Silverberry1331

Thank you so much for your input.  I have never heard of this before.  

39 minutes ago, Verrou said:

joe lives in Lagos ? there's no USCIS officer outside america. outside america case handled by consulate.

was wondering if its scam? i never hear consulate office went for home visit before.

Ah thanks so much for asking this.  That is my mistake.  I used the term interchangeably.  Doh!  Do you still feel the same way upon hearing this?  I appreciate you chiming in and asking for clarification.

Hi everyone!

I hope you all can help me.  My sister and Joe (from Lagos) have been married for just under two years (and were together a year before that).  She has had several visits and mom and dad went over once too when they got married. They are in the process of petitioning for spousal visa.  He received his interview (passport not taken) and was put into AP about six months ago.  They have received very little word in terms of updates since then. Now something very strange has happened:  Yesterday, Joe's mom said that a man came to the door asking all sorts of questions about him.  The man was not really clear about who he was or why he was asking these questions.  Naturally, she refused to answer.  Upon finding this out, Joe asked around and was told by a few neighbors that a USCIS agent came out and was asking all sorts of questions about their relationship and my sister.  Joe is now in the process of asking his employer if he has heard anything.    

This is crazy!  I have heard of background checks and AP.  My own husband, who is from Morocco, went into AP temporarily, but he was only in there for less than two weeks.  He has been here for a while and has since naturalized (but he came in 2011 and naturalized in 2017, so I get that things could have changed sin then). 

Has anyone had this happen to them?  Was it this extreme?  Can the COs actually do this?   This sounds invasive.  I tried searching for this on VJ and elsewhere.  I have seen some others on the boards mention "home visit" and "field investigation" but I haven't seen much detail, so I don't know if this means that.   Then there is the issue that his mother's refusal to answer questions (understandably not wanting to talk to a total stranger who wouldn't really identify themselves).   What do you recommend they do?  

I really appreciate your wisdom!

I assure I did not hear this from some guys that want to come to America...

You wrote being out of child bearing age and the man in his prime and this popped into my head

It is here in America that we set a child bearing age because of science and what we have learned from science

But if it's up to God...I feel more comfort in his corner.

And Again, I started the post with not to put personal religious preferences in this thread...it is a lovely story and what you wrote just triggered my memory.

Edit my spelling of fell to feel

I am not sure what you mean by in child-bearing age because of science. Would you mind clarifying? All that I am saying is that there are alot of women who are out there...past the age where they can have children. These young guys, come from cultures where they are marrying younger women (usually) and are pushed to have families. Having a much older wife is unusual-if this were acceptable then alot of these guys would marry older women from their own country. Instead alot of these guys are trolling the net, telling women I love you, and will see who will bite.

And, putting aside religious preference as requested...picking apart the story itself. The Prophet ran Khadija's business...so they had daily interacts and had a very personal, long term relationship. He did not approach her for marriage. She approached him. He accepted. This is a far-cry from alot of these guys.

I do agree- it is a sweet story and it is endearing. I am just concerned because I hear this alot from people who have no right to use it (but I am not implying you here...I know what you mean...and didn't think ill of your intention on posting it). I am just so sad by the number of people who cling to the story to try to establish credibility in their relationship when there isn't any, and angry with these jerks who liken themselves to a holy man by making comparisons between themselves and the Prophet's situation.

First, Deb, I am so sorry for your pain. That is so unfair. I am praying for healing and restoration for you.

Second, I am about to say something that may potentially get me blasted, but I am going to say it anyway. If you as a woman are alot older than your MENA SO (especially if you are outside of childbearing age and he is in his prime), then it is probably a good indication something is wrong. Culturally speaking, MENA marriages are family focused. Alot of men want children. Much older women and much younger men are not the norm. Just be careful.

Thank you!

hi everyone!

have a question....a friend of mine who is from Morocco has been here, in the USA, studying for his PhD. He has been here for about four years. Recently he married an American woman he met at school. How does they go about adjusting his status from a F1 to permanent resident? Do they file an I130 petition? If so, what steps should they do after that?

Thanks!

