Tahlisha

Front loaded means to include as much supporting evidence as possible... even stuff they dont ask for... any and everything that you can come up with.... think of that proves your marriage is real... Your marriage has to look believable on paper.... they dont care how much you love each other or how badly you want to be with one another

I spoke with USCIS, I was told that because he left and is with his sister who is his co sponsor then I could write a letter and send it to the service center out petition is handled byand his sister would be held responsible for him. he cant claim abondonment becuse he left me. I am still at the address our petition was filed with. this is the second time he left since nov 2013, the first time he also left while I was at work. I purchased an airline ticket for.him to.come.back. I sent him an email explaining how I felt about his leaving this way. I explained that you cant do this in marriage. its not fair to just leave without communicating with your spouse.. I explained to him that this is unexceptable and I cant live like this and I wanted a divorce. shortly there after Ibgot.the papers in the mail... he called to.see if I had received them... we spoke briefly he said he was sorry... I really dont care if he stays or goes back to morocco....

So back on 01/31/2014 My husband left while I was at work.... On friday 02/21/2014 I received divorce papers in the mail. The papers states that neither oe of us is requesting support from one another... I am wondering if anyone knows if immigratio will come after me for support for him... he is currently being supported by his brother and sister....

hey guys!! just curious as to if any of you were denied previously with a fiancé visa and decided to do the spousal petition. we never got anything stating why we were denied so i have mailed in paperwork for the freedom of information act. until hearing anything from them i am focusing on returning and getting married and moving forward with the spousal petition. was curious as to if you guys front loaded with forms and reports and etc etc... i am OCD about organization and i plan plan plan so I'm getting ahead of myself and asking questions early so that i know what I'm getting into and what to expect. hope you guys have an amazing weekend whether you are with your loved one or far apart, alhamdulillah for Skype and the internet!! :-)

Courtney

As you know we were also denied the K-1 ad went on to file for CR-1... I front loaded ours

Wowzzers this just went way off into left field... And I don't understand why people have such an issue whit people coming here and seeking advice or talking about their marriages that did not work out... I mean it is apart of life and is it not part of the process when people are going through the immigration process?????

It was never my intention to make anyone think or feel that all Moroccans are scammers.... Scammers come in all shapes and forms from everypart of the world....... I don't even think my husband is a scammer...I really think our issues are cultural differences and his family that is here in the states puttng all these silly ideas about married americans. Like all married coulpes do everything the same way (their way) I really feel he was torn. I stood my ground and will continue to do so on the things I felt strongly about. He was not able to stand up to them and did not trust me enough to believe that I had some idea on what I was doing....

The ticker shows when we were legally married... May of 2011... We were married in a religious ceramony un 2009. We tried for the K-1 but did not get it. So I went back and we legally married to go for the CR-1

I never said we were married for 1 year. I said he Wil have been here in the states for 1 year come feb 21....

Why does it show married for 2 years and 8 months on your profile when you claim one year? Was that just a religious/unofficial ceremony? (Just curious, as it may impact some of the advice people have been giving you)

The ticker shows when we were legally married... May of 2011... We were married in a religious ceramony un 2009. We tried for the K-1 but did not get it. So I went back and we legally married to go for the CR-1

I am so very sorry Tahlisha!

Thank you...

Is his Sister a USC?

No his brother is

Ditto and you'd think others here griping and fussing about the slow process of uscis

would wake up....the man is gone ...why R you crying and begging, this makes ppl

trample on you more...divorce him and move, on 4get the revenge...This was no

surprise he showed you how he is/was

I am not crying and begging.... Nor am I trying to get revenge.... In this process there should be steps that one can take in such situations.... It is a shame that there is not.... If there were I believe it cut down on a lot of this happing in the first place.....I don't beleive my husband married me just to come here... But I do believe it is what his family wanted..... I feel he wants to go... Am sure his brother and sister will do what they can to get him to stay...... The first time He left I was deeply hurt.... But as I said before when he returned our relationship was not the same.... The trust was gone and that put additional strain on our marriage....... Our immigration process was no walk in the park.... But in his mind he feels I owe him some how.... I was told on many occasions that he left his life, country and family for me so I should not be unhappy, or stressed.... I felt as though the sacrifices I made for us to be together meant nothing to him...

