Kuntriooman

How do some women work a full time job, fix dinner, manage the house, take care of children, have time for their husbands, and STILL have time for themselves???

I think 2 of these 6 is PLENTY.

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According to a lot of these Christian-based books/audio on marriages, women are not primarily DESIGNED to work full time jobs & don't get the same satisfaction men do from working. Husbands should understand that if their wives are putting energy into work, they won't have as much energy to do all the things they were actually designed to do.

Do you agree or disagree?

(Not that Friday afternoon is the best time to start a discussion.)

Nat;

My aunt is in a LDR (married) I think it's 25 years now; raised 5 kids here in states/put them through college -- husband still in Jamaica, had her own business and finished her college education...I asked her how she managed and she told me she had to make and TAKE time for herself...

I want to sleep but I have about a few of my cousins comming in from Jamaica tonight plane should land in a few minitues...I can't wait to sink my teeth in the goodies.

Morning Yardies!

Thanks again everyone for the congrats! It feels nice to have some progress.

I have some little rants this morning.

Okay 1) How did people in Jamaica get this idea that they could come to the U.S. by having someone here write them an 'invitation letter'?? Where did this rumor begin & why am I being asked to do so when the woman's son lives here?? Oh yeah, because HE'S NOT STRAIGHT! Well, he better get straight then! Why would I write a letter for someone I barely know that would put me in a financially responsible position for that person if that method even worked??

This is hysterical.. I don't know where they get this from and when the talk about the invitation they are so very very sure the process works. I sent a couple of letters just to show them. Those request stoped.

Saturday is my birthday ya'll!! I've started eating chocolate icecream of all kinds to celebrate. I think it is simply the best year ever!

Wakey; this process did work...but that was years ago. I haven't sent an invite letter since 2002.

Nevermind...I think I was in a panic. Hubby says that is the time that he had to come in on the visa....ok...now I gotta go figure out what evidence I need to do adjust status

lawd............ it reach ar brain

luv yah!

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>She replied, "Roll out more hose, mon, you ain't nowhere near de fire!"

ROFL!!!!!

u baxide...I know that would be your favorite part...u are one mad woman

but see yah! watch pot a cuss kekkle. who more mad dan u!!

I is not a madooman...I is a sane ooman for di remainder of the year

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>She replied, "Roll out more hose, mon, you ain't nowhere near de fire!"

ROFL!!!!!

u baxide...I know that would be your favorite part...u are one mad woman

jg - chat bout christmas is coming...BOAL!!!!

wah name so

[quote name=dillon' date='Nov 4 2009, 03:14 PM' post='3464541]

Hubby must have laid down the law before he got here...we haven't had one call from someone asking for something.

That's what I'm talking about.

Ells it's not a rumor that use to be the way back in the day it doesn't work like that anymore that's all it would take to get a a visitor's visa was an inviation letter. I had family members come to my graduation with just the invitation and the letter --- sorry u have go through that but HOLD YOUR GROUND! I wouldn't even feed into that. Are these request comming from your husband's people.

Boy oh boy, well people need to be informed that it's a whole lot more complicated than that nowadays! I refuse to even speak to anyone that calls from JA now because it's for hubby anyway & he can talk to who he wants to but I have no business. His family did he & his mother WRONG once we vacated the house. They took everything out of the house (including all the dishes I brought) & left it empty & this was not authorized. If they think we somehow owed them something (?????), well that's all they'll ever see from us for the rest of their lives! I won't even bring a pair of dirty shoelaces for not one of them!!! Anyway, another side rant...sorry! My point with that is, I don't have any reason to speak to anyone in JA so I let him answer the house phone. Even his daughter's mother has no business with us since his daughter is now in St. Maarten with his Mom until we are in a place where we can file for her. So the house phone is his line now since I don't pick it up. The lady who asked for the letter was a woman he worked with...not even a relative or anyone particularly close to him. I told him he can tell her it doesn't work that way & even if it did, I'm not putting myself in a financially responsible position for anyone other than him. Then any time anyone else calls they are asking him to ask me to find them someone. CHO!!!

hubby and i sort of went down that road before too. finally i asked him if anyone ever called him to say hi, how are you doing, hows life, hows your wife, what's new?........nope, cuz every phone call was someone wanting something. it is hubby's responsibility to stand up for he two of you....trust me, the calls will eventually fade away..

sad

Hi everyone.. Just taking a minute to say hello to every. We had a GREAT time in Atlantic City, I have to go to class now. Steve and I just wanted to say hi.... Talk to you soon!!

OOMAN...wah u do pon yah!

