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First I wouldn't leave me 14 year old alone 24/7 for weeks, but I would leave her for a couple of days if I had no other choice. And as I stated, I called the Department of Family Services and explained the situation and asked specifically if I would be charged with neglect and the answer was no. I asked what the age requirement was for a child to be left alone, and was told by them and the police that there is no set age, its up to the parents (obviously I would not leave me 4 yr old alone at any time), but typical age for being home alone during the day is 10 and evening/overnight is 14. Maybe in the state you live there are laws and age requirements, but where I live there is not.

i see u from florida and i lived in florida for 5 years and the law is the same there also the law in united states is the same no matter where u live in usa so get real lady u must be hard up for a man to go this far i been married for long time many years and id never go off over night and leave my kids i have 4 and all grown and married except my 16

lady im 52 years old and i know the dam law and no police or dept of welware will tell anyone they are no age limit on leaving children alone everyone here my believe it if so they come here and try it and see what happens they will be put in jail and kids taken away for negilect i see it every day here women go out to bars or stay alnight with men and leave kids home alone ages 8 thru 16 and they get them took away and go to jail any one here ask an american what will happen u go off to another stae for weeks and leave kids home alone what if they choked or someone break in get real woman no woman do their kids like that no job worth that or a dam man so get real i live here for 53 years almost and i know no parent leaves their 14 yr old home for 3 weeks or months or any kids younger they have to be 17.get real woman anyone here call family services and ask call police see what they do if u left your kids home over night alone this really piss me off that u sit here and say they agree they can be left alone well u must really need a man bad to do that.

also looks like u only met him one time before u filed for k1 u have to meet at least twice before u file for k1 visa within a 2 years of filing

First I wouldn't leave me 14 year old alone 24/7 for weeks, but I would leave her for a couple of days if I had no other choice. And as I stated, I called the Department of Family Services and explained the situation and asked specifically if I would be charged with neglect and the answer was no. I asked what the age requirement was for a child to be left alone, and was told by them and the police that there is no set age, its up to the parents (obviously I would not leave me 4 yr old alone at any time), but typical age for being home alone during the day is 10 and evening/overnight is 14. Maybe in the state you live there are laws and age requirements, but where I live there is not.

lady im 52 years old and i know the dam law and no police or dept of welware will tell anyone they are no age limit on leaving children alone everyone here my believe it if so they come here and try it and see what happens they will be put in jail and kids taken away for negilect i see it every day here women go out to bars or stay alnight with men and leave kids home alone ages 8 thru 16 and they get them took away and go to jail any one here ask an american what will happen u go off to another stae for weeks and leave kids home alone what if they choked or someone break in get real woman no woman do their kids like that no job worth that or a dam man so get real i live here for 53 years almost and i know no parent leaves their 14 yr old home for 3 weeks or months or any kids younger they have to be 17.get real woman anyone here call family services and ask call police see what they do if u left your kids home over night alone this really piss me off that u sit here and say they agree they can be left alone well u must really need a man bad to do that.

I think it has to do with both the maturity of the child and the situation in which they will be left alone. I had to travel for work not long ago for a few days and almost had to split all of my kids up because I couldnt find someone to watch them all. I called the Florida Dept of Child Services and asked if I left my 14 yr old alone would I be charged with neglect. The answer, no, and the reason being because I know my child and I know she is very mature and responsible for her age, I was leaving her with money, she has a phone, there were several neighbors around that were checking in on her and she could go for help if there was an emergency, I live in a gated community with 24hr gate security and my home has an alarm system. But in the end I didn't because thankfully a friend watched them all, but if I had to I would have done it. Now I wouldn't leave her alone for 3 weeks during the night, I feel that is just too long. But she is old enough come home from school at 3pm and be alone until the evening. As for my 10 yr old, I wouldn't trust him alone for a long period of time. He is no where near as mature as my daughter was at that age, but again, he can and has come home from school alone and stayed by himself for a few hours and has been fine.

I also think that a child can be smart as a whip, but have no common sense and be immature, and they can also be dumb as a nail (academically) but have good street skills and knows right from wrong. I know my daughter is very mature, and some people reading may say, how mature can she be at 14, but she helps care for the little one, she sometimes does the grocery shopping for me, she helps clean, can cook, do laundry, and is CPR certified, and I don't force her to do these things, or refuse to do them for her, but she knows I need help sometimes and she steps in. She has always been this way beause ever since she was a young child I have forced her to grow up fast. But even though I feel she is as mature as she is, I would never leave her alone at this age for a long period of time to care for 2 other children along with herself.

