Candy/SadanNasir

I would say that my favorite is Jesus of Nazareth. How about you?

'Life of Brian'

Your inability to grasp context is what worries me.

Have you asked him about it?

Sorry, that would be my first reaction.

I agree, sadness, stress and loneliness can compound feelings of being devalued and foster negative projection of fears. Do confirm your suspicions by speaking with him. I hope your fears are unwarranted; if they're aren't I wish you luck and strength. I'm so sorry you're feeling sad.

Peace,

CMN

I need some advice of what should i do...

i got married to a u.s citizen in 2005 got my greencard and expired on 2018 im from philippines and my marriage is on the rocks.

but before my 1st year of my wedding anniversary i left with out knowing him.he think i run away with another man which is not true.

i left him because he is mean not physically.treats me like a maid.so i came back and i told him everything.and want to start over again.

but in the past years i look in the computer and i see this photos of a woman and i ask him about this and he said he dont know her.which

i beleive.then i saw this gay porn videos in my computer theres lots of them so i freak out and ask him whats going on inthis computer and he said

he dont know anything about it.then this time i caught him in the computer watching a porn like his payinh for it because i saw the bills that his going to this

porn site.so i move out from our bedroom because i dont want to talk to him or see him.separated but still living in the same house.im trying to figure it out what

should i do because he said his addicted to it.but i ask him why you married a young woman that dont get sex from you for years and even no kids.? he said he starts

doing this since i runaway from him.which is true but im totally hurt and confused if his hiding somehing from me like if his gay.i cant ask that question because i might get in trouble

asking that question.so right now im trying to sleep in the same bedroom so i can figure it out if this marriage goingto work out.his trying to change but he just bought another computer because he wants to have another one. i cant sleep nor no peace of mind.im working since we got married and my problem is i dont think i can trust him again im so stress

so my problem is if i file for divorce who's paying for the lawyers? do i have to pay him? and he always telling me if i divorce him, i cant stay here in u.s he will send me home and do the best he can do to send me back home.which i dont want to happen.i just want to move on and start a new life. im scared he will deported me.

i would be grateful for a good advice

thanks!

Forgive me for saying this, but your post contains extremely personal information. In the interest of saving your marriage, if this is what you wish to do, consider how you might feel if your husband posted comparably personal information about your life or his perception of it.

I'm not making a judgment, please don't get that idea, but really the person you should be talking to is your husband and possibly a mediator. If you love him and he loves you, I really think that keeping the communication open between you is the best thing to do and not looking for affirmation of your fears in a forum. Yes, I know: easier said than done.

I really wish - I this goes for all couples experiencing visa related stress - that you are both able to work things out between you and rediscover why you fell in love.

Remember what made you both feel so drawn to each other, was it amazing? Hold on to it then. I don't say this from a 'marriage is a sacrament' kind of view point, I just think that something like love is not always easy; it's often hard; it's a job: a relationship is, but the rewards make it seem like it's not.

I wish you luck and forgive me if my reply came off as overly opinionated in any way. I have been seeing way too many of these kinds of post today and my heart is aching because of it. I need to get out of this forum......

Peace friend!

CMN

i had a bad experiance in amsterdam when i was on my way to egypt to marry my husband, when i was getting ready to get on the plane and going through custums or whatever a man pulled me out of line ,, ask me why u going to egypt? i said to marry my fiance, he was like "oh u are one of them women?" i was getting angry but trying to hold my composure, i said what kind of woman do u mean? he said " sweetie youll figure it out after you bring him to usa and he laughs and says oh in a couple of years youll get this meaning" i was furious!!!!! i said are we done cause i need to get in line to catch my plane and hes looking at my passport and says wait here, so i waited ,, then a woman came to get me and took me in this lil room thing she said the man dont believe this is your picture in passport, i said miss,, i took this pic befor i became a muslimah and i know i look different with hijab on but look at my face u can see its me, she said just take off ur hijab and let me look, soooooooooo i did it real quick and she said ok you can go now,,, i was so angry,, i got her name and i got his name, went to egypt called the airport and made a big stink about it, i dont know if it did any good butif people dont start complaining about how people are treated at the aireports it will continue on so my advice isss, complain and tell them !

Just despicable! After reading all these entries from other VJers I wish my original response had been a bit harsher.

When I returned from Malaysia last year alone from our honey moon this year in January:

Officer: 'purpose of visit'

Me: 'honey moon with husband'

Officer: looks over my shoulder, 'where is he?'

Me: 'on a flight home to Quetta'

Officer: 'Why didn't he come with you?'

