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    Australian Beneficiaries - Packet 3 to Interview date

    in Australia and New Zealand

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    Thanks ladies for your words of encouragement, it means a lot. And it definatly helps hearing personal stories from you guys

    as we are all in the same boat. Im going to work on staying positive for the next few weeks, and hopefully when I get off the plane and see

    Matt it will all be worth it. and as it starts to get colder in the mornings in Melbourne, I remember last winter waiting at the tram stop freezing saying that I cant wait to get back to Las Vegas and have 40 degreees and sunshine everyday! well for most of the year!

    Australian Beneficiaries - Packet 3 to Interview date

    in Australia and New Zealand

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    Hey guys..so Im leaving for the USA in 1 month..and I am completely freaking out. I never imagined I would ever feel this

    way when it was my dream to leave my life here and move to the USA to be with my man.but ever since I got approved I have this overwhelming

    sense of fear that I making the wrong decision. I have lived for 18 months in the USA, and I enjoyed it but living their temporary id a lot different to the permanent move Im about to make. The one thing that bothers me the most is that I will never have the opportunity to move back to Australia at any point if I am unhappy as my fiance has a kid so he has made it clear from the start that he can never leave the USA, well not anytime soon. So I have to be happy there otherwise I'll be coming home alone. And Im sure all of you who are leaving Australia are aware of how good we have it here in terms of economy, healthcare, annual leave etc etc..I wont go on...and Im trying to be positive when I think about my future in the USA, but I am struggling. And the fact that Im even thinking this way is not how it should be when Im meant to be getting married in a few months. Things with Matt have been really bad, as he can tell how my attutude has changed to moving over and he is getting fed up with my negative attitude when he is beyond excited to have me back forever. The last few months I havn't been sleeping properly..the first thing I think of in the morning when I wake is this decision. It has consumed me, and I love Matt so much and I want to go over there and make a go of it, and probably things wont be so bad. We have been waiting for this moment for the last 18 months, but the way Im feeling right now is heart breaking. Friends have told me to go over and take the whole 3 months before I marry to make sure its definalty what i want, but its going to be hard to walk away then. I am an emotional wreck right now. Sorry to spill my heart out, but atleast I know you guys have some understanding of this situation.

    Australian Beneficiaries - Packet 3 to Interview date

    in Australia and New Zealand

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    After getting married (and planning it) I decided I'd have preferred to elope! 3 months is totally possible, but it's pretty stressful (ask Astrid as well!)

    I had a wedding with husbands family in attendance but my parents couldn't make it. I didn't (and still don't) feel it was fair to my parents so we made sure that we recorded the ceremony and when we go back to Australia we'll have a mini reception for all my family and friends and watch the ceremony while there.

    I personally feel like had we had a private ceremony and then had the reception with his family & friends, and then another at home, no-one would have felt left out.

    Perhaps prior to you moving you could set up a webcam or skype or something with your husband? Or his family? My sister and her husband have met my husband in person because they came for the wedding, but my parents have only met him a couple of times over webcam. Tony really struggles with dad's accent, sometimes mum too, so I think an in person meeting would make his head hurt less (he has tinnitus from when he was in Iraq). It's really important to him that they know he's a good guy and will look after me. Mum knows that from everything I've told her while we were dating and engaged and now.

    It's totally and completely up to you and your fiance. Hawaii would be gorgeous but you would want to be sure you don't regret not having family there... but at least you're in a good spot for honeymooning!

    What are you "feeling" right now? A private courthouse ceremony with your best buddies to witness and a party later?

    Hey Guys, Thanks for the feedback.. I ended up having a good chat with my parents, and we all aggreed that they wouldnt fly over for the wedding

    but they would thrown a party back in New Zealand next Feb when we are over there. And Dad will do some kind of blessing ceremony as he is a Minister...my parents asked me to check if Matts parents would like to come over for it too..and they are! His parents are very excited...so anyway that takes care of my whole dilemma with my family....know im still confused about to do for the actual wedding..matt is very happy with having a get together with his friends and family and then we go to hawaii and have a simple ceremony...i can see whats going to happen i am going to make no set decision..I will just get over there and realise that ####### I have 3 weeks before my 90days is up..so what the hell do we do..ha..no i hope it doesnt come to that...