Ells it's not a rumor that use to be the way back in the day it doesn't work like that anymore that's all it would take to get a a visitor's visa was an inviation letter. I had family members come to my graduation with just the invitation and the letter --- sorry u have go through that but HOLD YOUR GROUND! I wouldn't even feed into that. Are these request comming from your husband's people.

Boy oh boy, well people need to be informed that it's a whole lot more complicated than that nowadays! I refuse to even speak to anyone that calls from JA now because it's for hubby anyway & he can talk to who he wants to but I have no business. His family did he & his mother WRONG once we vacated the house. They took everything out of the house (including all the dishes I brought) & left it empty & this was not authorized. If they think we somehow owed them something (?????), well that's all they'll ever see from us for the rest of their lives! I won't even bring a pair of dirty shoelaces for not one of them!!! Anyway, another side rant...sorry! My point with that is, I don't have any reason to speak to anyone in JA so I let him answer the house phone. Even his daughter's mother has no business with us since his daughter is now in St. Maarten with his Mom until we are in a place where we can file for her. So the house phone is his line now since I don't pick it up. The lady who asked for the letter was a woman he worked with...not even a relative or anyone particularly close to him. I told him he can tell her it doesn't work that way & even if it did, I'm not putting myself in a financially responsible position for anyone other than him. Then any time anyone else calls they are asking him to ask me to find them someone. CHO!!!

dem rass lucky...I LAID some rules before my husband got here look before we were even got to filing the K-1...so, he LAID his own rules to his family before he got here...nuff said

cho...mi ago ansah my phone...bettah yet Ells u can forward dem to my numbah mi ave tori fi dem

Ells...u too nice...I wish someone would ask me to hook dem up....

wow; We don't have that problem...but den again mi a madooman.

Dat tru!

galang

I agree Ells about the letter.

People have been asking me that too. And my sister is saying she can get her boyfriend out here like that but she only want him to stay for 2 weeks.

WTH 2 weeks its not that easy.

wow; We don't have that problem...but den again mi a madooman.

Morning Yardies!

Thanks again everyone for the congrats! It feels nice to have some progress.

I have some little rants this morning.

Okay 1) How did people in Jamaica get this idea that they could come to the U.S. by having someone here write them an 'invitation letter'?? Where did this rumor begin & why am I being asked to do so when the woman's son lives here?? Oh yeah, because HE'S NOT STRAIGHT! Well, he better get straight then! Why would I write a letter for someone I barely know that would put me in a financially responsible position for that person if that method even worked??

Between requests for invitation letters & everyone & their uncle/aunt/cousin/brother/sister wanting me to be a matchmaking service & 'FIND THEM' someone so they can come a farrin, I'm starting to get a little teeny tiny eensy bit ANNOYED!! People really have no idea how complex & involved & difficult this process is!!

2) Why did my co-worker 'friend' (I'm using the word loosely) who has been seeing a MARRIED man for nearly 5 years post this on her FB as her status a few days ago???

"*********** was shopping and talked to a lady a bit older than myself. The lady pondered why a woman who she knows who is young but has put up with her man being unfaithful. I responded some peole are afraind to be alone, or of rejection so they live in denial. I then said, "if he is not good enough to be good to you, then he is not good enough to be with you", prophetic and resoundingly true."

All I have to say to that is B*TCH PLEASE!!

What a @#$&*^ HYPOCRITE!!

Okay, thanks for reading....end rant!

Ells it's not a rumor that use to be the way back in the day it doesn't work like that anymore that's all it would take to get a a visitor's visa was an inviation letter. I had family members come to my graduation with just the invitation and the letter --- sorry u have go through that but HOLD YOUR GROUND! I wouldn't even feed into that. Are these request comming from your husband's people.

sus; I have a better name dan baby mother...but they may ban me from the board if I type it

I know some women are just jealous; again, it depends on the circumstances I mean...if I find out dat my man lef mi fi a next ooman mi naw go freely mek my pickeny go weh wid im n im ooman (u mad)...is dat selfish (maybe)...but a fi mi decision...some of these ladies turn their feelings into straight hate and war but try to look at it on the other side. Forget about the foolishness for a second and say this woman is leveled -- it's still going to be hard (worse) if dem have hate fi the father and the new ooman... I have a hard time letting my son go on the weekend and we in the same state...(yes, call mi madooman) cause a me dat...