Me: 'Because he doesn't live here yet, we have a pending IV case'

Officer: 'why didn't you just get K-1 visa?'

Me: 'because we didn't know one another before marriage, met and married here in the US'

Officer: pushes the issue

Me: 'I'm very tired sir, is there anything else?'

Officer: walks away with my passport, came back in 5, opened my suitcase, commented on the contents and returned my passport

Who knows what he was even looking for?

I'm not in his defense but don't you think people are allowed to say what they want to say? If you know your engagement is real and you two love each other then ignore it... Just my opinion.

I would support your decision to file a formal complaint.

Yes, everyone is entitled to their opinion. However, when one is at work, it is wise not express all opinions as the primary purpose of work is to do just that: WORK.

Ignoring his comment is good advise, reporting his comment is your right and I would if I were you.

Peace

Good news at last!

Late last night my fiancée called to tell me that she received a phone call from the Consulate informing her that our K1 Visa petition which has been in AP since our interview on March 4th of this year has been approved…I could not sleep the entire night and before going to work I checked my email and there was a message from the Consulate saying that our visa has been approved…we still cannot believe it…but we are optimist that this long journey is coming to a happy ending. It has taken us almost three years – an interview, the denial, getting our petition re-affirmed, another interview and then the AP status…along the way many heartbreaks and but never giving up…Praise God from whom all blessing come!!!

Thanks to all on VJ who helped us with timely advice and encouragement through out the years.

Robert and Mai

Congratulations!!!

I am soo blessed and soo thankful for today because I just received a letter that I have been approved for the 10year perm card thru waiver self petiitioning. I can't believe how unbelievably fast the process was. I had just got done my biometrics in July 2009 and a few weeks later received an RFE requesting more evidence by Nov 26. So I mailed in more evidence before the due date and next thing you know I received a letter in November 2009 that my whole case has been approved and I should be getting my 10 year card in the mail real soon! Thanks soo much for all the genuine advice from everybody here. It's been a long trip but now I am happy and settled. Happy Thanksgiving to all and God Bless!

congratulations!!!! It must feel great to be done with this mess

Dear friend

Don't take too heart what a woman say when she's angry. Some people when they are angry they will say anything, not even thinking like there's a tomorrow. Most of the time the stuff the person is saying doesn't make any sense, if a stranger is around they might think of wow how awful you can be, but if it's between the 2 of you try not to take it to heart. I always follow this saying my mom always used to tell " BE CAREFUL YOUR TONGUE IS THE MOST DANGEROUS WEAPON" Therefore be careful how you use it, sometimes you wish you could take back something that just came out of your mouth but you can't, I always try to follow that, it can be tough even to the point you might get a point or two increased on your BP.

Very good advise!

It is often easy to project our anger especially at those we love the most. Sadness can take many different forms; those who are the most difficult are experiencing the most pain.

For my husband and I, the process has been very stressful, but I think in the long run it has brought us closer together. You know, most people never have to go through what we all are going through. They don't have to fight to be able to live with their spouse. Maybe the reason there is so much divorce these days is that people take for granted having their husband or wife there with them, and what a precious gift that is. I know this process has made me appreciate my husband even more because I had to fight to be with him.

It's worth it in the long run. We just have to hold our heads high and push onward.

Your message really touched me. Thank you for mentioning this. It's so hard but so important to stay close in mind and in spirit to what is really important.

It is very frustrating to deal with day in and day out. When you see other couples who are together it makes you even more sad. You just have to try and keep your head up no matter what. I will never take my husband for granted after he is finally here with me.

I can really relate to your post as well. My husband and I have experienced much stress due to our prolonged separation. It's just no way to start a relationship. Even a good portion of our honey moon back in December was spent discussing such issues as NVC and the feasibility / possibility of future visits.

We should count ourselves lucky I suppose. Just barely, we could afford to fly somewhere to meet in order to even have a honey moon, but I just don't envy those couples years ago who didn't have the tools we do today, e.g. skype and so.

It's hard to see the silver lining through all the paperwork and transparent agendas.

I'm sending you a big hug

I can't believe that I'm actually introducing myself but here goes. My immigration journey may well be one of the weirdest journeys ever! I came to the US in 1998 with my then two children. I was partner to an american who said it would be easy for me to get my papers once in the US. That didn't happen. I fell pregnant practically as soon as I arrived and ended up overstaying.

Fast forward 12 years and to my surprise here I am about to begin this adjustment journey with the man that Im proud to call my husband. Im from the UK (Jamaican parentage) and he is a New York born Puerto Rican.

