Miss_Monkey

Same thing is happening to me, my mom was denied the visa twice. My husband gave her all the necessary papers but they don't even want to see them.. first time she request it was just for visit me, but the second she ask the visa so she could travel with me (I am pregnant, and was having some difficulties) they say if your daughter is having a bad moment how is she going to travel anyway and say no!

Now we wonder if we ask again when i deliver the baby if they will keep saying no... this is freaking ridiculous, my mom like your mil have zero intentions to stay in USA... this is so frustrating...

I'm in the same boat. I have a couple of friends and I know quiet a lot of people here, but they all have their own busy lives and not much time for socializing. I often try to get closer to people I associate with online or at school but people tend to keep me on a distance. Noone is interested in friendships anymore, esp not with someone who is a little different. Once they become an adult and they have their friends they grew up with, they feel complete and keep everyone else on a distance, so it sucks for all us immigrants who have to start their life from scratch. Luckily I have 2 toddlers, go to school here FT, so I'm pretty busy myself.

with 2toddles i bet u are busy.. i can help u lol hehehe

lol what u eat its called "cecina" is a hard meat that become hard after putting under the sun... then u fried it have to be delicious and about the rice.... what can i tell u we eat i guess ecuador and peru have similitarities.... we eat everything with rice and we DONT PUT PEPPER IN TEH RICE, my husband also put pepper and butter..... (what a sin!) but u know what i think we grown up with some flavors in our mouth that only us understand.... u are not going to deny that ceviche is one of teh most delicious meals ever right? and to be fair and to be fair from northameroca what i like is celery with cream sour.... (even when teh cream sour have no taste)

You don't eat cuy?! What kind of Peruana are you? (ja ja)I could say the same about Ecuadorian food. Whether I am visiting Ecuador or I am at home, arroz sale de mi nalga. And they never put pepper on the arroz or anything else, either, so nothing ever has any taste. I must constantly remind Mrs. T-B. (mi esposa) to leave the pepper-shaker ON the table, at all times. Also not to offend anyone, but she and I speculate that her Mexican friends' husbands (who are all machistas) are machista because they constantly use too much tabasco sauce, si man.

I should add: A couple of trips ago, we traveled south through La Balsa so that I could visit Peru. We stayed overnight in Namballe, in the far north. Only one restaurant was open, and they offered us "carne de res." It was very different from anything that I had ever eaten before -- very tough, almost impossible to chew. We learned (while still eating) that it was donkey, si man!

miss monkey .....I am now waiting for my peruvian financee to have her interview , and if all goes well , she will be here in july . I worry that she will be in same situation as you . She is from Lima and I live in rural Georgia . A big difference all in itself. Maybe a Peruvian group from visa journey could be started where all concerns can be discussed as well as anything else you want to talk about to help each other and to socialize or get togther or whatever . Just a thought .

this could be nice boy, cause coming from Lima Capital city if you ever being there to small cities or towns are ahugeeeeeeeeeeeee difference!

you are sooooooooooooooo funny!!! i dont eat cuy or gato or dog!!!!

i just miss the flavors of my country sorry but northamerican food can be very plain and repetotive with the falvors everything have lots of butter or lots of sugar or lots of bbq sauce adn the only spicy they know is the tabasco come on who can live like that!!! (i am not trying to offend anyone)

Just think that when she is here, things at first are ok cause verything is new and even with the internet and all that eventually the homesick comes... i use to be an aoutgoingperson and now i dont feel like doing anything....

research what she likes to do and join her in classes doing my painting classes releaseme in certain way thank you for read my post...

Thank you very much for read my post and for take time replying me, i will try to find some volunteer thing to do i will keep posted

I know doesnt exist a magic pill to heal the pain but as u say maybe time....

Thank you Udella, as u can see I am stick to the computer reading ur replies, make me feel more "in company"

Thank you again!

thank you very much for the tip

Thank you people for your replies,

Could be nice just to read in some place the solution to this "issue" i talk to my husband, talk, cry, yell, i told him in many ways, he has few friends but he as many northamericans i guess works 2 jobs so he doesnt socialize as much...

I will try to take the advices of joining the community college, i though about that, work i will love too, but as some one here said dont work in anything that you dont like, well i did jkust to have some pocket money as a waitress, and i was kinda fired just because i dont jump into the people to get them and later on get their tips! i am not use to that too much dramam between the waitress here... i will just have to wait to see what productive thing i can do with my life...