Have you offered to help him go home?

Just 2 weeks ago I told him if he wanted to go back I would help him. There would be no hard feelings. I told just not to leave while I was at work again... He said he was fine that he wanted to be here with me... But this past friday what does he do......

Seems like it ...

I`m Moroccan as well and half German my husband visited me multiple times and i visited him a total of 8 months in the US the past 2 years.

My Father was Married 6 times ...(1 Moroccan 2 Germans 2 Americans 1 Canadian) his been there for visits or work and met these ladies in their home country BUT he never ever did it for papers,hell he even refused to get a German passport cause that met he had to do paper work lol , he can get free tickets to anywhere he would like instead he likes staying in his shop playing partchi with his friends ,don`t get me wrong i love Morocco i love Germany i love Wisconsin ,(Wyoming not so much) lol but as long as i am with my husband that all that counts,All these places have their own ups and downs ... one must try to travel as much as they can do understand ,i`m sure most of those Moroccans never had the chance to travel anywhere so they create some kind of dream world and get a culture shock when they arrive ,the only shock i got was gaining 20 pounds in 1 month while we were in Wyoming ,I know many many Moroccans who could visit the US and they don`t even bother, instead prefer going to Spain for Vacations.

What i`m trying to say is that people need to get to know each other longer before just getting married like that Divorces happen all the time now its the way it is...Pointing fingers in this situation is not fair ,they need to live together for a while,cook together sleep together clean together get into some kind of routine,and one of the main reasons they cant is cause most Immigrants are unable to visit and USC have short Vacation times .

In my fathers generation visiting the US was very easy that`s how he met some of his ex wifes,yes he did get divorced many times before...and i`m sure many would point fingers at him if they did not know his part of the story,and his part of the story is that his a typical spoiled Moroccan man once he doesnt like something he just ends the relationship ,Culture? maybe ... anyways ! Know your partners longer before getting Married ! visit each other more !

(sorry if i made spelling spelling mistakes)

Izzy

I agree... My husband and I married in a religious ceramony in 2009. We married legally in 2011... I visited Morocco 3 times ( 1st - 3 weeks, 2nd - 5 weeks, 3rd - 3months ) before his coming here and visited his siblings in Arkansas and Missouri 4 times prior to his coming here. I thought I know them all pretty well. But what I have learned in the last few weeks is that THEIR family is most important........ Everyone was fine with me and loved me, considered me their sister/daughter as long as I was doig what THEY wanted....

I will admit, it does seem fairly common with immigrants from Morocco. No one can say exactly whether it was the intent from the get go or that the problem is "visions of sugar plums syndrome". Many believe once they arrive in the USA that all their past problems from Morocco will disappear, mainly the ability to find a decent reliable job. I know from my own experience , my husband is finding it hard to accept that given the language issue and coming from another country that the only jobs available are "immigrant" jobs. Mainly manufacturing jobs which require a lot of manual effort or repetitiveness.

No matter who you are married too, if you are having difficulty with employment it will put a stress on your marriage.

I am trying to write here without bias , because I only have experience of my own from the 3 times I was in Morocco. If you don't have a job in Morocco, you will have family to support you and take care of you . You won't have your spouse breathing down your back to find a job like you will here. The other major stress once an immigrant comes from Morocco is the pressure of finding a job so they can send money home to help their family. It is a very high expectation and MOST need to do that. It is very hard as an American coming from our culture to accept that, but unless you understand the job/living situation in Morocco you won't. Everyone in the family contributes to helping the house run.