As for my parents, my mother doesn't have a problem with it and said she would watch them, its my father that has the problem. And some of it I'm sure has to do with my ex and also his experiene with his step-father, but he has always been controlling like this. If he doesn't agree then fine, thats his opinion, but don't use my kids as a way to keep me from going just because he's not happy he can't stop me, and then say "you better not take the kids there," they are my children and if I want to take them I will take them. So that statement right there shows he just wants to have control over the situation. And Cleo, yes if I took them it would interfere with their school, so I dont plan on taking them, I was just going to tell him that i was considering it since I don't have a sitter.

And the problem is that all of my family lives far away, I have no one here, so my only options are to not go, turn to friends, find outside help, or search for another family memeber to fly out here and watch them, but I would never leave my kids in a situation I wasnt comfortable in or with someone I didnt trust.

the state doent not allow children under 17 to stay alone over night by theirselves for weeks at a time no law will allow that and any women who would do that doesnt care what happens to their kids.mine is 16 and the state would take her for negilect so if anyone believe that about her well try it in usa and see what happens to u and your kids i have never left her home at night if neighbors new they call police cause its against the law in usa

Mandy you better pack your bags because you're going on a guilt trip thanks to your parents.

There are plenty of other mothers on here that have left their kids in the care of others while going abroad. You're not a bad mother for taking care they will be watched over. Two of the kids are old enough to watch themselves but I wouldn't advising leaving them along for that length of time with the youngest yet. Kids go away to summer camp and are without parental supervision for longer than you're leaving your kids.

When I was going over to Egypt everyone knew 9 months before hand I got my ear chewed for those 9 months. They thought my head would get chopped off or I'd get kidnapped or he was using me for a green card. Believe me I heard it all from all my friends and family. Not one supported me except my best friend who had spent some time living with me and speaking to my husband online as well. People fear what they don't know and they care about us. This is more about them and their worries then it is about you and your kids. When they see you go there and come back safely it will become easier for them and eventually once you've done what you've set out to do they will accept your decisions and come to love him like you do. At least most of my family and friends have. There are those few who are too consumed with their own fear to even want to meet him at something as big as a family function, but that's like one or two myopic thinking persons.

Wonderful send a warm and happy birthday to your 7 year old today.

Good to see you Zee Bee! Best wishes on your ROC.

Hi Jeanne and Babyblueangel.

Ramadan Mubarak Everyone! We're getting ready here and this is our first Ramadan together. I'm getting over being sick and he's starting to get what I had.

when i was first going to egypt my family done me same way they was afraid i was gonna get killed or kidnapped or married and my husband wouldnt let me return home well i didnt listen and i went for 3 weeks and now i cant stay away i love it so much there and soon my husband will come here so proud of you for taking your stand and not listening to them cause people in egypt have great respect for women and some american men can take a few lessions from them good luck

Hello VJ family members-

It's been awhile since my last post but I have been a bit depressed behind the U.S. Embassy in Cairo's decision to deny my husband's CR1 visa.

On the interview day - my husband said everyone's interview took about 15minutes, where as his lasted for 1hour. Let me begin by saying that my husband's English though limited is well enough for he and I to communicate. On the interview day obviously he was a bit nervous due to his language problem but felt comfortable enough because he knows our marriage and paperwork is legitimate. While the woman began her questions, my husband mentioned he felt her upset and somewhat mad, making him feel quite intimidated during the process. He stated that even though she was speaking to him, what he felt was "fast" in her speech...he understood every question and answered it correctly until he got to a question about a short stay I had in a different state from where I now live. (May I add, I did not go into great detail with my husband about this 8month short stay in Ohio because quite honestly it was a horrible time for me). Anyway, he answered this question wrong & as soon as he did, the woman stops the interview and tells him that he will not be getting a visa because in her opinion she feels our marriage is not a legitimate marriage and that she will be returning back our paperwork to the U.S. for the USCIS office to conduct further investigation. She gave him a document and instructed him to mail that to me for my information and dismissed him just like that.

My husband immediately calls me to tell me how the entire process went and was confused about the denial because he took all the documents requested. He had numerous cell phone bills to show our "daily" communication and some emails though I did not print all of them because I felt it was so much (over a year and a half worth of daily chat & email messages), personal drawings my children made for him, and proof of packages we've sent to each other, pictures of my stay in Egypt (with his family)...all this didn't matter to her. I must add on important factor: MY HUSBAND & I HAVE A 15 YEAR AGE DIFFERENCE. I'M OLDER THAN HE.) But my husband is more mature, more a man than my children's father, who just happens to be older than me. I don't look 40 but in my early thirties...Age does not matter to us and both our families are so supportive of our marriage/union. My children talk to my husband weekly via cam-chat and by telephone. He is more a father to my children than their own biological father. I can go on and on about how true our marriage is.

