Lostlove

Lostlove,

I know that you have had plenty responses but I just want to add one more in aggreement to everyone else please don't end that baby's life. The real key is for you to be healthy both mentally and physically. It's understanding from a man's perspective that we just can't sit around and let a woman support us especially if we have been self supporting. My response to him is get over it and move on, you have a baby coming and it's time to plan. You stated that you have a good job well I'm assuming that you can keep it in spite of being pregnant and later after the baby is born. It sounds like to me that perhaps him not having a job is a blessing so that there is someone at home to care for the baby. It might not be perfect but it is a plan and you definitely have a plan to make this work. I notice that you have submitted to the California service Center are you in CA and if so where? I'm here in L.A.

I hope that you are able to work this out, my wife wants a baby but right now I can't make one so I hope that you are able to work this out. Children are a blessing and I hope that he sees the light and works out this difficulty and supports you and the baby.

Just my 2 cents, please let us know what happens.

B. Franklin

B. Franklin,

yes I will still have my job and also have 2 different types of business investments I'm working on at this time, and hope it works out for the best, if i can get the proposals written Wish us luck. On the other hand I told him to suck it up everything will be ok. Please dont be discouraged about not being able to have a baby right now, because when God says it's time it will happen. My frined and her husband tried even tolf treatments for 5 years and were told by doctor they would never have kids. And after they stop trying, they were blessed with a beautiful baby girl. So keep the faith.

Thanks all I told him last week to suck it up. So today I have taken his resume and started sending it out myself.

I think it was irresponsible of you to have an unplanned pregnancy. I also think your husband may need a bit more time than 2 weeks to adjust to the news. He wasn't planning on it either, was he.

But now that you have it, you are ultimately the one who is responsible for making the decision. If you want the baby, you should keep it.

You are correct that we should have planned better, but looking at your timeline it's seems that not everything that is even planned turn out the way we want it to right. It's not like it's any man in the street this is my husband. thanks for ur opinion, have a great weekend.

I totally agree. However, don't they have to be careful with WIC (food stamps) since she signed the I-864 wont she get in trouble if they end up on food stamps. I know in the I-134 it says if the beneficiary ends up on welfare or food stamps the petitioner can be found liable.

On another note I hope your husband realizes you have been blessed and cherishes the fact that you are pregnant, many people arn't so fortunate.

Well actually we dont need to apply for food stamps or any assistance. When I filled out the 1 864 we had no problem with meeting the requirements because of the amount of $$$ I make. As stated before i have a good job.

how do i start. My husband came here last year on a K1. We got married and filed for GC and he was approved in no time. From the time he recieved his GC he has been looking for a job, but of course i told him that at this time its hard for even a USC, but dont get dicouraged. Where he is from men take care of the household and that is what his dad does also. When we first got married we were tlking about family planning. he stated tht he wants to get started making his family, but at the time i was not ready to. Instead of me using my common sense and stop procrasting to go to the doc and get BC pills i did not go in and get them. I had been feeling a little not myself and noticed a missed cycle. Took a preg test and it says postive So I call him in to look at the test he just walked away. I went in the room he said that we are not ready for this. Which I agree, but what is done is done so...... He advised that i go have an abortion. Ok, this is totally against my religion and morals. He has not touched me since the day we found out 2 weeks ago. Then he gets upset and say that he cant do this he cant even feed himself and dotn have a job. before he got here he knew that all of that will take time. I have a good job making good $$$ and ask for help from anyone. And i have held us down with no problem or us wanting anything that we can not get. i talkd to him about not wanting to kill the baby, but he is not bending. I think this will ruin our marriage and he says do you know how many married people do this? im like uhmm no. I thought when you make the vow to be with each other threw thick and thin what ever happens you are to face it together and pray and believe that God will guide you. All he can say is that he planned to get a job and go to school and other ####### that is like ok you can still do it, but it will just be a little more work. All he can say is that he borrowed 2000 from his brother when coming here and he want to pay it back. I think he is a ####### and dont think this will work. What about u?