Latino people around here, i saw some, mostly when they are working, they are mostly mexicans, and mexicans are like a clan they get together only between other mexicans, not many peruvians around... any way

I think that i have just to hang on and try to move forward right?

nobody said will be easy, but nobody said will be this hard either....

different "cultures" for sure .. miss my food, i cook, and even when husband and stepdaughter eat everything i cook, i never heard them saying this is delicious...or this is nice they just eat... i mean is not that i want tohear how great i am all the time, but could be nice to feel appreciate....

grrrr! maybe i am just to sensitive today ... sorry

Just for teh records my husband is a great guy he do appreciate somethings i do like my paints...but if i speand hours cleaning and making thsi place a home is too much to ask for a nice word?

I was reading some post here and i read one that said "Feeling alone" by Fragola, The first thing that came to my mind when I read that post was 4 years and she still feel that bad?... I ama here 8 months, and still trying to find out my place, my husband is nice and he try his best to make me happy, but i still feel lonely and not in place... have no idea how to describe this feeling better....

I took painting classes once a week and go to gym any other day, I drive and can go out wherever I want, but I feel is not the same to go to the cinema, to the mall or just for a walk ALONE, it just doesnt feel good, and nstead of make me feel happy , just depress me more , is not that back in my country I use to have a bunch of friends around all the time, but, the few I have the few I was sure I can count on with, plus being at work everyday give me the dosis of socialize I need, here is just the same routine, wake up clean , go out food shoipping or gym or whatever, come keep cleaning, cook, watch tv, paint, check the plants, I mean seems that a nice confortable life right? but I need friends, need to talk with people of my own age, the only person i talk with is his daughter and believe me people most of teh time i preffer just to keep in mute in front of her (this relationship stemother-stepdaughter is for another topic.. too long and too dramtic to describe it now) husband say go and make some friends , but is not that easy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ther eis a girl around my corner who invite me to her house, the times i went she is always busy and i feel a bit unconfortable to just interrupt her.

I had a live already made in my country, friends already made throu the years, people here are the same everybody have it own life, and one for sure cant make friends from day to night, good friends take time to do.

I just feel like I born again and that I have to start from scratch...no body know me, no body know what i am able to do, what i know, my studies mean nothing here, i apply to many jobs and they dont even callme for an interview for being a receptionist!!!!!

here, finally I got to the US. I had been here for 3 weeks...now just waiting for the papers..... hpw are u how is ur husband? whats going on with you...

Hi everybody....

how u being doing.. I just got time to come back so whats going on?

Miss Monkey, This is Mr Monkey. We are bringing the dog from Peru, not to Peru. jejeje. anyway cost is about $600. +the cost of his pen.

Mamamimi, whats going on with u!!!!! girl dont allow this ugly people upset you!

As everybody told u before maybe tomorrow u will have a CC!!! imagine that.. keep imagining this moment...when finally happens will be amazing!

Anyway just to relax urself, dont u wanna come by my house and help me to pack??? husband is just planning to put my clothes inside the suitcase..and mom want nothing to do with it... a hand could be great! (I need fashion advises too!) smile and keep positive!

I am planning to bring my dog to Peru, have all teh paperwork....but my airport? or airline told me that I have to hire a moving company or something like I askd and theyc oem witha pric of 2.500$...! crazy price....

Anyone have any experience with this topic?

Bythe way if this thread doesnt belong here feel free to remove it!

Thank u!

Just send your wife all the arsenal she needs and you will be fine!! Glad you got case complete TomD Good luck!!

GREAT NEWS VJ FRIENDS... OUR INTERVIEW WENT WELL. MY VISA WAS APPROVED!!!

Mr Monkey and I arrived at 8:00 am for our 8:45 appt. We did not wait on line long outside. Maybe 2 mins. We went through security and then right inside to the waiting area, where we waited and waited and waited. Process took 5 hrs. Whew!!

After about 3 hours we were called to window #13...the lady there were grumpy looking, she hardly looked at us, she asked few questions, about my husband past life..previous marriage and kids, change my pictures for the new ones I had there (thanks God cause the previous one were awful)... thensaid: wait the consular officer is going to call you....

again we wait for the other 2 hours, the unfriendly embassy was almost empty when we finally were called... another officer attend us...he run teh interview in english and the most amount of question were for Mr.Monkey some for me.. and thats all they gave us the pink thing and went to DHL...pay the 20 soles...and that is on wednesday I will have my passport

Now I am travelling to US on saturday.... a lot of things to do, pack, think, and so so so............