    and congrats alex and astrid! :dance:

    Australian Beneficiaries - Packet 3 to Interview date

    in Australia and New Zealand

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    Received passport with visa inside on Friday! Will book my flight this Thursday (payday)..aiming for departure in April sometime..was wondering what people think of having a small wedding first, then having a bigger celebration in say a years time. The thought of having a big wedding within 3 months of arriving freaks me out..i know my immediate family feel like they should come over..I just dont feel its enough time for my family to come over from NZ...it will cost between $8000-$1000 for the four of them to fly over not counting all other expensives...and travelling overseas for my parents is a big deal..certainly not something they would do on a whim. I would really like them to meet my fiances parents before we marry, just so they can not worry about me too much moving overseas! Im not interested in a extravagent wedding as its not my style, but I would like to have something to celebrate us. Thinking of a small ceremony somewhere in San diego somewhere and a bbq back at fiances parents house..maybe around 60 guests (mostly matts family, and mutual friends)...but then I start to think about it too much and completely overwhelm myself (given that im stressed enough with just moving country, etc etc) so I just think Id rather elope to Hawaii just Matt and I , and have a small ceremony there combined with a honeymoon...any maybe have a bbq with close friends and his family when we get back..im so indecisive. i guess my fear of having a courthouse wedding first and a bigger ceremony in a years time, I will not have the same affect as we will already be married..does anyone have the same issues...or am I doing my own head in too much? ha

    Australian Beneficiaries - Packet 3 to Interview date

    in Australia and New Zealand

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    How exciting!! The interview is nothing to stress about...look forward to it because it will be the day that this part of your journey comes to an end!

    Yeah its kind of surreal that I have finally got to this stage, I have to keep reminding myself that this is really happening lol.

    I have booked a night at the Westin Sydney which is 1 Martin Place so not far at all from the consulate, so will enjoy a nice sleep in before my 10am appointment

    Australian Beneficiaries - Packet 3 to Interview date

    in Australia and New Zealand

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    hey guys, just wanted to mention about the car insurance issue...when I was living in las vegas last year I had a car for the 18 months I lived there and had no problems with obtaining car insurance with my new zealand drivers licence. I actually dealt with two different companies in that 18 month period and had no problems at all....I think one may have charged me a little more coz I didn't have a usa licence but other than that it was fine.

    Australian Beneficiaries - Packet 3 to Interview date

    in Australia and New Zealand

    Posted

    Okay, restrictions on travelling are this --

    - Once you get married you need to apply for AOS. Until your greencard has come through you cannot leave or you are considered to have abandoned your application of AOS.

    - HOWEVER, when you apply for AOS you can also apply for AP (Advanced Parole), this document allows you to re-enter if you need to leave PRIOR to receiving your greencard. This is a letter so you do need to wait till you receive the AP document before you can leave.

    - Once you have your greencard, the only restriction is that you don't leave for more than 12 months at a time.

    - If your choose to get American citizenship (eligiblity later... 3 years I think), then the 12 month restriction is removed and you can come and go as you please.

    Based on what you wrote about wanting to go back home after about a year (I'm doing the same, hopefully August as a surprise for my family 'cause that's my bday) then all you need to do is make sure you have your greencard in your hot little hand before leaving. It should be fine as long as you have applied for AOS and received it. Otherwise you'll be relying on the AP. Whilst I don't think I'll need the AP, it's free when applying for AOS so I'm going to "just in case".

    Hope that helps :D

    Thanks everyone for thier insight into this, I am starting to understand what happens with this next stage.

    And congrats to those who got thier Visa today! :dance:

    Im off work today with a chest infection, but managed to get my police check done this morning, so thats one thing to cross of the list!

    Australian Beneficiaries - Packet 3 to Interview date

    in Australia and New Zealand

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    Good luck to those having their interview tomorrow!

    Just a random question, does anyone know if there are any restrictions in regards to travelling out of the USA, once the wedding has taken place and I have filled out the paperwork after the wedding. As I was thinking of coming back home (New Zealand - where my family lives) and having a gathering for those family member's that couldnt make it to the wedding. It would be maybe 1 year after the wedding, I dont assume there would be an issue, but wondered if anyone knew the answer :unsure:

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