celticstar

Hello and welcome Becca

@ some of the replies on here!

Quick question, I know that some have said about IUD's lasting for three years, I currently have the Mirena IUD fitted (excellent, fantastic, love it!) it lasts for five years as a hormone IUD and then a further five years as a "regular" IUD....

Does anyone know if this is available in the US and how much it costs?

I don't have it fitted as BC as my fiancé has had the big V but I used to get very heavy and painful monthly's and the Mirena stops them completely (Bliss!)

The insertion can be painful if your cervix goes into spasm - mine did - but with an understanding doctor, the pain can be minimised (for those who have asked about insertion and pain)

So errm yeah, after that little insight into my lady bits :rofl:

Anyone have an answer for me?

The best bit of advice is the one I was given.....Lots of reading up and lots of preparation!

I'm not getting married until this summer and will then be filing for the CR1 but have already got tons of information from this site and feel much happier about the whole process!

I can sympathise with your husband, I found out recently that you guys over the pond don't really have Ribena....Thankfully I love root beer and dr pepper so at least I have substitutes

You need to leave time between your medical and the interview so that the Knightsbridge doctor can forward their report to the Embassy...

I'm going to be doing my medical at least two weeks before the interview so that there's plenty of time for everything to be sent over.

Here's the link for UK FAQ's which might help you out a bit

http://www.visajourney.com/wiki/index.php/UK_FAQ

Thank you elmcitymaven!

We've chosen the CR1 rather than the K1 because of the money and restrictions, plus we just want to be man and wife without waiting until someone tells us that it's ok for us to be married.....

I want to know that once I move to Oklahoma I can work and share the responsibilities rather than have Darryl working all the time to support both of us, I've never been the sort of person who is happy sitting at home being supported anyway.

Then there's the travel restrictions on a K1 as well, my Father had a triple heart bypass a couple of years ago and hasn't really fully recovered, he's now 71 years old and has diabetes so I'd rather not have to worry about whether I can come back if I need to.

In a nutshell, the CR1 fits our needs much more than the K1.

It's really made my day knowing that this is a feasible course of action for us to take

Thank you to everyone who has replied!

Sure you can do that. In fact, if I had to do it over, I would have married and applied for the spousal visa instead of the K-1. I found it too restrictive and far more "messy" than it needed to be. The few more months it takes to process the spousal visa over the fiance(e) visa is well worth the wait.

The only caveat emptor in your plan are the unknowns at Customs and Immigration. Good luck!

You don't know how good it is to hear that! It seemed like it was too simple to be a proper way?

Ahhh, as for Customs......Would it be improper if I just said I was there as a tourist? Technically I would be, I wouldn't be looking to stay there any longer than I'm allowed to....

It's not faster in processing time, it's just faster because we'd be spending less time apart.....Does that make sense?

Cos I'd be out there for another two months after getting married, it's two months less than it would be?

I'm going to stop there because I'm just complicating things! LOL

Like I say, there's absolutely NO question about filing for AOS, like I say, we want to do this properly!

I need your input please people!

(This might be in the wrong board...I apologise if it is!)

Me and my fiancé have been discussing this option, not so that I can stay out there and then file for AOS, but so that we can start the I-130 process sooner than if we got married here in the UK and get the CR1 visa process moving....

What we've talked about so far is (simplified version) :

I go out to the states on the VWP, about a month into my visit, we get married, we file for the I-130 straight away, I get to the end of my 90 days and I come home whilst the I-130 is being processed (it's absolutely NOT our intention for me to do the illegal shortcut to being out there, we want to do this properly and legally)

Are there any reasons why we shouldn't do this? We just want to be together properly as soon as possible but without breaking any laws, we're both struggling emotionally with the distance between us, not to the point of wanting to give up but to the point of making us more determined to be together as we should be.

It's the simple things like not being able to reach out and hold his hand or to hold each other that we miss the most.

So, what I'm looking for is some input from you guys and girls as to any reasons why we shouldn't do it the way I've asked?

I know there's the "fiancée" visa but it just takes too long from what we can see (massive respect to those of you who are doing it this way, you're all a lot stronger me and Darryl!)

This really isn't a post to cause offence to anyone and if it does then I'll ask for it to be removed, it's purely a question that we need answered!

Does the other person need a magic jack as well or does it just work off one?

Is it only to another landline number? Or can you ring mobiles for cheap as well?

This is definitely worth considering!

I think the card should be a no brainer versus an $800 bill!?

Absolutely!

Both of us were shocked by the amount of the bill and have stopped talking on the phone for as long now but I miss hearing his voice

My mobile bill is over £200 which is more than 200% more than I was paying before meeting my fiancé

It's now £7.20p for a single prescription here in the UK.

I have to admit that health care is one of my concerns about moving to the US, over here I can get in and see my doctor on the same day for emergencies or within a week for non urgent appts.

I was diagnosed with ME over five years ago and that process involved a lot of blood tests, x-rays, MRI scans and hospital appts, all of which cost me nothing because of the NHS.

After being diagnosed I had my own ME counseller who taught me coping methods and gave me an idea of what to expect with my long term health, without her I would have seriously struggled to get to grips with my condition.

As it was, I was able to concentrate on getting all the care that I could for my - at times - extremely debilitating illness, there are still days when I cannot even walk to the bathroom and am pretty much bedbound, thankfully these days are few and far between and only occur when I've pushed myself too hard and too far, I know the warning signs thanks to the brilliant care I received at the hands of the NHS so can listen to my body when it starts to tell me that enough is enough.

