The best thing is to be honest from the jump about your feelings. Most of all know and understand the customs of your wife's culture. Your wife will be able to work at some point and contribute to helping out the family from time to time. Trust is important and when you love someone. It shouldn't be so limited on what you would do for that person (which is caring and respecting her culture.) You may need more time to think about your relationship if your thinking about an ex-wife and comparing the situation. Old baggage should never intwine with the new. If this is your only issue don't let it cause you happiness. Put a limit on what you can afford to do and let your wife know and the family will have to except that. Good Luck!
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