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Should I try and file for an annulment

OP...you not dealing with a sick person with multiple personalities You are dealing with what I and others would call...a user, this person used you, and they will do this as long as you allow her to. GET AWAY from her NOW!!!!!!!!!! File for divorce get away from her do not speak with her move your money to a new bank and STOP YOUR insanity. I understand your love for her, I loved my spouse a ton, but really. I do not know where you live but most states give spousal support for half the time of the marriage It is like Sandra told you back in October, you were scammed (as was I mine used to say "I want jewelry") See all of my post and what I have been through. Cut off the money before she uses your money to bankroll a divorce against you. GET OUT NOW!!!!!! I was blessed with ex that had pride and would not call for money or anything else. I will tell you it sounds like this, when she quit her job and moved, sounds like a new man in her life, hey it's what my ex did. She more than likely will not sue using the I864 these cases are rare, can she yes, but...the cases are very rare and very difficult to win. Also it is a scam for woman to hold onto the marriage to get as much as possible and then move on. This is what is happening to you, she needs or wants those statement to prove bona fide marriage oneness, do not get them for her, one of the many things she needs for bona fide marriage, no bona fide marriage,,, no green card. Let her remove conditions on her own and pay for her own green card and try to heal your heart that you gave to this woman and she used it for a door mat, sorry for your loss of your love and my deepest feelings go with you at this very difficult stage in life Trust me when I say I know how you feel read all of my posts. And you will know when you see them I know how you feel.

Thank you Brian ... Do you think i might have grounds for an annulment

Can I get her address so I can serve her with Divorse papers

My wife and have been married less then two years. She has been in and out of this relationship more times then I can count. She left in August 2012 after 10 months. Last February I moved in with my wife thinking we were reconciling to find out 5 months later she took me in because I would have been homeless. I could have always moved back home but that was 2 hours away and difficult to reconcile. Fast forward 2 months ago she asked me to leave "It was her home" I am retired so I went back home and we have not had verbal communication. Her texting has become either very hostel or very needy. Last month she quit her job gave up her home, last week she said she was homeless and I told her she could come down where I lived only to find out the next day her roommate did want the animals. The next day she wants to come up with a settlement to give her for alimony, after not replying in her amount of time she told me she'd see me in court. I have not heard anything about that. Now she texted me saying " I need 2 people who have known us since we married to say we entered into the marriage with good faith for immigration, can you help me with this please"

I think she wants to fill out I-751

I don't know if I am dealing with multiple personalities and / or bipolar disorder

I need advice quickly

I thought this was it last February I moved in with my wife thinking we were reconciling to find out 5 months later she took me in because I would have been homeless. I could have always moved back home but that was 2 hours away and difficult to reconcile. Fast forward 2 months ago she asked me to leave "It was her home" I am retired so I went back home and we have not had verbal communication. Her texting has become either very hostel or very needy. Last month she quit her job gave up her home, last week she said she was homeless and I told her she could come down where I lived only to find out the next day her roommate did want the animals. The next day she wants to come up with a settlement to give her for alimony, after not replying in her amount of time she told me she'd see me in court. I have not heard anything about that. Now she texted me saying " I need 2 people who have known us since we married to say we entered into the marriage with good faith for immigration, can you help me with this please"

I think she wants to fill out I-751

I don't know if I am dealing with multiple personalities and / or bipolar disorder

I need advice quickly

I have been married 10 months to my visa wife. I put her on my bank account and had 15,000 dollars. At first it was bliss but then

she never seems to be happy unless she was shopping. I know she misses her family a lot and I would always console her when she cried.

To start a fresh beginning we decided to tour the state for a new home and move. At first it was alright,sharing in the newness of the

city, taking hikes. But once again she became sad and became critical. She would stay on her computer for hours or run off to go shopping

The bank account is now down to 5000 dollars 6 months later. If we got into a conformation, some of them I think she would purposely start,

she would take off for hours. One night I woke up at 12:00 to find that she was gone and did not come home until 10:00 am that morning.

