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I usually don't get on vj. But when my fiancee read this to me I had to reply. My sister from what I have read. Sometimes we as black women say what we want. But when we get it we are not accustomed to receiving "real" Love. So when a man is comfortable enough to share his feelings with us. Which in most cases is a hard thing for men to do. We don't believe that what he is saying is real. Because in truth we are asking ourselves "How and why does he Love me so much?" The answer is simply beloved. Because YOU deserve to be Loved in such a way. This question is in no means to make mockery of your post. But have you really taken a moment and read what your saying about YOUR husband? Please...please...please pray to your God and ask him to help you heal those wounds that you have endured in past relationships. There's a such thing called Dianetics check into it. I myself am checking into it as well. Because the things that you are doing are things that "we" do when we are afraid of Love. We want it so bad. But when we get it we tend to not know what to do with it. My fiancee expresses himself just like your husband does. And I used to feel just like you do. But one day I woke up and said "WHY NOT ME?!" Why can't I have a man that trusts me with his heart. And Loves me ssssoooo much. A man that Loves me just as hard as I Love him? I deserve that kind of Love. And the moment I stopped being afraid and started to accept his Love. Things became easy. The devil is out to kill, rob an destroy anything God has put in order. Don't let the devil use you to destroy what you Love. It not easy to find good men these days. And if you're looking for the perfect man you might as well stop looking beloved. Because none of us are perfect. What's wrong with that brother feeling good about home? What's wrong with him kicking back and feeling proud of where he has been blessed to be? I want my fiancee to stick his chest out every time he wakes up in the morning. I want him to feel like the King that he is. Because I am happy when he is happy. Home is where the heart is.
There will be differences because you are from two different cultures. I knew when I met my fiancee that if I wanted our relationship to work. I would have to change my way of thinking. Being humble and submissive isn't easy when one has been the rock for so long. For some reason we as Black America women feel if we humble ourselves and become more submissive to our man we are giving up our power. When in fact the power lies in being submissive and humble. If you want a healthy marriage you must be willing to change. And if he Loves you he will do the same. And you have already said that he is changing.
As for you comment about his level of maturity. I must say that you coming here on vj where thousands of people. Strangers as well as his family and friends can read the things that you are saying about YOUR husband. Isn't very mature. This is YOUR HUSBAND that you are talking about. Referring to as a negro. Really?! There are single women looking for a man that expresses his Love. And works on becoming a better man for his woman. And here you are on world wide internet putting your marriage on blast. For Real?! Not only are you putting your marriage on blast. You even have your photos on here for everyone to see. This act of immaturity is just NOT cool.
All I can say is that I pray that you get it before it's to late. Like they say "You don't miss your water until your well runs dry" IJS!
Here is a poem I wrote the day I asked myself 'WHY NOT ME?'
You know we get so messed up so often by these men. When a man comes along that simply wants to Love us. We say "He is to much how can he Love ME that much?" He is doing everything that a REAL MAN should do. But yet we shut down. Because of our own insecurities and mistrust. We have been let down so many times and had our hearts treated as if our heart doesn't even matter ( so often by the same brotha). Our delicate hearts so fragile and bruised snatched out at will and then loaned back to us when HE is ready to Love us back. Tossed to the side and forgotten about. Like a mistake in a book that has been erased. We make ourselves not Love back. But you know what! I had to open my eyes and say "WHY NOT ME!" So I had to learn how to receive REAL LOVE and know that I am WORTHY of it. And at the same time trusting enough to give REAL LOVE back. Never thought that I would ever hear myself say those words. But if I don't keep it real I am not the ~SoLiD~ woman that I say I am. ~SoLiD~ #HesBreakingDownMyWall!

I usually don't get on vj. But when my fiancee read this to me I had to reply. My sister from what I have read. Sometimes we as black women say what we want. But when we get it we are not accustomed to receiving "real" Love. So when a man is comfortable enough to share his feelings with us. Which in most cases is a hard thing for men to do. We don't believe that what he is saying is real. Because in truth we are asking ourselves "How and why does he Love me so much?" The answer is simply beloved. Because YOU deserve to be Loved in such a way. This question is in no means to make mockery of your post. But have you really taken a moment and read what your saying about YOUR husband? Please...please...please pray to your God and ask him to help you heal those wounds that you have endured in past relationships. There's a such thing called Dianetics check into it. I myself am checking into it as well. Because the things that you are doing are things that "we" do when we are afraid of Love. We want it so bad. But when we get it we tend to not know what to do with it. My fiancee expresses himself just like your husband does. And I used to feel just like you do. But one day I woke up and said "WHY NOT ME?!" Why can't I have a man that trusts me with his heart. And Loves me ssssoooo much. A man that Loves me just as hard as I Love him? I deserve that kind of Love. And the moment I stopped being afraid and started to accept his Love. Things became easy. The devil is out to kill, rob an destroy anything God has put in order. Don't let the devil use you to destroy what you Love. It not easy to find good men these days. And if you're looking for the perfect man you might as well stop looking beloved. Because none of us are perfect. What's wrong with that brother feeling good about home? What's wrong with him kicking back and feeling proud of where he has been blessed to be? I want my fiancee to stick his chest out every time he wakes up in the morning. I want him to feel like the King that he is. Because I am happy when he is happy. Home is where the heart is.
There will be differences because you are from two different cultures. I knew when I met my fiancee that if I wanted our relationship to work. I would have to change my way of thinking. Being humble and submissive isn't easy when one has been the rock for so long. For some reason we as Black America women feel if we humble ourselves and become more submissive to our man we are giving up our power. When in fact the power lies in being submissive and humble. If you want a healthy marriage you must be willing to change. And if he Loves you he will do the same. And you have already said that he is changing.
As for you comment about his level of maturity. I must say that you coming here on vj where thousands of people. Strangers as well as his family and friends can read the things that you are saying about YOUR husband. Isn't very mature. This is YOUR HUSBAND that you are talking about. Referring to as a negro. Really?! There are single women looking for a man that expresses his Love. And works on becoming a better man for his woman. And here you are on world wide internet putting your marriage on blast. For Real?! Not only are you putting your marriage on blast. You even have your photos on here for everyone to see. This act of immaturity is just NOT cool.
All I can say is that I pray that you get it before it's to late. Like they say "You don't miss your water until your well runs dry" IJS!
Here is a poem I wrote the day I asked myself 'WHY NOT ME?'
You know we get so messed up so often by these men. When a man comes along that simply wants to Love us. We say "He is to much how can he Love ME that much?" He is doing everything that a REAL MAN should do. But yet we shut down. Because of our own insecurities and mistrust. We have been let down so many times and had our hearts treated as if our heart doesn't even matter ( so often by the same brotha). Our delicate hearts so fragile and bruised snatched out at will and then loaned back to us when HE is ready to Love us back. Tossed to the side and forgotten about. Like a mistake in a book that has been erased. We make ourselves not Love back. But you know what! I had to open my eyes and say "WHY NOT ME!" So I had to learn how to receive REAL LOVE and know that I am WORTHY of it. And at the same time trusting enough to give REAL LOVE back. Never thought that I would ever hear myself say those words. But if I don't keep it real I am not the ~SoLiD~ woman that I say I am. ~SoLiD~ #HesBreakingDownMyWall!