Id been in relationships before now but the theme used to be the same. When ever I didn't want to be with the person;they would threaten to call immigration on me. I decided that I just wasn't going to tell anyone about my status and ride it out till there was some kind of immigration reform. Well that didn't happen and after a terrible tragedy last year....I was ready to pack up and leave. I just felt like it was too much bad stuff but then I met my husband. I wasn't expecting it. I guess thats how it works at times but he turned out to be exactly what I needed.

We married last year June 2009 and to be honest I still wasn't sure if I wanted to adjust as an immediate spouse. It sounds weird, I know, but I was burned and I didn't know if I wanted to place something so important in the hands of anyone to be honest He's great with my children, great to me and most importantly I love him to pieces(Even if he speaks in spanish to me JUST to make fun of me as I don't understand lol).

So thats my introduction

I'm so joyful to hear that you have a happy ending to your journey!!!! It must feel like a real affirmation to have someone who loves you and equally important, to feel secure in the country in which you live.

I am very happy that you found a way to navigate through this painfully broken system

I wish you both all the joys every person deserves!

Peace

You have to show you didn't intend to immigrate and you have filed an application to immigrate already. It is highly unlikely you could show non immigrant intent. It would be best to stay on the current path.

Yep, that's what I thought.

Thank you for your reply!

Peace,

Candy Marie Nasir

Hi,

Me on (F-1 VISA) and my wife(U.S Citizen) recently got married and we wanna start with the application but while looking at the instructions of i130 it says that we should send documents like lease agreement, joint bank account statements/ joint credit card statements and others. We have just opened joint accounts and our lease agreement is pretty recent 2. We have also put our joint names on other bills pretty recently. Should we wait before we have couple of statements from the bank and other bill statements or can we submit the forms right now with whatever we have (like affidavit sworn) and take these statements to the interview later?

Thanks,

OS

I would send anything with both your names on it. It would make sense to anyone reviewing your case that you won't have a ton of joint stuff to submit given you just married.

We only had a joint bank account, and documentation of my name change, in addition to photos, sworn affidavits etc. and our I-130 got approved just fine with no RFE.

I am on F-1 and applying for Green card through marriage to a US citizen. In 2009 i worked on campus so i have filed tax return this year(form 1040NR-EZ) with my total taxable income $7100.

Q-1:Can i also join in sponsorship?

It is my understanding that if you use your income from last year to help sponsor then you must furnish proof showing that this employment will continue after you are in the US, which is sounds like you already are. I'm not sure what the procedure is for F-1. Sorry to answer your question by referring to the instructions - I hate it when I get those answers - but I must do this.

Q-2: if answer to the above question is YES, then do i have to file the separate i864 along with i864A because me and wife are living together so i can be a household member?

If you live together you are a household member.

Q-3: Is it necessary to submit current job letter because i am not working right now but i have tax return from last year?

My wife is going to school as well and she is living off the scholarship money because her dad shows her as her dependent. She is not employed at all in 2009 and so she didn't file tax return for herself although her dad did

Q-4: Since my wife is the main sponsor, does she still have to submit i864 for me along with other cosponsor's?

Yes

Q-5: if YES what she is gonna attach with form i.e she doesn't even have any tax return

I just encountered this myself with our taxes for this year. I am currently living off of scholarships/grants/loans etc. My husband does not have a ITIN number yet, so we filed MFS (married filing single). On the form 1040 where it asks for spouses social security number I wrote in manually NRA (non resident alien). Because I was filing MFS I could not deduct educational expenses, claim lifetime learning credit or claim my spouse as personal exemption. I can file an amendment 30 days after the IRS receives and processes our taxes for the tax year 2009 and after I have a ITIN for yourself, by filing MFJ (married filing joint). I can obtain a ITIN number by going to the irs.gov website, printing out a form W7 and mailing it in with either a notarized statement concerning the validity of my husband's passport AND his national I.D. card or a the first item and one other item from the options given on the form. This will enable us to get rid of the tax obligation we encured as a result of not being able to deduct educational expenses, claim lifetime learning credit or claim my spouse as personal exemption. I will also be able to file as head of household which should wipe out our tax obligation all together or leave us with a small refund.

As for claiming my income from scholarships, grants, loans, etc. This was trickier. I could not claim any federal loans, (which is considered restricted income: only applicable for tuition and qualified expenses) only grants and scholarship which I lived off of AFTER tuition and qualified expenses were deducted. This amount is found on the form 1098-T, which I and which your wife should receive from her university every year for tax purposes. However, because I am receiving (1) a scholarship from the university, federal loans from the university, grants from the university; AND (2) and outside agency scholarship from another foundation, I organized all the documentation needed to show that after my university financial aid (including restricted federal loans), AND the fixed amount that is sent by the outside agency to the university was applied to my tuition every semester, I received refund from the university for living expenses.