She has began fabricating stories and making everything my fault. Even the night before she got her green card she played the I'm moving

home card and left for the night. I got a phone call to meet her at a hotel room that was near our capital 30 miles away. She was approved

and received her conditional green card. She started looking for work and got a job. The Saturday before she was to start work I came home

from A Homeless Ministry and found her car pack with everything she owned including her cat and dog. 2 days later she transferred 1200 dollars

a personal account she set up. A week later she was back in the home. That lasted a week until once again she threatened to move. She had

been drinking so I told her she could not drive. She walked off at 8:00 and told me to leave her alone.

I don't know what to think she rented a home on the other side of town and she says she does not want a divorce nor couples counselling.

We have began seeing each other ... Things were the best today in months ... I want her happy ... I cooked her a quiche before she came and got some more stuff ... I was a good day...

I WANT HER PLACE SAFE SO I AM PUTTING IN ALARMS AND WINDOW LOCKS AND BOLT LOCKS ...

SHE COULD BE SITTING ON HER ACRE LOT LOOKING OUT AT THE TREES IN PEACE. SHELTER IN A large 3 BED HOME ENJOYING THE FIRE PLACE SITTING SAFELY ....

TIME WILL TELL

Got a funny well you decide ... She is in a scary area and bought a gun for protection without me knowing ... She took one shot and didn't like it...

She had to do this on her own too! Wow this is my petite professional wife "Core Blimey Mates" whats a yank to do I LOVE HER

If she has a green card in hand it is her decision if she wants to stay in the USA or leave. You are also bond by the affidavit of support you sign until she becomes a USC , leaves permanently , you die, she dies or she works 40 quarters. It is out of your hands at this point. Next time get to know your future spouse.

IT'S CONDITIONAL

My K1-visa wife moved out and now got her own place after we have only been married for 11 months.

The night before the interview she told me for the fifth time and drove off for the night. I got a phone call

to meet her at a hotel room that was near our capital 30 miles away. She was approved and received her

conditional green card in july. She started work two weeks ago. The Saturday before she was to start work

I came home from a Homeless Ministry and found her car pack with everything she owned including her cat

and dog. Two days later she transferred 1200.00 dollars to her new personal account she set up. We got back

together and that lasted for a week when she is moved to the other side of town. I have been a gentleman all

week. She verbally says she wants to stayed married but separated. I do not want her in the states if we get a

divorce. I was thinking to give her until January 1 to chill and figure her out.

How long do I have to divorce her to take her green card? … I need advice. What do I say what do I do?

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I have been married 10 months to my visa wife. I put her on my bank account and had 15,000 dollars. At first it was bliss but then

she never seems to be happy unless she was shopping. I know she misses her family a lot and I would always console her when she cried.

To start a fresh beginning we decided to tour the state for a new home and move. At first it was alright,sharing in the newness of the

city, taking hikes. But once again she became sad and became critical. She would stay on her computer for hours or run off to go shopping

The bank account is now down to 5000 dollars 6 months later. If we got into a conformation, some of them I think she would purposely start,

she would take off for hours. One night I woke up at 12:00 to find that she was gone and did not come home until 10:00 am that morning.

She has began fabricating stories and making everything my fault. Even the night before she got her green card she played the I'm moving

home card and left for the night. I got a phone call to meet her at a hotel room that was near our capital 30 miles away. She was approved

and received her conditional green card. She started looking for work and got a job. The Saturday before she was to start work I came home

from A Homeless Ministry and found her car pack with everything she owned including her cat and dog. 2 days later she transferred 1200 dollars

a personal account she set up. A week later she was back in the home. That lasted a week until once again she threatened to move. She had

been drinking so I told her she could not drive. She walked off at 8:00 and told me to leave her alone.

I don't know what to think she rented a home on the other side of town and she says she does not want a divorce nor couples counselling.

Well I went over her house today ... I need to get on with my life. OUCH!

Thank you for noticing I am a believer and she is to.

I battle with HIS TIME vs MY FLESH

However I have given and the cup has run dry and need

to be smart.Philippians 1:9 And this I pray, that your

love may abound still more and more in real knowledge

and all discernment,

The fact is, we all [sponsors] are hooked for financial support to our spouses.. We brought them here away from their families, life, etc, etc, etc.. However, no gun was pointed at their heads forcing them to immigrate to the USA. Some of us have been blessed with wonderful individuals [wives] that stand side by side, others have not been so lucky and to those [HISTIME] time still on your side.