Gina

If I understand correctly, your application was approved.

Did you file your visa application yet? If you did and the government approved it, then you might wait a month or two before you get your interview.

Hope this helps.

So very happy for you! This is great news!

Hi Everyone!

We are alittle confused about the Social Security number and card thing.

Faisal got here on December 20th on his CR-1. We received his Green Card today (January 25th).

What do we have to do to get his Social Security number and card? We checked the box to say that he wanted one issued when we filled out his application. I didn't do anything else.

What is next? Do we go to Social Security or do we wait for them to send us something?

Confused! Thanks all!

It can mean anything from reviewing the missing information he had to provide or doing a background check because his name (not HIM mind you just his particular name) was flagged for shady activity. For example, John Smith of Any City, Nevada has committed a felony. John Smith of Main Town, Florida applies for a government job. John Smith (the general name) is on the system as name to look out for. The government has to make sure if it indeed two different John Smiths OR did John Smith of Nevada move to Florida. If they have his passport and everything, don't worry. He will get the visa. It just takes some time. Be patient. When you follow up, do not be hostile (not to say you are either of these things but it is natural to get this way when we are uncertain about our future). You will see that they will give him the visa. Remember it can take a little time... Look on the forum to see averages and hear about experiences...this should help you eliminate the uncertainty you are feeling. Sounds like Sa'ad has a name that needs checking...but they will soon figure out that he is okay. Remember there are ALOT of databases that require checking and they have to be done by different people in different branches.

Hope this helps. Good luck!

Hi everyone- My husband had his interview Oct. 31 2011 the interviewer asked for skype records and pictures, the only thing missing from our packet was a marriage paper my husband ran and got it back to them within 2 hrs from his interview. The interviewer said that he had everything he needed and for my husband to come back that Thursday. When he came back they acted like they didn't know why he was there, in the end they told him he would be contacted by email. My husband received nothing from them so he emailed them asking about his case. He got a reply saying there was no record of his passport number or application. I called the embassy to ask about this and he say no we have everything. Your husband's case is on the consular's desk and is in administrative review. When I called the dept of state the lady told me don't worry your husband is approved is just a matter of time. I called the embassy and they told me they need to be sure of our relationship, I understand this but we gave them many document's proving our relationship. Now every time I call I get the he's in administrative review. My dad called and the man told him we put Atef's case on the top of the list he will get a call in the next few day's. It has been three day's and I call and I get the same bs of he is in administrative review #######. I ask how long will this take his interview was Oct. 31 the man told me this could take 4 week's up to a yr. and they will let us know by email when they make their decision. I don't know what kind of ####### they are doing to us! We had everything and did everything they told us. I sent them lot's of email's and call almost everyday and I get no real answer's. I don't understand what is going on, and I feel so sad. It would be ok for me to go to Tunisia and make our life there but I have 4 children here and this is the only reason we have to make our life in America. If anyone has a similar case or any advise please feel free to share with me, I am so heart broken and never seen this coming. I don't know what to tell my kid's they thought their step dad would be here by now and they don't understand the immigration stuff or even why we can only talk to their step dad on the internet. Everything we have done is for our children, I can't fail them and we need my husband here with us!

Hi! I know that this is frustrating but I can't emphasize ENOUGH not to lose your temper or continously bother them. Give it a little time. AP takes a little bit. Try to stay calm (I know it is hard) but, I fear you are going to keep pushing and cause them to "hold" up the case. They have done such things before so try to relax. It will happen. They have his passport? Then he's got it.

Well silverberry1331 your profile looks like you and husband our a happy couple...but your new to the game and I can say you dont know morocco too well, so relax maybe you get some get some pointers.Me being a researcher has nothing to do with the discussion. you read my profile and went the wrong direction, like the man who intended to head to the west, but was heading south.

You don't know anything about me aside from the tiny blurb here on VJ about my life. However, you spoke about being a researcher in your above post. I have no problem asking for 'pointers' when I need them. When I do, I tend not to ask from people who initiate a post then jibe at people's english because they are asked who they are. Although I believe your intentions are innocent and agree that it is an important topic, as a Moroccan expert you must be aware that some people don't have good intentions when it comes to asking sensitive questions about visa issues--thus people ask them to identify themselves.