To the poster, one of the things I'm thinking is if your husband can't find work he's going to where he can find it. It certainly doesn't make it right and we don't know his version of the story. If your husband is living with his co-sponsors, I would contact USCIS to inform them of his change of address and that you are filing for divorce . Co sponsors are responsible for him as well. From what I've read , chances of the government coming after you for support are slim.

Please people responding to this post, try not to categorize all people from Morocco as scammers, while it is a high hit embassy. It could also be that more people return here to report it!

Advice for people intending to immigrate from Morocco to be with their wife/husband in USA. Life isn't as easy as you think here in the USA, you will have to work and work hard for your money. Your wife/husband also needs your financial support , and you should let your spouse know that you intend to send money to family in Morocco.

Advice for American spouse , its a big change for your immigrant spouse and a big financial step to bring them here. It will cause you stress and much of it!!

He/she will be very homesick and its a big adjustment. Marriage to anyone is a work in progress , adding another factor will make it double fold .

The fact that your husband returned back to you the first time, says something about his feelings for you. If he came will the sole intent to leave you he would have never came back after the first flee. If he wants to leave , let him go. Its hard but it will be harder if you spend time trying to hurt him like he's hurting you.

You don't own him, you do however don't owe him any help in removing conditions . Let him figure that out himself. IMO I would not let him return , I wouldn't be able to trust him anymore and as another said he might only do it once he realizes he needs help removing conditions. If you are truly done with him, don't help with that it will only cause you trouble.

Wishing you the best to get over this, it has to be terrible! It's too bad that when a marriage fails with an immigrant this fast, the american is left feeling used. It could be the case , or it couldn't. You may never know.

I had a clear understanding of all of this.... I never pressured my husband to get a job.... I did everything for him.. All his job search before he left the first time he had a job at Target. But quit and could understand why they would not take hi back when he cae back..... He never made a real effort to make this his "home" He accted as though he was a visitor and it was my responisbility to keep him entertained and happy... The first 8 months he told his famliy I had taken him no where that all he did was go to work and come home.... Far from the truth... We had gone to DC to see the monuments and visited many museums, we went to the movies many times, out to dinner and family functions... I got him aa gym membership which he asked for but never used... I set him up with english classes But nothing pleased him... His sister was upset that he did have his drivers license... They did not believe me when I explained to them the conditions and laws and how long it would take to obtain a license. In maryland first timers have to go to driving school (which is not cheap) and then hold their previssional for like 9 months.... And then on top of that whats the big hurry to get a license if you have no car to drive.... I mean There was no way I was gonna give up my car for him to drive while I took the bus to and from work..... We never faught over moey, there was always alot of silly misunderstandings, cultural differences.... He had a real proble with me being fb friends with my ex boyfriends sister...He (my husband) was also firends with her.... We never spoke of hiim, but he said it's not normal for me to be friends with her... But his brother and sister are married to people who were once married to one another... That's totally normal right.... The bottom line is That I am not like his siblings spouses where they will do whatever, give up whatever to be with their spouses....

He had been very moppy. When he returned from the first time he left I bent over backwards trying to make him and his family happy but nothing changed he was still moppy. Sitting in the dark was only happy in the "bedroom" asked him over and over what was wrong, what could I do he would just say he was Fine and not to worry about him. I did all of his job search completed all his job applications. He stopped talking to his friends and family when I was around. Started taking walks at odd hours even in the bitter cold we recently had..... I don't get it.... I will be the first to own up to anything I have done to cause this and the first time he left we talked honestly and openly (at least I did) about what we needed to change and do differently.... A couple of weeks into his being back he was back to the previous behavior.... I think it was the cultural differences..... He wanted to be the "Man" but at the same time wanted me to do everything. And didnt like that I did want to live my life and do things the way his family said we should..... Had issue with my wanting to maintain a seperate Bank account which my pay check and childsupport were direct deposited into.... Had issue with my not wanting to ### his name to my car.... We had a joint Bank account and his name is on all the bills and our lease andnall bills were Paid through the joint account... But it wasnt enough for them his family said it is not normal in america for married people to have seperate anything....