I am not encouraging divorce nor I am condemning it but a decision must be made and unfortunately depends all on you becuase if is on her part, she will dry you out of all your finances and then leave and continue her life.

Now, it could be other reasons, different stories, her side, but we only know yours.. and as many of us here, we understand how difficult this could be and complicated as well see how your life deteriorates emotionally, physically and FINANCIALLY.

You will need to have many things in place to protect yourself and assets, and yes, I believe you will need legal assistance to provide/proof your merits were true and if necessary avoid her obtaining her permanent card. But, that is all up to you..

Almost two years. She gave up a good paying job, sold her home and made a little equity enough to buy a car.

She is a mature women with class, she has a degree in mental health. I know I am not perfect I want to save

the marriage but not at my expence. I felt everything was perfect until a month or more before the interview.

When she drove put me shock and rocked my world

The above is excellent advice! She has her 2 year GC and can get her own job and support herself without your help - yes I also signed the Affidavit of Support. I know this is too late to ask, but how long did you know her before you brought her here? I ask b/c I too wanted to avoid a situation like yours and my gal and I spent 3 years getting to know each other, the good, the bad, and the ugly! And, once she got here we are still learning the good, the bad and the ugly about each other, but the bumps that come in life are pretty much already expected and known about. Best of luck to you!

I have been married 10 months to my visa wife. I put her on my bank account and had 15,000 dollars. At first it was bliss but then

she never seems to be happy unless she was shopping. I know she misses her family a lot and I would always console her when she cried.

To start a fresh beginning we decided to tour the state for a new home and move. At first it was alright,sharing in the newness of the

city, taking hikes. But once again she became sad and became critical. She would stay on her computer for hours or run off to go shopping

The bank account is now down to 5000 dollars 6 months later. If we got into a conformation, some of them I think she would purposely start,

she would take off for hours. One night I woke up at 12:00 to find that she was gone and did not come home until 10:00 am that morning.

She has began fabricating stories and making everything my fault. Even the night before she got her green card she played the I'm moving

home card and left for the night. I got a phone call to meet her at a hotel room that was near our capital 30 miles away. She was approved

and received her conditional green card. She started looking for work and got a job. The Saturday before she was to start work I came home

from A Homeless Ministry and found her car pack with everything she owned including her cat and dog. 2 days later she transferred 1200 dollars

a personal account she set up. A week later she was back in the home. That lasted a week until once again she threatened to move. She had

been drinking so I told her she could not drive. She walked off at 8:00 and told me to leave her alone.

I don't know what to think she rented a home on the other side of town and she says she does not want a divorce nor couples counselling.

Aww, I'm sorry that none of her relatives can come for the wedding! I will say a quick word of prayer for her. You, though, sound like you're doing all you can to make her happy, and that's great. I hope you guys have a fantastic wedding! Don't stress it, just enjoy it.

I love my fiancée more than anything in this world and will do anything to make her happy.

Last weekend she was sad none of her family could afford to come to the wedding

She has 5 immediate relatives that she is very close to; her sister 3 nieces and a great niece.

I told her I could pay for 3 of them to come out.

She was very excited knowing they were going to sit down and discuss who was going to come.

Well she called yesterday and found out none of them could come for various reason.

She was no saddened and wished I would not have said anything and not to do anymore.

I can understand because it got her hopes up and now … emptiness again

It is a very sensitive time for her I know ..she is lonely at times ... new place no family or friends

Whether I am at work or even in the room and I know it will be for a while ... No a lifetime, 46 years

in one country is all she knows. The one thing the most important thing is SHE KNOWS I AM THIER 24-7

for any one - one hundred of her needs ... she is my number ONE .. Sorry Jesus number TWO

But like every red blooded women she loves shopping and I love shopping with her …..SOOOO

Julie and I are had an exciting week preparing for the wedding. Praying for Gods Direction …

Honeymoon suite with ocean view, Jacuzzi and fireplace in Carmel sorted, both wedding attires sorted,

flower girls attires sorted, rings are getting sized, chopping at the reception getting crockery and

cutlery sorted, flowers and food picked out and will be ordered Saturday. Quote of the day "Julie" 22

days and 100 more things to do AHHH !!!! However with Jesus at the helm No problem

We did go to church last night and she did get some girl time in with some of the ladies. I love that I

pray she clicks with one or more of the ladies real soon so she can have someone to comfy with.