Bottom line, I've contacted both my State Senator's office and my local Congresswoman and have asked their assistance in this matter. My local Congresswoman's office informed me that because I have contacted my State Senator and have requested their assistance, the Congresswoman office cannot intervene. I must chose one office to run the investigation/inquiry into our case. I have also called USCIS regarding the document the Embassy gave my husband and all they told me is that once the paperwork reaches their office, they will make the final decision and notify me. This scared me. I asked her, if before their office makes ANY KIND OF FINAL DECISION, will they allow my children and I to be interviewed so that they can see & hear from our mouth the legitimacy of my marriage. My children have bonded with my husband for over 1.5 years. They turn to him more than their biological father. He is the one they turn to and he has been there via cam and telephone for the ups and downs. He is a wonderful husband and step-father. USCIS could not guarantee me that I would be called. All she said was for me to wait for them to contact me.

Has anyone else had the same problem happen? Please help us. We need advice on how we should proceed. I am not going to give up the fight! Does anyone know if our case is pretty much done? Should we pretty much consider that his visa will never be granted? Do we throw in the towel per say???

HELP!

Thanking you in advance,

Lizz&Mohamed

dont give up we have the almost same problem we got approved for our k1 visa and waited for it to come when it did after 28 days we opened it and it was stamped cancelled without prejudice and didnt know why and said our file was sent back to staes for rejudacation on june 29 2010 we was crushed. im older than him by 25 years but we are so made for each other he is more of a man than my x-old men was. he has lots respect for me and treats me very well.i know what u mean when u say age diff.they think its a crime in egypt but usa dont see wrong. i have contacted my senator and hope he will help. let me know if u need help we can go through this together my man is from cairo

I got an aneurysm from trying to read that

means we as women arent stupid and can figure out what she is doing. she never wanted him to come to begin with and she didnt think he would really get his visa so when she knew he got it she backed out and had to come up with and excuse and im sure he doesnt know she talks about him here or he would defend his self cause no muslim will let someone speak bad about them if no proof to back it up

you must read my mind i try to say this before but you read my mind and say every thing i try to say earlier , you so smart , will be glad if you accept me as a frined here in vj

well the truth should be said thanks alovesa at least as a muslim you understand if she didnt love him from beginning and really wanted him with her she shouldnt have done all that stuff.im sure you and your fiancee are happy thats all matters she will never be happy cause she dont know what she wants or even who if she thinks chatting leads to divorce god knows she know angel shes an american and she chats we american women arent stupid i love my man but i dont chat just muslim men are the best cause they give lots respect to women dont let these people upset u.

Very well-said, Ahmed!

you dont know her she can be lying i know american women and u dont im an american maried to an egyptian man and im very happy u just cant go by what she says thats unfair to the man she sounds like she is trying to find a way out before he comes to states. should listen to both sides before u decide whos right. judge would laugh at her if she says i want a divorce on grounds of chatting on computer to friends he would not grant it im telling u even a judge in egypt want give he a divorce on those grounds she better have proof to back her up she will need it.

this is th most stupidiest stuff ive ever heard of everyone chats on yahoo or msn or any of the chat places nothing wrong with it as long as u are friends you dont know what he is doing or does he know what you are doing .who's to say u arent chatting with other men u shouldnt be mad i love my husband and he loves me he has friends there in egypt but id never divorce him cause he talks that th most stupidiest thing i ever heard of and the biggiest laugh thats just and easy way out of being married i love my egyptian man we been together for 3 years and i trust him. you maybe dont trust yourself thats why u want a divorce egyptian men arethe best men any woman can get the should be proud they are honest men more than the american men i know i was married to them. but you should sit back and think maybe u chatt and found someone else thats why u want divorce cause u have no proof he has and he has none u have. so when u show everyone proof here then we should believe u anyone can say my man chatts with other women big deal god knows you may also noone here can say u dont they not with u or not with him so dont make him out to be a bad man when u probably doing it yourselfand if any one feels sorry for her well i feel sorry for u u dont know her or him so dont judge them or judge him muslims r good men and honest.

Will one need a marriage certificate from a previous marriage during their interview for a K1 visa? She has the divorce certificate, and is not sure if she will need to take a copy of the previous marriage certificate along.

Thanks

no you just need your last divorce papers certified

I'll be seeing y'all on Monday.

why if u was approved u dont put the dates and dates for none was entered make people think u lie about being approved