Would it have been the same if I had to go through the American health care system?

I think not, I would have been stumped at the initial blood tests and further tests purely because of the money involved.

Therefore I wouldn't have gotten a definite diagnoses and wouldn't have been able to subsequently get the after care that I needed.

There's also the time I had a big motorcycle accident, I had various internal bleeds, lots of broken bones including my spine and a lengthy hospital stay, after I was discharged I also had a long time in Physiotherapy and lots of follow up hospital appts.

Of course, I'm not American and didn't go through the American health care system, I might be wrong. My point is that ok, there are flaws to the NHS, of course there are, there's still bureaucrats running it, but in essence it works and it works well.

Having a health system run this way is not the end of the world as some people seem to think (not on this thread I hasten to add) it's worked more than once for me and plenty of other people that I know.

It's not the system that makes the people work, it's the people that make the system work.

My fiancé's last phone bill was $800

We do talk a lot though, I think it was about an average of six hours a day on the phone.

We do talk every day via facebook when he's at work and then every night we're on yahoo messenger and web cam....

We just need to upgrade his sound card so that we can talk via skype now!

http://www.xe.com/

XE is a really easy way to transfer funds from the US to the UK

A lot of really dumb and desperate women out there... they'd marry a goat if he said "I love you".

Unfortunately true.....But don't forget, there's just as many dumb and desperate men as well!

Thanks for that info!

I never even thought that having suffered depression in the past might be a problem, at least now I can be prepared for it!

So all we need to do is to copy that letter, fill in the blanks and print it out when we go to our doctor?

NICE... ...THIS, to me explains everything...hats off to U...

Thanks JeNo, I'm really lucky in that I've found the one man who completes me, I'm not saying that every couple who rush into things are 100% genuine but it's not a case of we're all looking for a GC or don;t love our partners

Desk top for me, run windows 7 on it.

Although I want to get a laptop.....

Interesting thread.

I'm one half of the "rush into marriage" couples that has been mentioned, I know on my part that I never had any intention of moving from the UK and certainly not to the US.

I've never even held a passport before in my entire life!

Me and Darryl (my fiancé) have spent so much time talking (messenger conversations that have lasted for upwards of 16 hours!) that I truly believe we know each other as well as couples who live in the same country and see each other regularly, maybe even more so as the time we have together - be it online or in person - is so precious to us that we don't waste it on silences or rubbish.

Darryl came over here in early March after we'd been talking for three or four months constantly every night.

We went on a vacation to Scotland and spent my birthday there.

I didn't need that time away to tell me that he was/is the man for me, from when we first started talking it was obvious that we had a really special connection and are truly soulmates, I really do believe that with 100% of my heart, soul and mind.

My views on marriage were very much of the opinion that who needs a bit of metal and a bit of paper that prove you love each other?

My family likes wedding cake which explains that thinking....My Father has been married three times, my Mother has been married twice, my eldest Sister is onto her fourth marriage and my second eldest sister has also been married twice.....So, eleven marriages between them meant that I didn't exactly believe that those vows meant anything.

Those views have changed so dramatically since meeting Darryl that I now can't understand why I ever thought that not having that legal commitment and tie was enough for me.

I know for me that marriage will be for life and that I'll do anything I have to, to enable it to work.

I'm marrying him because I want to be bonded to him in every way that I can be, I want to show him that I love him so deeply that I don't ever want to be anything less than his.

That may be a slightly archaic view but hey....That's how I feel!

The fact that I have to move to a different continent to be with him doesn't actually figure into it, it's just something that I have to do, if he lived in deepest darkest Peru I'd be moving there because it would just be the country that he lived in.

I'll be leaving behind my family and friends when I move, that's no small thing for me as my family and friends mean the world to me, but, it's not like it's the other side of the world....Oh...Wait a second.....

So, yeah, really all I'm saying is that sometimes people do move fast in a relationship, it doesn't mean that the relationship is anything other than genuine or any less loving than a couple who have been together for years.

I've waited 28 years to find my man and I don't want to waste any more time than we have to before we can properly share the rest of our lives as we were meant to!

Thanks again Bernie, I have to admit to getting quite down about what seemed to be involved but after reading a lot of links and guides on here (I've spent most of my day going through everything) I'm feeling a lot happier about everything!

It's only a little mole hill now instead of a mountain

Thanks Bernie!

It's the getting a good idea of the process which is giving me regular headaches

I've done so many searches and found so much conflicting information that I was getting really overwhelmed with it all

Thank God for this website is all I can say! It's brilliant having all the topics I wanted to ask questions about right here at my fingertips!

It's managed to turn a full blown migraine into a dull throbbing ache

One thing about the proof of relationship, does this include emails and facebook messages? We did talk regularly on the phone but we've had to put an end to that as my fiancé ended up with an $800 cell bill

Cheers for that link Anh map, I had a quick look through the guides but missed that one!

Is there anything we can do before we're married? That would help and not hinder the process?

Hi there guys and girls

I'm a UK resident and recently got engaged to my soulmate who happens to be a US citizen.

I live near London and he's in Oklahoma.

We were planning on getting married in Scotland this year so that my family and friends could be there (I'm my Fathers eldest daughter and as this is the only time I plan to marry, I would have liked him to give me away) but, I would like to be with my fiancé permanently sooner rather than later, therefore I don't want to do anything which could make the process longer than it has to be.

I've never even held a passport before now although I have sent off for one.

I've been researching what needs to be done but to be honest the information I've come across isn't exactly clear and it's been just a little confusing

Any help you guys and girls can give us from the very first step would be much appreciated!