I understand that, Tre. But, there comes a point when you look at what she is doing to those kids and using those kids and you say what is exactly the reason behind this. I mean, seriously, being upset or hurt is one thing; but when it's over, it's over. He's moved on. It's not right to use the kids as pawns just so you can inflict as much pain and suffering on the father as possible. Or mother, if the case may be. There comes a time when you really do have to look at the kids and say I can't do this anymore cause I am causing permanent damage to them that maybe even therapy won't fix.

I don't agree with the woman using the kids as pawns....if there was no possible way on God's earth for me to do better for me and my children then I would let them go, but mek stone kill mi fus...mi ago try...I would NEVER keep them from their father out of jealousy or hate that would only hurt them...

you can't reason with a person when they hurt and have hate in their heart...that's my experience

I spelled MATHS on purpose...lawd unu slow tideh!

Sunny u baxide...i've been calling you --- wanted to find out if my lil bro know smadi from Ochi

She ignore yuh on purpose

u seet...she do dat all di while

WHO IS GOOD IN MATHS!

Sunny u baxide...i've been calling you --- wanted to find out if my lil bro know smadi from Ochi

Hi yardies

Hey Bunz,

Tell me what happened when you changed your name

I want to be Jamaican Smiley Queen

and Hush @ Dada

go to "My Controls" and select "Change Display Name"

be warned you only get two name changes every 360 days

i learned the hard way

sarry Bunz

opps I mean snail...no wait deh Bunz

sus; I have a better name dan baby mother...but they may ban me from the board if I type it

I know some women are just jealous; again, it depends on the circumstances I mean...if I find out dat my man lef mi fi a next ooman mi naw go freely mek my pickeny go weh wid im n im ooman (u mad)...is dat selfish (maybe)...but a fi mi decision...some of these ladies turn their feelings into straight hate and war but try to look at it on the other side. Forget about the foolishness for a second and say this woman is leveled -- it's still going to be hard (worse) if dem have hate fi the father and the new ooman... I have a hard time letting my son go on the weekend and we in the same state...(yes, call mi madooman) cause a me dat...

JQ all dem crazy #### baby mama is a mess...It must be a Jamaican thing if they were in america they would see seh if yuh nah wuk yuh cant survive. My fiance baby mother dont work either so I have heard this song before. We put his son on the K-1 so everything will be done at once. She called yesterday saying she dont have no $$$ to take the passport pics for the Medical and he must send it. He told her to work it out and dont stress him. She find the $$$ today she took him to get the pics. Sometimes the daddy's just have to stand up to dem...

I hope everything work out well for you...

noon ladies;

not a Jamaican thing at all it happens here as well...another reason if you get involved with a man and he has kids these things have be discussed before you decide to file -- I just feel sorry for the kids and the man need to step up and hold their ground...there is no way I would let my infant child come to the states at such a young age (it hard) to be separated from your child and I can't even imagine dat-- but den again a me dat...the circumstances will have to be really, really bad for me to let my child go and even then...if the child is older I would have to get to know the stepmother...but then again it depends on the circumstances -- regardless of what the child's mother is going on with -- she's always going to want a connection to her child's father...if she pass her place then the man needs to step up and handle it... and I soooooooo DISLIKE the term

"BABY MOTHER"

Believe me daddy is very involved I told him I am not growing these kids on my own.

dats good...make sure he stays involved...taking about school...my husband is able to do math from left to right...it confused the hell out of me. My dad does the same thing...but I was thought to do it from right to left...right?

I think a big part of it is definitely the at home influence - When DJ's son was living with DJ's mom / sister, he knew all his multiplication tables at age 5 - He went to the other grandmother, and forgot them all - there was no reinforcement of what he learned in school.

sus I had to learn the entire table from pre school we had to say it every morning lawd ow mi remember it

1 times 1 is 1

1 times 2 is 2

It was like a song in my head...when I came to the states and saw that the kids didn't know it at age 8 I was in disbelief...they would have beat me in school and I would have been ashmed if I didn't know it. I was so afraid of having to wear the dunce hat and sit on the stool in the corner at school.

my stepson is9 and deoes not know his times table...like I said we have a lot of catching up to do.

dillon;

he has a great step-mom to work with him and you have the backing of the school, but make sure daddy gets involved as well.

TL; where ya'll going

dillon I have to call u weekend...u know how my mind go aready so if I forget forgive me

JG...i SENT U A MSG

Yeah, we thought about that, but since vistor visa are so unpredictable we decided to do k2 and they try for a vistor when she returned, so they can see that we do send her back.

I'll let you know how that works - we are going to be doing that with Jr in a couple weeks.

Do they deny visitor visa for children?? :blush:

wah gwaane sis...mawin ladies

Yes, they can.

Later ladies...unu walk good.