Ojay

Hi everyone,
It has been a hell of a year for me. I moved here last summer from London after being married for exactly a year. We had our church wedding in August and that night, he completely went mental. Think sleeping with the enemy. Following that he continued to be abusive verbally and psychologically and financially manipulative. He had his 2nd violent outburst in November 09 and I called the police. That's the short version.
Here's what I have
- Police report stating both our names and the events of November
- Court papers (he pled no contest and was sentenced)
- Protective order filing docs and finalization
- Arrest Warrant
- Separation Agreement signed by both in Aug10
- Decree Absolut
- Wedding Photos from wedding in Italy
- Wedding photos from traditional marriage
- Health insurance docs showing that he was a dependant on mine
- Joint Lease & doc showing we signed out of joint lease in Dec
- My Bank Statements to our joint address
- My 2009 W2
- Joint travel tickets etc
- Affidavits - friends and his relatives even
- A detailed cover
I'm sure I have more if I need them.
Here are my questions
- Can I file to remove conditions without a lawyer? has anyone done this on here? what did it take?
- Does it have anything to do with VAWA, if I already have a conditional green card?
- Are my docs sufficient to file extreme cruelty?
- What will I need to file? I751 and a waiver? what is the waiver and where is the form? I have not been able to find it anywhere. Is it just that I tick those options on the i751 and that's it?
- Can someone be so kind as to give me a step by step? I am just reading and hearing conflicting messages.
I spoke with an attorney who said I have to pay her $2000 excluding filing fees to represent me and I'm not sure if it is a necessary evil. I would like to do it myself as have always done these things myself but am wondering, is it really that complicated?
Thank you in advance. When I was filing to come here, this site provided so much support... Thank you again!