Miss smarty pants

After he passes ANOTHER interview of course This is what we need prayers for! I will be sick/nervous until he is in my house. By then, I will know it's real

Are you gonna go wait outside at the next interview?

My tone is different because time has gone by. Its been 4 years since he got here. Its been 3 and a half years since we lost our child. Its been a horrible and rough ride and I am absolutely looking back sure he used me. But something happened on the way to today. I decided that I loved him and that it was all ok. I am 6 years older than I was when I met him. It was 5 years ago December that I got pregnant and so much time has gone by and there have been horrible horrible days that felt like they would last forever.

I think I just decided that I loved him and that I would love him all the way through this marriage, our divorce most likely and everything else that was coming. I think I realised I really loved him when I figured out he was not staying with me most likely and somehow I wanted to hold on to any good memory we had together. ( and there havent been that many honestly) He does have some wonderful qualities in the middle of his mood swings. Hes frightened and he depends on me alot for alot and I actually have depended on him for things too. I used to make a lot of money before he came here and my job fell apart. We lost our child..the one thing that probably would have tied us together in so many ways and I lost a big part of my innocence ,, if you can believe a 39 year old was innocent. I really was. I had no idea about the depths my sorrow could plunge or how much I could love before these past years. You see I dont think it matters if they stay or leave. Its sometimes whether we stay or leave in our own lives. Maybe running to north africa and journeying kept me alive in different ways. I wasnt guaranteed a happy ending. Maybe none of us are. Maybe the ones who lost in love won in amany other ways. Sometimes you can win the guy and lose yourself. Sometimes you can lose the guy and win.

I had my own EAT PRAY LOVE movie and in many ways, my own UNDER THE TUSCANY SUN movie. I make little or no sense to my husband who thinks I went crazy when I told him I know you dont love me but I dont care. I think it makes even less sense to the mena people who know who watch me continue to love him and do for him even after he disparaged me to all of them. I know he is leaving. I know perhaps I should be angry. But what can that win me now? Id rather remember the jasmine at night, Cheba Djenet singing..rai music and wind whipped nights.

I love him. I know hes leaving. But I loved him and I love him and I miss so much of what wasnt wrong.

I know I make little sense but if you have ever really really understood that you can love someone who isnt or couldnt stay, you will understand me... perhaps..

sigh....

That is all one of the most bittersweet and saddest stories I have ever read. There is such emotion in it that its captivating. You should write a novel. I am so sorry for the heartbreak you have endured. But it seems to have made you strong and I have all the best hopes for you going forward. I cant even imagine all that you have shouldered. Bless you.

Then.....of course.......there are cases where it just doesnt matter how many visits or how much you love each other or how much evidence you submit. Sometimes they simply dont like the beneficiary. Period.

any word yet? Have you mailed it back yet?

Yay!!!!

yes never surrender

Thanks guys. Im sure that there must be some higher reason we arent even aware of yet. We will get through it. We have faced our share of challenges, yet we are still together and probably stronger for it. It is hard not having him beside me today. But all good things come in their own time, I guess. We wont give up. We will live our days together happily ever after one way or another, whether here or eventually there. For now....we just wait. Maybe God is teaching me patience.

I believe love is a choice. We find someone we are compatible with and we make it work. I can not tell you what choice to make, but you say you love each other. If that is true, then you already have the best gift on earth in each other. And the two of you together need to find a common ground to make it work. I am seeing more and more.....that anything worth having is worth fighting for. Good luck to you in your decision.

Does this link help?

http://morocco.usembassy.gov/news/key-mission-personnel.html

Yes. Perfect. Thank you.

I'm pretty sure they don't provide names to the public. But, you can address something to the attention of the Consular Chief.

Ok. I know it's a new guy. We pretty much all knew the name of the last Chief. Oh well. Thanks anyway.

Hey guys!

Anyone know the name of or email address of the supervisor at the consulate? Thanks.

I am so sorry, I will continue to keep you in prayer that you may both have the strength to go through this pain. You have each other, he is your husband regardless of their decisions and as soon as possible pay him a visit. I do not know your current situation, nor can I claim to know your pain but we are all here to lend support.

God Bless,

Mimi

Thank you. I have tickets for march already now for me and my daughter.

WOW!!!! I am sooooo shocked and feel so bad to hear this.... I was really rooting for you and hoping for a good out come for you... This news from you is very discouraging :0( I am so sorry... I just don't know what to say :0(

Thanks. I dont know what to say either. Im still in shock.

Glad you're in touch with a group of people who can help & support you.

Just saw another cr1 denied out of Casa today. Tougher and tougher on some, yet the one with the red flags described yesterday was approved. Casa seems to be totally unpredictable...

Yeah. It was mine....again.

I feel like I have been beaten today. We are both sad about it. But we will get through it. Im not bothering to try to keep it at the Consulate. It was all a waste of effort last time. Ill just wait for uscis to get it. We will overcome this in time. At least ive been on vj and seen enough cases that I know what to expect.

Well.....we were denied the CR1 in Casa. Our case is being sent back to USCIS. I guess we will get through it. I feel like my world caved in today. I just ......don't know what to say.

Thanks!

I will know the outcome in six hours. Pray for us guys!

You all have been a giant source of support these last few years. Now I ask for each of you to pray for us tonight as you go to bed that we will hear a positive result in the morning. I love my husband so much and want nothing more than to have him by my side. Thank you all!

He has an interview coming up, and I'm confused about whether I should go or not. I know this man is not the same man that I feel in love with over the internet, and I truly feel as if I was con by a professional conartist. I don't desire no evil towards him because there are some many oppurtunities here in America. But to sign for the 10yr visa, I can't do it at all. I can count the words on my one hand how many conversation we had since he been here since he got here the last 2yrs. I'm completely embarrashed that I even got myself into this type of situation and I feel for any other women or men that find themselves in this type of situation. My heart is gentle and I don't want him to be deported so I wonder if they can give him a lie detector test?

Does he live with you? And if so, how can you have only talked a few times in two years? Sounds fishy to me. Uscis doesnt do lie detector tests that I know of. They base decisions on the totality of the relationship. It doesnt sound like you really have one, based just on what you said.

We got our Notice of Intent to Revoke...I am so nervous now! Denial was based on inconsistencies in his interview. Just wanted to keep you updated. I am so scared right now

Im so sorry. Answer every question. Good luck.

please note that it may take several weeks for you to reach uscis.................

Please can anyone tell me how long it wll take and what i have to do ? And explain to me ...thanks :'(

Basically, they were not convinced of your relationship. It will take a couple of months at least to get back to USCIS. It may take several months after that for them to review it.

Your US citizen spouse will have a chance in several months to contest the findings if she is issued a NOIR (notice of intent to revoke). Some people may tell you to have her Congress~person try to keep it at the Consulate. I have found that there really is no changing their minds once they have decided.

It is going to take several more months before you will have more information. What questions did they ask of you?

The immigrant has to have a sponsor. So...you can just not sponsor her. But I really dont know about if she or he could simply find another sponsor for her later.

Two and half years of waiting for the Consulate to approve our visa. The man said that the visa is approved and to submit these additional documents as he he can. We should have all these items completed by Monday.

Congratulations!!!!!! Wow! I am so happy for you both!

Pray for me....I'm next!

If you are in Florida, then you are in luck. There is no waiting requirement in Florida. With no joint assets and no kids, it can be done very quickly. Sorry you have to go through it though. Best wishes.

Good luck to you. Only a few days here too