ahlm

Hi,

Well, we talk about our problems all the time... It seems like it's all we have now... Hurting each other thinking about the past, about how much we loved and still love each other, but somehow we broke something and it will never be like before...

It's all my fault too. Instead of sharing with him my doubts and little things that bothered me, I kept it all... And overtime, it built up to a breaking point. He didn't do anything wrong, I just slowly distanced myself from him, and I am not in love like I used to be, and we try, I try and try to get over it, I need him, he needs me, but it's not the same... Sometimes everything is going well, the minute after it is drama again. All because of the immigration process... I could not work for sooo long, I was stressing about it all the time, I started to doubt about myself, and not be as happy as I used to be.. And he worked all the time, to provide for both of us, but instead of seeing that and being thankful, I felt so lonely and not useful and miserable that I blamed it on him, starting to be jealous he was the one doing all these cool things, working, meeting all kind of cool people. I was just so miserable, but I didn't want to worry him, so I never talked about it, because for me, something was wrong with me, I had everything to be happy, and so I should try harder to be happy and not hurt him. But that did more harm than good unfortunately... And eventually, I found a summer job, far away from where we live, and I loved it, and felt very independent, like I didn't need him anymore, I just wanted to stay there and be free... And at the end of that, I was broken to go back, he felt it right away... Since then, we cry a lot, we try, we get angry, etc. And in the meantime, I found an awesome permanent job, exactly what I've been looking for... Except that it is not located where we lived. Alaska is big, my husband lives in Anchorage, I live in Fairbanks... And he doesn't understand why I chose a job over our relationship, he doesn't get that I need that to feel myself again and be happier. It sucks really that I need a job to feel better, I hate myself for ruining everything... But, I just would have been more and more miserable overtime...

Anyway, sorry to share that, I have talked about it a few times, but it is always good to share more, I need to talk about it or write about to total strangers...

Thanks for reading...

Faustine

Please seek counseling before you get a divorce, by soaking yourself in friends, job..ect will never help you to relax and to feel better as long as there is someone who has not done anything wrong to you..

It takes months to fix a marriage a years to have a happily family, be that nice person and do your best to do not end something special something you will need in your life. Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.

I think you have to leave as soon as your 2-yr GC expires.

He already knows that he has to leave !! He needs help if you can give him help to stay here !!!

I am an holder green card ( 2 years ) my wife and I had a fight that day then she called the cops, I have been arrested and spent 1 night in the jail but not charged for domestic violence ( i wasn't convicted ) My wife who is a USC has some mental illness, taking medicine and seeing the doctor every 2 weeks.., I am still living with my wife and supporting her, everything is fine. I am just wondering now if what happened will cause me a problem as I am going to renew my green card soon?

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Your replies reaffirm my perception that you dont like me as a immigrant came to this earth for just a stupid GC and how sad that you have no idea what is going on in my Marriage !!! residency status is not what i am looking for, I am looking for someone to love me and care about me I did not know that my wife has a mental disability and taking medicine..!!! No body told me that before ( her mom and dad ) She can kill me anytime and she has been at the hospital many time trying to kill herself.

what happened that day is she called the cops on me for no reason just because i don't wanna go to the cinema with her and her friend ( i am death serious ).

when the cops came she showed them her arms and told them that i beat her which is lie ( she always beats herself and trying to kill herself - i still have all the records from the hospital ) so she lied then, the cops did not listen to me and they took me to the jail, after a 1 hour she comes to the police station and she told them that she is sorry and she did a big mistake by telling the cops the lie.., the cops told her its too late now and I have to stay till tomorrow to see the judge.

the jugde told me that i have a harassment 2nd physical contact which is mean i have to stay away from her : no contact, no emails, no phone calls, no letter, ect..

I did not pay any fee or anything i went to my friend s house. The same day because she was mad at the judge ( what she did is a crazy thing she crashed my car, i still have the police rapport ) they took her to the hospital but she was fine and of course we lost the car ( big accident ), she was calling my cell phone a million times but i was scared i could not answer her .., just a friend who told me about the accident !!!

I had to stay with my friend for almost a week because I was waiting for my court date.., finally the judge told me that I am fine and I can come back to my wife but I have to make sure nobody will call the cops on me in 6 months.

I am back home now with my wife but I still scared because she may call the cops on me anytime, as I said she has a mental disability , she is beating almost everyday for no reason ( I am death serious ) and I have marks all over my body and I have pictures.

All her friends know that she is not normal and they cant believe that she is married they keep telling me that I should be careful !!!! I came to America because I love her not because of the GC but I can see that I am not lucky..!!! that is my story !!!!

So now I know that I have to answer the question number 7 – Part 3. Additional Information About You in the form I-751.

Of course my answer will be YES which is mean I have to provide a detailed explanation.

My 2 years GC will expire soon and what happened to me was last week, my wife wants to help me now but we don't know how ??

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Tay

What mental disorder does your wife have? It is URGENT (if not done already) for her to seek some help from some mental health professionals. There are many ways to get free help and especially if she is hurting herself and you, she will definitely be qualified. I'm telling you this as a RN (nurse) that has dealt with family members of severe depression, schizophrenia, and bipolar disorders...

If she already has help, it's very important that she take her medications and on time--while being overseen by a health care professional. If you can't afford them, there are government programs to help cover those costs; it's especially as she is causing herself and others harm.

Take care of you and your wife. This is hard stuff . I wish you two all the best.

Thank you for the reply , she is taking medicine now and she has no problem paying her bills as she has Maidecaid but the problem now is the immigration.., what i am going to do when appling for I-751 ( 10 years GC ).

as they are asking in the form if i have been arrasted or not ?? my answer will be YES then its not good for my application..., People here are talking about deportaion - how i am gonna get deportation if i am married to a US Citizen ??

Thanks guys for the replies, i did not pay any money when i was in the court and this is the first time i have been in the jail ( 1 night ) right now me and my wife are trying to make this marriage work, as she said to me she will never divorce me ( cause she loves me ) which is mean that she will support my application for the 10 GC and for the citizenship.., and i am not going anywhere even when i am not happy with her, i did my search about the Harassment 2nd P.Contact is not a crime so i think i am fine with the immigration as long as i am still married with my wife.

is that correct, that is the question ?

Thanks again

Thanks guys for the replies, right now me and my wife are trying to make this marriage work, as she said to me she will never divorce me ( cause she loves me ) which is mean that she will support my application for the 10 GC and for the citizenship.., and i am not going anywhere even when i am not happy with her, i did my search about the Harassment 2nd P.Contact is not a crime so i think i am fine with the immigration as long as i am still married with my wife.

is that correct, that is the question ?

Thanks again

Hey everyone,

I have a 2 years Green Card will expire soon, things between me and my wife is not good.

I have been in jail for 1 night and i got a Harassment 2nd Phy Contact. ( they told me my name will be clear in 6 months )

My question is : What is gonna happen to me when applying for a 10 years GC ? if nothing gonna happen, then what about the Citizenship ?

Thanks