Just saying...

Hi Eric,

Thank you so much for your post. I think it takes alot to admit that you are uncertain. The unknown is a frightening thing. America, and what it consists of, cannot be fully judged until one lives in it. Movies, newspapers, even the subjective experiences of native borns won't tell the tail. Only after you get here and live it, will you be able to make your evaluation. People don't like uncertainty so, it is easy to be tugged this way and that on the issue. England is safe. It is what you know. You have an embedded social history there--not to mention family and support networks. It is nerve-wrecking to leave that behind. Just remember---it is not gone and it won't be when you move here.

I say, take the plunge. You don't know what will happen. It may be the best, the worst, or the most indifferent thing you have ever done. However, once you get here--the uncertainty will be eliminated, regardless of the outcome and the fear (the understandable fear) I "hear" in your post will disappear.

If you want my opinion, I say talk to your wife and your family about your hopes and fears. Ask them straight out for reassurance that no matter what the outcome is, they will support whatever decision you will make. Speak to your wife, in particular, dialogue about the potential joys and challenges you face and how you will handle them. For example, Faisal and I are talking about how to handle his home-sickness when he comes here. We both agreed that when he goes through a rough patch that I will not take it as a personal failure to his happiness. We agreed that we would visit his home country as often as we are able. He agreed that he would try to keep an open mind and open dialogue with me about his experience. In return, I promised that if he absolutely hates it here that we would find a solution such as: a) moving to his home-country together b) moving to a new country entirely or c) try to split our time here and there.

Creating these safety nets are important. It will make you feel better about walking the immigration tightrope across the pond. It will put you more at ease to know that you have options. Good luck.

This dude? I hope your english improves before your immigration appointment.

If you are truly a researcher, particularly when researching sensitive subjects, then you are accustom to dealing with people who are suspicious of your intentions. Researchers bear the burden of proof to establish trust and legitimacy when posing their questions--not making snarky replies.

Thanks ya'all!

First let me say congrats to you both.

The flight I recreated everything he will go thru when he travels. To include the forms both in the airport in Morocco and the ones required at the POE arrival. If he has any layovers explain in detail how that works. I found that my husband understood once explained everything in detail. I gave him a checklist in the order everything will unfold he felt cimfortable. Always remind him about the information desks or all the airline employees which normally are very useful.

Arrival with family, yes personal time is a great idea. I have a tendency of getting so excited to be with family that I unintentionally ignore my kids, husband but I made it a point to explain this and also make an extra effort to give him more attention. The men in my family took my hubby fishing, to the movies, the horse track and made him feel welcomed.

I gave my husband spending money in private so he would not have to ask in front of family. He gave up two jobs and paid for some of the visa fees so I made him feel comfortable.

Even if he says "I am ok" just keep him near he will be missing his family. Give him extra love and attention..,

Good luck,

Beautifully put! Thank you so much! However, what forms are you talking about? I am confused. Thanks again!

no it wouldnt let me check the NY=Madrid, said i would need to do it at the counter.... that mean soething wrong?!

I believe that it is because you need to present your passport to them in order to check in. Don't quote me on it but, I think that is the issue. Do you have a seat on the flight? If there is assigned already and the flight isn't cancelled then this is surely why.

Good luck!

Hi everyone!

Faisal will be here in about 2 weeks. It is his first time to the USA. In fact, it is his first time on an airplane . His POE is Miami. My family lives there and, I will be there for the Christmas break. The first night we will stay in a hotel so, he can sleep and be in a place that is comfortable and quiet (without my noisy fam around).

He is so accommodating and when I ask him what he needs to be comfortable or the level of activity he wants to engage in...he always replies that he is happy doing whatever.

I want to make his first few days here as comfortable and smooth as possible. What are your suggestions for this? Is there anything I should do to facilitate a smooth transition? Also, any suggestions I can give him as a first time flyer going solo?

Thanks everyone!

