LoveinPeru

I'ts not only scary for the girls leaving their countries, but for the girls who are bringing their male fiances to the United States as well.
My fiance is coming here from Peru. I'm not nervous about our relationship, but I'm nervous about him adjusting to the US. Not only will he not have friends other than me and my friends (although he is really close to my parents), he also doesn't speak English! So he's going to be so isolated in so many ways.
We did have a normal dating period (we met while I was living abroad) and we lived together before I came back to the states to get a job and pursue higher education. Even so, I remember how isolated I felt in Peru when all my friends had left and I wasn't totally comfortable in Spanish. I was so lonely and sad almost all the time, even though I had the love of my life with me. I'm worried the same will happen to him.
My advice would be, as soon as you get to the US, try to make friends outside of your fiance. Join a book club, or a sports team or something! Do something where you can make friends that are not your fiance's friends, so that you can feel like you are establishing a real life here. If you do that, it will help ease the stress of your relationship, and you'll have friends to turn to where you can ###### about your fiance/husband (because we all need to vent sometimes!).

I'ts not only scary for the girls leaving their countries, but for the girls who are bringing their male fiances to the United States as well.
My fiance is coming here from Peru. I'm not nervous about our relationship, but I'm nervous about him adjusting to the US. Not only will he not have friends other than me and my friends (although he is really close to my parents), he also doesn't speak English! So he's going to be so isolated in so many ways.
We did have a normal dating period (we met while I was living abroad) and we lived together before I came back to the states to get a job and pursue higher education. Even so, I remember how isolated I felt in Peru when all my friends had left and I wasn't totally comfortable in Spanish. I was so lonely and sad almost all the time, even though I had the love of my life with me. I'm worried the same will happen to him.
My advice would be, as soon as you get to the US, try to make friends outside of your fiance. Join a book club, or a sports team or something! Do something where you can make friends that are not your fiance's friends, so that you can feel like you are establishing a real life here. If you do that, it will help ease the stress of your relationship, and you'll have friends to turn to where you can ###### about your fiance/husband (because we all need to vent sometimes!).