sweetheart32

Hi! Thank you for replying, i was just outside, I live in Sweden by the way, and I didnt feel the cold at all, he called me, and we cried, I told him the news, and we cant live without each other, I could take 1 year even, right now not even a second wthout him, but 10 years, god forgive me, but i want to die, i cant stop crying, i accuse myself, why did i leave, why. he said hes gonna be here soon,but i cant ask him to leave the states, but we will die for sure without each other. i have people there that can state that i voluntered in a church, but i didnt work there. he worked and i stood home. my home is there , in us, not here, if someone told me right now, that i could go back, i will run to the airport and leave and i will hug everyone on the airport in us, but this is a nightmare for me right now and i talk to a lawyer here and he will do that too over there, but what i just heard in here, its kinda impossible anyways, and we didnt even get a kid with each other, and im 32 now, so to wait 10 years, i will never have a kid, and yes , i wouuld wait 10 years for him, and that day im leaving, i will neveeer come back here again.

Rose

Oh i'm sorry about what happened to you,you make me cry by reading your story right now.I understand how you feel.Hope and pray everything will be fine Just keep on praying..

Yes, very true. I saw it on the list, but of course being the really smart guy that I am (haha!), I thought there is just no way we will need that document. As I understand it, they are going to send the CEMAR to the Embassy as soon as it is available, and then they will release the Visa to her. Maybe I'll browse the Philippines section, but does anybody have any idea how long this will take? Her CEMAR is supposed to be released to them on the 15th. As of now, I've got a flight scheduled to bring her to the USA on the 22nd, but I'm guessing I'm going to have to cancel the flight and re-schedule. I was just wondering if anybody had an idea how long it will take to get the visa after the CEMAR is received.

Your wife need CEMAR its takes only 1 week,and then i have my friend of mine she's annulled too.she get her visa 19days.

If you cannot wait for a visa to process you are not serious and never were.

Ofcourse I can wait, just missing him makes me hurt.like all of us here we miss our fiance or spouse.am I right?

well considering i am a male and a USC from birth I would find it hard to be part of those "Feathers from the same flock" I believe i have more dignity and respect for women and for my wife, if there was such an issue with us I would let her talk and ask questions as to why it is that she is acting the way she is. You cant really be that naive to say that this Jason guy is a perfect angel in this. He plays some part of this problem whether its him telling her and convincing her parents that he will be there to support her and them, or he thinks that she is only here for citizenship and not him so he hangs it over her head.. the way it sounds.. it sounds like she Values her family(which I dont blame) more because HE DOESN'T value her as much. Jason you expect her to change her ways.. what have you done to make a change? He seems to think that this pinay is his animal at the zoo, who doesn't have rights.. Jason, you bring her to the US of A guess what this is the land of the free. READ up on your culture more and understand that pinoy and pinay respect one another, they are there for one another and their families are valued at top priority.. if you cant understand and change accordingly to other people then stay out of the field and leave it to the men who can adapt to this way of living and diversity.

Anyone else who think and feels that Jason is in the right.. well consider the fact at the way he acts by displaying his thoughts on VJ.. MAKES you wonder if the reason why she doesn't talk to him and tries to hide things behind his back is because he puts fear into her and they have a relationship not based on trust, dignity, respect or loyalty. CHANGE yourself before you try and change others.

your absolutely right..,instead of posting,just talk to her fiance and discuss the problem.

Thanks everyone. As for the phone bill I already told her to use a phone card. She said she thought it would be so cheap on a cellphone from the tv commercials. Now for sending her family money I read the email, her bro in law want to open a business of his own, a gym. Her sister wants to open a restaurant, her uncle is asking for money so he can finish off the flooring at his house. Her elder brother wants to enroll his kids in private school, her younger sister got sick and went straight to a high end private hospital. I read just a incoming text message that her mom is TULALA AT THE WALL BECAUSE SHE IS OUT OF COFFEE.

I TRIED TO CLARIFY ABOUT THE MONEY SITUATION. HER BELIEF IN MONEY IS WHAT I EARN BELONGS TO THE BOTH OF US WHAT SHE EARNS ONLY BELONGS TO HER. IT'S ONE SIDED.

WHEN I TRY TO TALK IT OVER SHE WOULD SAY SHE DOES NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT. I EVEN OVERHEARD HER ON THE PHONE SAY "YAN PESTENG KANO NA YAN"

OMG!!! i don't know what to say,about the family of your fiance,they all abusing you!!!sorry to tell you the truth.they have their own feet and back bone to work for their own.Oh my goodness sending to private school,not finish the flooring of their house,wants a business ECT!!!What the heck.. Its really annoying!!! Is not your problem anymore!!!if my family is like that to my husband i wont tolerate it.I will never allowed anybody even my own family to abuse my husband,his working sooo hard every penny,there is nothing wrong to help the family of your wife but,is not your obligation to support them.and believe me after you will help them they will ask you again

This is sheer incompetance on their part, I am really sorry! Also, I fail to understand the significance of applying early for AOS. I mean I am really happy for all my fellow VJ'ers who have been approved but why are the people who have applied in May-June put on the backseat?

I fail to understand how this system works!

KnR aka slider100

I agree ,i have a friend of mine,she's a May filers until now still have no NOA2.

I know it's hard to wait and be apart from someone you love. We're all in or have been in your situation. But you need to be understanding of other peoples' situations too. It obviously isn't working out for them, so what's the point in them continuing the process? They didn't do this to purposefully hold up your application.

yup I understand,just made me sad if i read a sad story

What happened to you guys???!!! ,many people here at VJ.dying waiting for there visa to approve.its easy for you to say not to continue,how about us? were so prostrating to heard about our visa.Everyday wishing,hoping,praying i'm with my fiance right now,i miss him sooo much .its annoying for me someone out there its easy to put into waste all sacrifice,time and effort.whaaaaa i want my visa now and i promise to my self i will cherish him every single moment.God knows how i passing my days without him.

I'm sooo sorry to your bad experience,but,not all filipina is like your wife.Like me i really love my fiance,more than everything in this world.I'm soo pround of him,my facebook is lots our photos and love quotes i dedicated to him,no enough words to describe how i feel for him.im sooo sorry for what happened to you,but,don't stop believing,somewhere outhere for you.Life is beautiful specially when you found the right person,who can be with you for the rest of your life.someone who can be with you"coffee for two with great conversation"Good luck and always pray to God for that

when i'm joining dating site,its makes me pissed,annoyed knowing many scammer on dating site,Mostly many pinay going there just only for the sake of money.how about the pinay looking for serious,long term relationship.But.God is good i found my soulmate his name Alex,now his my fiance we are filing k1 visa right now.My fiance have bad experience on dating site the first girl he was committed to him,she only wants money for him.And when i met him,thanks God he trust me,and everyday move fast,he really knows me more and i'm showing to him that,I love him sooo much with all my heart and soul more than everything in this world.no matter UPS and DOWN.its not about green card.I love everything about him.he knows me i'm not after the money or green card that's why he always told me "Im very lucky"and i told him no we both lucky sweetheart.. and i'm always reminds him" someone who wouldn't mind waking with me in the morning seing wrinkles and gray hair but falls inlove with all over again...kahapon,ngayon at bukas ikaw lang(he really know how to say that,hes sooo cute with his accent)and i always told him "will you still love me in the morning?"and he said "opo ikaw lang"Im sooo proud with my sweetheart..=)