Given that you asked this question, perhaps you have discovered one of the reasons he left.

I have no idea why he left.... He will not answer my calls nor will he reply to my messages.... This is the 2 nd time he has done this. The first time was back im Oct. He left the same way. While i was at work. He quit his job and went to mossouri. I cryed and begged and cryed and begged some more for 3 weeks before he came back. He had been sad because he could not find another job. Things just werent the same anymore. I trusted him before but when he came back it was not the same the trust was gone... Really I dont care if he leaves or stays. His sister and her husband were cosponsors I am sure that us where he has gone... They are welcome ti take care of him.... Im done....

I am a single mom living on a very modest income and he left twice for ni reason other than his not liking it here... So I doubt very seriously that I would have to pay any support to him.... Like i said his sister and her husband are his co sponsors and I am sure that is where he went so he is where he needs to be....

Wow... Doesn't seem fair.... Anyhoo no good luck will come to him I am sure... I will move forward with my life... Have no time to waste on people such as him and his family..... Thanks for the info....

Not sure if I have posted this in the right place... But I would like to know who do I call????? My husdand will have been here i the states 1 year as of Feb 21 we married in his counrty. I camme home from work on friday to find that he and all of his belogings were gone. He left his house key on the table.... So who do I call to get him shipped back to his country??????? I registered our marriage in my state so I will be filig for divorce and I will also be contacting my Mosque to see how and when I can obtain an Islamic divorce.... I have tried calling him but he will not answer my calls... I have sen him messages and emails.... I just want to end this at this point.....

No it is not possible that will happen.... At least not in Morocco. Although premarital sex is illegal there. Not sure what would happen if the athourities found out But it would not involve death......

Things are not same for ever country in dealing with the immigration process. Islamicly he is not able to marry her if he is not Muslim. If your brother chooses to go for the CR-1 visa he will have to show proof that he is a Muslim to marry in Morocco. And even if he doesn't want to do that and goes for the K-1 is her family ok with his not being a Muslim (assuming that he is not)?????? I don't know what your brothers religion is, but I known people male and female who have married non-muslims and things changed for them... SOME Muslims who marry under these circumstances do not trully beleive they are even married in the sight of God. Muslim men & women who marry non muslim men & women at the court house/justice of the peace, church ect.... Are not really married where Islam is concerned and for Muslim women you add whether or not her family approves IE: her father or Wali / gaurdian......

AAAAWWWW... I'm sorry... Yea I know how it is. I lost my job shortly after Abdul arrived. He is now working pt but only aking $8 per hr...He is really stressing about it. I start a job at Target next week... Insha'allah we will both find something that pays a little better soon...Praying all goes well for you..

Gosh Nicky your hubby has been here for a min.... I don't know what my DH would have done if he had to go that long without working the 6 weeks before he got a job was way too much for him... Praying everything gets done quickly for you...

Muslims can eat the meat from people of the "book" ie: Christians and jews.... So since this is a christian country the meat from most major store chains is fine.... Some prefer halal but it is ok if it is from a jewish store or Giant, safeway, weggmans, ect, ect..... Meat from muslim butchers is much more exspensive in my area so I only buy it for the Eid....

I finally received my NOA2 and I am preparing the documents i will need to send my fiance. I am trying to fill out the I-134 and I want to make sure everything is correct and I have all my supporting documents to go with it. I receive monthly child support via the courts. Do I need to include proof of this when preparing the I-134? Do I add this to my annual income?

yes you should sis

If you submitted your petition last year your income tax return must show that that you are at or above the guide lines.... I got a job 3 1/2 months before my husbands interview and I still needed a sponsor and my income was above my sponsors....