Because I filed MFS married filing separate, I do not qualify for 'qualified expenses' deductions, which is good because even more of that refund that I receive every semester, can be applied towards by income (line 7 of W2). When I file MFJ later on, after obtaining a ITIN for my husband, I will have to show 'qualified expenses' deductions on the amended 1040, which will consist of gathering up all receipts for books and such.

For example:

Say you receive the following aid package:

Stafford loan: 100.00 bucks

Grant: 100.00

Scholarship: 100.00

Work Study: 100.00 and

you total tuition and qualified expenses are: 50.00

Your 1098-T will show only 200.00 in scholarships and grants and 50.00 tuition and qualified expenses BUT you received a refund from your university for 350.00 after your tuition was paid. So how do you show this as the money you lived off of for 2009? On line 7 of the 1040 you will write in any W2 income. To the left of line 7, on the dotted line, you write in manually 'SCH' and the amount 350.00. You attach documentation supporting this.

Make sense so far?

In short, all scholarship income, grants, loans etc. that is used ONLY for living expenses, AFTER being applied towards your wife's tuition and qualified expenses, that is used ONLY for living expenses and for which you can furnish documented proof, may be included on the dotted line, to the left of line 7 of the form 1040. Your AGI, line 22 I think, is line 7 + SCH to the left of line 7.

You won't be able to e-file. You will have to file manually.

***Note: I am not anyone's dependent so I don't know how this will work for your wife as she is claimed as a dependent by her father. I would consult a tax attorney, NOT H&R block people who make 8 bucks an hour doing data entry.

For sponsor's household size 2, 125% poverty guidelines are $18,212.

Q-6: Is my wife contributing anything towards meeting this poverty guideline because she just has scholarship money?

See above.

Q-7: If my friend has $12,000 on his tax return, so can i use him as a cosponsor? because his $12,000 + $7100(mine) makes it more than $18,212 and my friend has no dependent on his tax return.

It is my understanding that a USC can co-sponsor 'make up' the difference between the financial requirements for the I-864 and your total income + assets. Keep in mind you may also list checking, savings, investments etc. as assets to 'make up' for any difference however, if these are yours or your wife's, they must be equal to three times the amount of the difference.

I hope this was not too fragmented of an answer. I recently tackled this issue, or a similar one, myself so I am eager to help someone else navigate through this if I can.

Just an FYI, I recently received an RFE with a suggestion to obtain a co-sponsor so you are wise in doing this. I believe that in our case, our income is border line so we may have to do the same. I just don't want to leave you with the impression that this advise is 100 accurate or somehow full proof. It's only what we did and our taxes were accepted.

It's all there on the irs.gov website, it's just a matter of spending hours doing research. So now you know what I spent my spring break doing.......

Peace,

Candy Marie

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Thanks,

I would really appreciate if somebody can answer these questions at least just Yes or No.

OS

No not illegal but one must be otherwise eligible and have entered the US legally/been inspected and granted entry.

Okay, it looks like I've been posting in the wrong section. For this question at least.

My husband came here on a B2 last year for an internship. We met during the same internship, married three months later and he returned home.

We later filed a I-130, I-129F and I-864 which is now pending and for which we've just received an RFE 'suggesting' we obtain a co-sponsor.

My husband will be here in the summer and the same B2 for another internship, which we will be working on together for three months. We are considering just dropping the IV case and filing for Adjustment of Status.

(1) is this even a option for us?

(2) how do we proceed?

(3) do we use the same I-130 to file for AOS or a new one? (if we file a new one as I think we need to, then by the time we get to the NOA2 stage and receive a request for another affidavit of support, I will have finished school for the time being and be working for a year before continuing with school. We 'just' meet the financial requirement for the I-864 but because it is border line, going with Adjustment of Status after he arrives will allow me enough time to graduate, find work and show higher income).

Please advise,

Peace!

What got me worried is that I read on some threads, primarily applicants from India that they were denied based on them not having religious or culture ceremonies done.

Do I have the same scenario here? Or is this different all together? Thanks

Well, I doubt that whether or not a couple has a religious wedding will effect the outcome of the CO's decision at the interview.

Many have been married at the court house for convenience sake, financial reasons or because of different traditions i.e. Agnostic/Muslim, Christian/Muslim couples, etc.

So I hope this is not the case for the sake of many people who have not.

Would you share the couple's forum posts with us that have experienced this bias at their interviews? I'm curious to know how they fared.

