if it's reasonable.

Alternately, you could get a lawyer to make sure all the letters show up properly.

thanks for all the advice.

to answer some of ur questions. i would love my sweetie to come with me , if she wants. i will not be in one place all the time.i have to go where they tell me. personally , i know its hard on a marraige if u never see each other but love is for good and the bad , not just when its easy. we have waited on each other for years. i have to provide for my family and this is how i do it.

as far as people that can help , i have that. my momand my wife are close , like adaughter to her. so i know she would help if needed. what bothering me is ..if i file and im not around to go to interview..what will happen? can i get my mom to gowith her to aos or what?

hi guys,

my sweetie will soon be here.she was approved. here is my problem. i do alot of relief work for fema. it looks like i will have to leave in may...i was planning on filing the aos after marriage but before 90 days is up. i dont know what to do now. i maybe gone almost 2 years ..i dont know exactly yet..ill be along way from home. what can i do/ i know there is no time limit on filing but would 2 years be pushing it ,if i had to wait? any info is appreciated

hi guys,

im having to go thru the manila embassy to get my sweetie here. on the orginal i-134 i submitted for her interview i make alot more than the required amount but in 2004 i was injured and was drawing disability so it did not meet the requirement. what will they look for..current or past or both.what u think?

My lawyer advised that as soon as I got my decree absolute that I was now free to re-marry if I wanted, and 2 months later we sent K1 app. We only waited cos we didnt have the fee intially and then I messed up the bio forms

what state are you from?

When I got divorced in Nebraska, the waiting period was 1 year.

i would die if mine was 1 year. its long enough process like it is

That year was over for me 17 years ago. It did not interfere with anything as I was not in any hurry to marry again.

haha... i had to wait for my divorce to be legal before i sent. almost 1 year for me..the judge finallsigns it .now i have to worry about this waiting period

When I got divorced in Nebraska, the waiting period was 1 year.

i would die if mine was 1 year. its long enough process like it is

Im not sure why this would an issue..you havent re-married yet have you? You're 'engaged' and all that is is a statement of INTENTION to marry - its not a legal situation, just a civil one.. no docs are signed.

You can't marry anyways til after your K1 is issued and you are Stateside by which time 30 days are sure to have elapsed either way.

I thought both the beneficiary and the petitioner had to be legally able to marry prior to submitting the application. I wonder if they didn't take note of the waiting statement or if it is routinely waived because they got the petition approved. In any case ... this is why it might be an issue.

thats why its confusing. it say u ,must have proof all marriages are legally terminated ,which mine was. im not married. i already have noa1 and noa2.. i know they would have read all the docs and if it presented a problem i know i would have got a rfe or denied at ins level.

yes,

i was reading the papers. it just hit me about the waiting period. it has already make it thru noa1 and noa2.. its interview time now.

thanks for replies. all is i know it says divorce decree at top with the date the judge signs it. it say divorce is final. then below that it says u cannot remarry for 30 days after divorce is final. its like contradictory.

yes,

i was reading the papers. it just hit me about the waiting period. it has already make it thru noa1 and noa2.. its interview time now.

hi,

guys when u file papers for a divorce and the judge signs them is it final at that point? for example. you filed ur petition on jan 2006 and ur divorce was final on dec 2005. can you file them for ur fiance , even if you have a cooling off period of 30 days.. the divorce was final but the waiting period had not expired yet. some people sy its fine couse the divorce was legally terminated. whats ur take?