Just wanna leave you guys a note.. i will keep reading to see what going on with u but this will be a very busy week!

Tom D get a human and talk to she!!!

I have everything for tomorrow interview will keep posted so far please pray and wish me luck ...

Tom D!!!! in my defense here in Lima u can not make the medical till they give you a letter saying ur process is finish... and even teh vaccines u cant put them until the doctor give u the order as I said there are only 3 doctors authorized to do it.... so no for me

So people short story.. I GOT MY MEDICALS!!!!!!! A long story... but will give u details later, maybe could be useful for the peruvians applicants .... (Teya's husband ) right now I just wanna go out and relax! girls night, I need it!!!!!!!!!!!husband comes tomorrow so things will be ok...

Talk tomorrow people I will drink a beer in your names

Congratsssssssssssss TOMD!!!!! Emily you are next!!! OMG isnt this exciting!!!..

OK...people do you want to read how was my day today? let me give u the long version, I really need to do catharsis... so... here I go...

9.20 mom called me at the office: "embassy called you, they said u can go there and pick up ur letter for the medical tests, oh and ur appoinment is on monday!", I was like wow!!!! .... took a taxi to the embassy, reach there probably by 9.50, someone ask me to wait in line, I was the first, by 10-10.05 someone go out, "what do u need miss?" I said: "I am here to get my letter for the medical" they said "oh! I am sorry we only give that letter from 9-10" ( WTFrak! I was here earlier and u just come out), any way I said: "ok", called husband and he told me to ask for a northamerican person... my sweet baby, he didnt realize that I never pass throuth the main door, they keep everybody outside like in a high security prision... any way after 4 attempts, finally the guy had mercy of me and request my Id, allow me to go inside, wait a lil bit and got letter...

Now, they give it today and the interview is on monday! so.... have to run for the medicals!!! there are only 3 doctors in Lima that are allowed to do the test... took another taxi 10.45, by that time one of the doctors will be close, she only see people until 11, the other until 12,so I was hopefull, is one is close the other will be open... reach to the clinic ... one consultory: "sorry lady no appointments till 16th" Me: "are u kidding me! my appointment is on monday" ... "I am sorry no dates avaliable til that day"... run to the other consultory that by that time suppose to be closed...great they are still open!!!.. request the medical..."sorry no space until the 20th"....called inmediatly to the last doctor...ring, ring, ring... no body answer... called husband he said explain our situation!!! (he was really pushing me to get the medical) the lady at the counter just listen my husband, he was speaking a bit angry, the lady said let me see if the doctor can see u.... she go in and after few minutes come out "the doctor willl see u please give me ur passport" ...OMG!!! I dont have it with me, this was like last minute thing!...(plus nobody carries the passport just because... well I dont!!!)... after asking, begging and even crying ..."please I swear I bring it later" ..."no sorry the doctor need to see the passport"..."but I dont have the passport right now"..."well if someone cancel we will call u...." of course nobody cancel and nobody called me!!! so husband said go tomorrow very early and stay there just in case somebody doesnt showup! so that are my plans so far...

More updates tommorrow ... today I cried a lot of times, cried because I fell frustrated, I feel happy, I feel sad, and because I dont know what to feel...I was begging for today and it is here now.... why is kinda painful? I am starting to feel sad for all the thing I will left behind...

Anyway I need to keep focus please, pray, cross ur fingers, and send me positives energies so the doctor could have mercy of me and make my tests....

why don't you just ask mr. monkey?

Hi my lost twin:) Yes I am waiting patiently! it will come soon... and how are you doing? You packing yet? You must be so excited lol!!!

OMG! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!

I HAVE NEWSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

embassy just called my house I need to go there (to the end of teh world!!!) to pick up the letter for teh medicals my interview is on MONDAY!!!!!!!!!!!

Just leaving u this note talk to you people later leaving to get the letter!!!

I am nervous!!!!!!!

Great news Emily!!!!!

Things are moving!!!

Lets keeps ourselves as pretzels for good luck!

OK EMBASSY GAVE MY HUSBAND NOT NEW NEWS AT ALL! they said our papers are not in the office yet.

so we keep waiting.......

Thank you...

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