What is the process one must go through to drop an existing IV consular processing application / current case pending and pursue adjustment of status while spouse is in US?

My husband is going to be here for a visit in the summer on his current B2. What is the process we must take if we want to drop our existing IV application and pursue adjustment of status?

Do we need to fill out another I-130 or is the original I-130 okay to be used again?

If we must submit another I-130 do we have to wait another 5 months for the NOA2 and then submit additional forms?

Is this even an option?

What is the process one must go through to drop and existing IV consular processing application / current case pending and pursue adjustment of status while spouse is in US?

You missed the point entirely.

(now rationing the emoticons....LOL)

So basically, the 125% over the 2009 poverty line is $18,212. You need to make this amount in order to sponsor your spouse without a co-sponsor.

You have made $17,226.99. You are $985.01 off from making the poverty line. You need to have $2,955.30 in assets in order to meet the requirement.

This is on page 9 of the I-1864 form.

29. Total Value of Assets

In order to qualify based on the value of your assets, the totalvalue of your assets must equal at least five times the difference between your total household income and thecurrent poverty guidelines for your household size. However,if you are a U.S. citizen and you are sponsoring your spouse or minor child, the total value of your assets must only beequal to at least three times the difference. If the intendingimmigrant is an alien orphan who will be adopted in theUnited States after the alien orphan acquires permanentresidence, and who will, as a result, acquire citizenship undersection 320 of the Act, the total value of your assets need onlyequal the difference.

Hope this helps. =)

Congratulations on your approval btw

You might wanted to talk to a supervisor at NVC. It might help you to understand the reason for you getting a RFE when you have met the poverty line.

I have shown 10,000 dollars more than its required in liquid assets, but i still produced a co-sponsor for my AOS. If you pass NVC stage and go into the interview stage, visa officer will ultimately decide whether you are qualified to sponsor an immigrant based on your income + assets. It will help you tremendously if you can produce a co-sponsor at this level.

Thank you for your reply. I know this is the reality at this point. It is just something we will have to do. I just dread - we both do in fact, asking someone to co-sponsor. I don't have any family and my husband's family and friends don't even know I exist let alone that we are married (a separate - not 'public forum appropriate,' subject). I suppose we will have to swallow our pride and ask one of the close friends we have to sponsor. Just a very hard thing to think about doing.

I do value all of your feed back!

Peace,

Candy Marie

So basically, the 125% over the 2009 poverty line is $18,212. You need to make this amount in order to sponsor your spouse without a co-sponsor.

You have made $17,226.99. You are $985.01 off from making the poverty line. You need to have $2,955.30 in assets in order to meet the requirement.

This is on page 9 of the I-1864 form.

29. Total Value of Assets

In order to qualify based on the value of your assets, the totalvalue of your assets must equal at least five times the difference between your total household income and thecurrent poverty guidelines for your household size. However,if you are a U.S. citizen and you are sponsoring your spouse or minor child, the total value of your assets must only beequal to at least three times the difference. If the intendingimmigrant is an alien orphan who will be adopted in theUnited States after the alien orphan acquires permanentresidence, and who will, as a result, acquire citizenship undersection 320 of the Act, the total value of your assets need onlyequal the difference.

Hope this helps. =)

Thank you for your reply!

My husband and I are aware of this information; for this reason we are confused as to why we would receive an RFE regarding income requirements.

[On the I-864 my TI (total income) is 17,226.99; however, I have listed assets (liquid, with attached documentation) totaling 600.00 more than three times the difference between 125% of the poverty guideline for my state CA, and my TI.]

what is your household size?

Thank you for your reply

House hold size: 2 (my husband and myself)

No dependents

125% poverty guideline for CA: 18212.00

My TI: 17226.99

My assets: 3500 and change

Thank you for your time

Peace

Actually there is but too many people object to it.

Simply implant a RFI, its smaller than the implantable birth control device, you could even swallow it. Every person would be automaticly swiped at every street corner and anyone without a RFI implant is deported. A swipe ie required to get a job an any employer who does not comply is shut down.

No more lost children and no more illegals...

OMG!!!!!!!! How can you type with that hood over your head!!!!!!!!!!!!! Unbelievable!!!!

Actually there is but too many people object to it.

Simply implant a RFI, its smaller than the implantable birth control device, you could even swallow it. Every person would be automaticly swiped at every street corner and anyone without a RFI implant is deported. A swipe ie required to get a job an any employer who does not comply is shut down.

No more lost children and no more illegals...

OMG!!!!!!!! How can you type with that hood over your head!!!!!!!!!!!!! Unbelievable!!!!