We met with Pastor Carlos last night and he will meet with us Monday ... It's omming togeather

If you believe in prayer could you please pray she will start feeling comfortable and make friends with some ladies soon!

Dan,

My Sundays will never be the same ... it is amazing watching Julie in the kitchen. I love tea on Sundays mmmm roast, 3 types of veggies, 3 types of potatoes yorkshire pudding brown gravey it dosn't stop. .... Julie's has ajusted well getting the bus system down getting to all the shops ... yesterday she said she wanted to start driving so today I will take her somewhere safe so she can adjust slowly to driving on the wrong side of the road. LOL She is keeping busy decorationg our home and we are haveing a great time planning and shopping for the wedding on Nov 19th .... Sf to Georgia = 2000 miles .... take care mate

sunday dinner is now about the only traditionally british meal left where we all sit around the table together to eat i think. i dont mind you calling me danny boy but if you ever start singing 'oh danny boy' to me then we will have a problem haha San Francisco cant be all that far from Georgia can it?? i mean like England is only about 180 mile from east coast to west

Sigh me Fiancee is here from England and we are so excited to be togeather after 14 mo's of waiting for the visa. We are planning the wedding and doing everything togeather. But she is feeling homesick and alone is there anything I can do?

Sigh me Fiancee is here from England and we are so excited to be togeather after 14 mo's of waiting for the visa. We are planning the wedding and doing everything togeather. But she is feeling homesick and alone is there anything I can do?

You will get there .... Big breath don't let the little things bother you .... Remember the love ... My Julie just got here last month from Doncaster 14 months of waiting

Apparently London's at capacity for November which upsets me greatly. I really want to be home before Christmas!!

So, this is Julie and this is my post.

First of all this site has been a wealth of information and support during this very difficult process. However some people are so very quick to judge.

I am shocked by some of the strong comments when people do not know the full story.

It was a very big deal when I got to the embassy and found out my fiancé had in fact been married 3 times and not just twice as he had told me. By this stage I had sold my home and given notice on my job. Nothing is guaranteed I know, but there was no reason I could see that we would be denied.

My whole world crashed at that moment and I was barely able to speak to anyone. I will not forget in a hurry the humiliation and sense of betrayal I felt.

By the grace of God Don and I are together now and it is going well. My faith got me through.

To everyone who is still in the process I wish you the very best of luck. The sense of relief and happiness I felt when I saw Don waiting at the airport is still with me now, so hang on in there it truly is worth it in the end ♥

Drop on in amy time mate, would love to share me Yorkshire pudding w/ a Sunday roast of course. I never realized how sacred Sunday cooking is in Enland. I will be gaining 20 lbs by Christmas. Take care Danny Boy (it was a must do ... Sorry) You guy's will get there in no time. If you ever get this side of the states you best look us up. x

congratulations mate... thats just awesome i will be getting you to send me some yorkshire puddings if i cant find any when i get there lol

It’s all good she is here now ... The journey is brutal the ups are up but wow the downs I don't know if there is one proper word to describe it "Exasperating plus" but LOVE has prevailed. It has been a wonderful week as I pick Julie up last Monday. At first site I ran to her and told her I loved her and would never let you go. From SFO we went home in a Limo, but my poor sweetheart was so tired she took one sip of champagne and slept half the way. When we got home there on the porch were some item’s I shopped for over the internet that included her favorite coffee, Yorkshire pudding, gravy, and a few other English items she likes. Then as we walked in there was her dog Molly very excited and her cat Custard, 2 dozen roses and a card that read FOREVER LOVE with some US spending money, 1 ½ closets, 2 dressers and a full bed and bath room empty just for her. I have thought to myself these closing weeks here is a beautiful women who sold her home, gave up a great paying job, not to mention her family and friends … I AM THE LUCKIEST MAN ON THE EARTH ... Julie and I are enjoying shopping, decorating, gardening, church, walks in the parks and dining out. She has already picked out her wedding dress and we have the church, pastor, photographer and songs all set for 19th of Nov 2001. We are learning how to work and communicate together as a couple and make plans for our future. I cannot thank God enough for bringing us together finally and for the love and the support from all of you. x