pursegal21

Hello there, Gator.

I have been with my Jamaican fiance for 5 years. Your observations of Jamaican men are correct. They don't like screaming,yelling or any pushback of any kind but especially not from a woman, hence the "no problem" country slogan. They view America as a "womans country" where women rule everything and are dominant and the men follow their lead. Of course there are exceptions to every rule. I think what your guy means when he says "woman's role" he means the traditional role of the man being the head and the woman following. They appreciate and long for tradition.

Now with that being said I don't know how long you have known your guy or how much time you have spent with him. But having a few memorable vations does not give you the entire story on anyone. So we are already at a disadvantage. My fiance and I have had some issues and problem which is why we have been together so long and are just now about to make things official. Even though we have been together for 5 years there will still be major adjustments that will need to take place when he arrives here for this marriage to be successful. Marriage is extrmemly hard in itself and you throw differnt countries and cultures in there and it can be a sure mix for disaster. There is only one thing that will get you through this mess is true,genuine, unconditional love and also resprect for one another. If this does not exist it will NEVER work.

As far as your man, take the fact that he is Jamaican out of the equation. Is it acceptable for any man to treat you in this manner? As far as your baby you must make the right decision for him, but only you know what that is. Good Luck! If you ever want to talk I am always availalbe via facebook or email. Hit me up if you need to.

This information is posted on the yardie thread, but I will re-state it. The embassy generally gives the Beneficary a window of 4 days or more. The minuim would be 4. DONOT BOOK A PLANE TICKET UNTIL VISA IS IN HAND.

The last person on here I know', it took 20 business days!

Most of the pics that I submitted of my fiance and myself were taken by me. I didn't want to bother anyone but knew I wanted to be able to look at the photos when I returned to the States. I have to agree with RichieRich if I were reviewing you case I would find it hard to believe you met the girl you want to make your wife and didn't want atleast one photo atleast to treasure when you returned home. That would make me very suspicious. Sorry!

Love u Aimes!

I am soooo sorry that you are going through this. All I can say is that remember that once you sign that waiver in the K-1 packet you are legally responsible for him for like 10 years I think it is and divorce does NOT annul that. I would charge him with spousal abandonment immediately. You may need to get an attorney.

Again I am so sorry!

I have thought about that many times, but It just wouldnt work right now. I have too many ties here my career. If its any comfort (i dont kno where u r in your journey) but after the grueling 5-6 month wait for the NOA2 is over, it will start to move a little faster. If u can maybe u should visit to take the edge off. Thats what I did.

Are you serious? The whole point of the K-1 visa is to get married in the US. If you wanted to get married in your country you should have gotten married and applied for the K-3. I don't mean to sound mean or short but I can't believe all that is involved in the getting the visa and now that you have it, its still is not good enough. They only suggestion I have is to have a mock ceremony in which you will not really be married or come her get married and go back and have a mock ceremony. Good Luck! (shaking my head)

Blank Stare!

I contacted my congressman and they were very helpful. After signing the privacy form, they contacted me and told me where to send a letter to the USCIS stating they were on the case and I wanted a staus update. My 5 month mark is April 15. I got NOA2 on 4/4. So did it help? Who knows, but it certainly didnt hurt!

I agree its totally normal! I too got my approval 4/4 and tge feeling of seeing post decision is unbelievable. My advice is the wait is extremely stressful so spend more time nuturing the relationship while u wait. It is truly a test! Good luck!

Unfortunatley, this total process has taken that luxury and excitement of a wedding away from us. With the stress of this process I just would not be able to handle the stress of a big wedding without ending up in the hospital. My fiancee and I have been deprived of each other for so long, that we plan to go to city hall get married and have an intimate dinner with family and friends later on that evening and get on with our lives already. So no planning when he gets here (LORD willing) we will file for a license get married and enjoy each other. Its frustrating, but its the way it is for us anyway!

4 years

I never read where you had to prove engagement, but only to prove ongoing relationship. To prove ongoing relationship, I provided proof of my trip going to visit recently. We do however have our receipt from the ring and we did a save the date "tentative.". I hope this helps.

my fiance and I filed in November and our wedding date is June 16th and we are realiing that that may not happen. January filing date I dont think so. Sorry!

The paperwork for the I129F is very extensive, but it can most definitely be done without the assistance of a lawyer. I don't know your financial situation but with all the fees involved if u can save on a lawyer that would be my suggestion. My best friend happens to be an attorney and I did not need her assistance at all. Download a guide and take it portion by portion and u will be just fine. Develop a checklist and refer to this site for any questions you may have. Good Luck!

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We are newbies to filing a K1. I have read alot of posts and different websites. By far this has been the best website for information and we are really getting excited to submit the K1 documents. The question I have is how many people are using a lawyer to submit the documents and how many are going at it by themselves? Also I am curious to know the sucess rate for each. My gal is in the Philippines if that helps out which I have heard is a little tougher.

Thanks all for your help.

Chris and Joyce

Wedding Date: June 16, 2011

Why: Its his birthday, he proposed to me on my birthday so we though getting married on his would be an unforgettable gift.

Filed: November 17th 2010

I would like to include the snail mails and chats as proofs of our relationship. My concern is there are some parts of the chats/mails that sounds too personal (i.e. kinky). Please do not think I am a freak or something LOL. But what if there are some parts of the mail/chats we don't want them to read, what should I do about it? Thanks a lot.

Well I am a Newbie at this, me and my husband to be are in the process of gathering our info to submit our I-129f but from what I have read, I think you can make copie and black that stuff out with a black marker. Hope this i helpful.