G

A mother cannot immigrate alone with her son without permission from the father.

I am curious, is it the same thing for fathers and their children? Do they need mother's permission? On the one hand, I understand the protection (not to invalidate your frustration by any means---this sucks bigtime) if it works both ways. However, I get super irritated when it applies for mothers only but fathers can do as they please. In that case, it isn't protection---it's patriarchy.

Sorry if that is but it makes me -->

Sending you prayers...be sure you find out exactly what you need before you leave so, you can leave as a family.

Good luck!

Agreed...Madrid is easy.

However, I hate to say but American Airlines sucks a lollipop. I experienced cancellations, delays, rudeness from the staff, and very little in the way of accommodation. Not to mention, I had a few things wrapped up in my luggage and they broke EVERYTHING...even my hairdryer

Double check everything with those fools.

Aside from that...enjoy your trip!

Thank you both! I do have a half sister that Saif speaks to on FB occasionally, I did not grow up with her but we talk. I am closest to the people I work with, they know me best and my story, do you think statements from them would be acceptable?

Yes I knew the age would cause eyebrows to raise, yes I am older but never married, this is why Saif made sure we got approval from ALL possible athorities even if it was not required we went for permission anyway. We understand the age may cause delays but we will not give up.

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your parents but happy to know that Saif's family is embracing you. I think that between your half sister, if she is willing, and your closest friends and co-workers will definitely help. The point is that as long as those near and dear to you know and bless your relationship then the chances of approval increase. It stinks that these outside approvals are the kicker but, unfortunately, it is just the way it is. Don't get me wrong--lots of people get visas without these letters but, IMHO, the approvals go along way to help. Be sure that they are notarized and personalized letters. I think you can find some examples on here of what to include-just be sure each letter says something different so it doesn't look like some office memo. Good luck!

Mom and dad both wrote letters and went with us to get permission to the president in Kairouan. Then mom and dad were our witness at our marraige along with uncle and aunt and other family. They sign marriage contract too. We also got permission from the embassy

When you say Mom and Dad wrote letters, do you mean yours? It would be more helpful if your parents wrote a letter acknowledging your relationship and their approval. Good luck

Ok, my husbands interview is coming soon, in 13 days to be exact. Even though I have put it all in God's hands, the closer we get to the interview date, the more stressed I get. My stomach is just in knots.

I am not concerned with my husband not being able to answer any questions because he knows everything about me and my family. We have our evidence ie. phone records, yahoo chats, bank account together in Nigeria, he is added to my lease here in USA, he has many...many pictures, letters from his mother, my mother, a co-worker of mine as well as another friend of mine verifying the bona fides of our relationship. I am not concerned about needing a co-sponsor as I make more than enough on my own as per the 125% poverty guidelines.

What troubles me is that he is going through one of the most difficult consulates, Lagos. It sems that the CO of the consulate can decide what ever he/she wants no matter what evidence or proof is provided. I have seen so many denials as well as being put in AP processing through this consulate.

I am claiming this visa for my husband or shoud I say, for us. I have been and will continue to pray, not only for my husband and me, but for all that are going through this visa journey as well as the interviewer that my husband will face.

Any and all prayers that you can send up for us will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you and God Bless you all.

Dear friend,

We just had our visa interview a week ago today. It was also a very tough consulate--Casablanca. Lots of denials there. I am pleased to report, they approved my husband with no problem. You have all your ducks in a row. If the interviewee knows all the dates and details of the case to answer any questions thrown out there, then just turn it over to God. To help the stress, I did visualization techniques when I was anxious. I pictured my worry wrapped up like a gift box that I was holding. I visualized giving the package to God. I would say a pray like "I am giving this to you. We did all we can and thanks for the happy outcome in advance." I would take several deep breaths. This helped alot in those moments of fever-pitched anxiety...it didn't cure it, of course...only the interview will do that. However, it helps in the moments of overload. Try some visualization. Picture a good outcome. Believe it. Be thankful for it in advance. Things that belong together cannot be kept apart. Congrats on getting this far. Just alittle long. Keep me posted!