Kevin y Kelly

Good afternoon all and thank you for all of the advice and positive responses. I'm sorry to keep everyone in suspense but I needed some quiet time after an emotional past couple of days. As I said the reason I delayed bringing Kelly to the United States was I lost my job during the visa process. I still haven't found work (I'm surviving on unemployment and savings) but I decided at the end of October to bring Kelly to the US so the visa wouldn't expire. Kelly has been very supportive throughout my ordeal (she has been out of work as well). When I arrived in Colombia and Kelly told me the visa expired earlier than I thought my first instinct was to get on VJ and ask you guys for help. As I was on the internet trying to change our flights I started thinking about the life in America I was bringing Kelly into and how my father told me a long time ago to get your financial situation straightened out before bringing a woman into your life. I'm not working and I'm living in my parents house until I find a job. My parents said it was alright for Kelly to stay there but it's not an ideal situation. After much thought I decided it would be best to not bring Kelly to America and figure out our best option to bring her when things get better in my life. I knew this decision would be risky because Kelly would have every right to break up with me after being so patient and supportive throughout this process we started in August, 2012. When Kelly arrived at the hotel I tearfully told her in my best Spanish my plans and expected her to be angry and end our relationship. To my surprise she said even though it's a last minute decision and she's disappointed, she understands my reasons and she said she wouldn't leave me and she'll wait again through another process. She knows how hard I've been trying to find a job and she is not the type of woman to walk away from a man she loves and treats her so well. We both cried and I thanked God for blessing me with such a special woman. I won't let her down again! This morning we discussed the benefits of the spousal visa and talked about me returning in a few months and getting married in Colombia. I have 2 job interviews this week so maybe we'll receive the blessing we've prayed for. Of course, I will keep VJ updated on our immigration journey.

I'm in Colombia now. I'm trying to rush her out of here ASAP.

I feel what you're saying Yang-Ja. If we can leave tomorrow we will. Kelly is frustrating me now because she wants to go to the hairdresser so she can look good for my family and I'm dealing with this crisis .