Genji

Hello Everyone!!!

The mediation turned out to be one of the most difficult days in my life. I left drained after 8 hours of negociations.

I obtained sole legla and physical custody of my baby and my ex-spouse got some visitations rights (he said he would come twice a year to visit but that he was not going to visit this year until summer)He signed a notarized letter for baby and I to leave the US.

He believes he will cut off my credit cards after we leave...

I married a winner...

Love you all!!!

Thank goodness you and your baby can be free from this dirt-bag. You may be heading back home a bit worse-for-the-wear after your marriage to a truly despicable person, but you get to go home and take baby home to be raised with you and your family for support. Her life (and yours) will no doubt be infinitely better away from him. Judging by his past behavior, I don't think you have to worry about him visiting twice a year. You probably won't ever see him again after you leave.

1) This one is most important. I would recommend that you IMMEDIATELY contact the local welfare office and request emergency assistance to keep your baby cared for citing that your husband was the sole provider and has "abandoned" the family. Using the term abandoned or abandonment is very important when you make the filing. It will send off all kinds of red flags and the government is likely to go after him in a hot minute. You will be able to get by for now and the the government will go after him big-time to get their money back.

2) You mentioned he thinks he would be off the child support hook if you go back home. You may be able to use that to your advantage (if not now, then when social services comes knocking on his door). Perhaps you can convince him to give you a signed AND NOTARIZED letter stating that you have his permission to take the child back to your home country to live. If so, you can take baby back to stay with your family and keep that letter somewhere very safe.

3) For legal assistance you have a few options. a) His employer likely has an Employee Assistance Program. As his spouse you have access to this free service without needing his approval. Just call the main number for his company and ask whether they have an EAP and what is the contact info. Free legal consultations are almost always included in EAP benefits. (I used to work for EAPs) B) Your town likely has some type of Legal Aid Society that helps people who can't afford to hire attorneys. Or c) Many attorneys will offer free initial consultations and some attorneys will agree to cork with payment contingent on successful outcome (they get a %). Some also take on some pro-bono (no charge) clients.

I would also like to apologize to you as both a US citizen and as a male, that one of my fellow citizens is enough of a ####### enough to abandon you and your baby when he is your sole support. Yes marriages fail, but that doesn't wash away obligations we agree to of our own free will.

Hope some of this helps you.

We got scheduled for February 17th >>>>>> hip hip horrary ..... a year after getting married ...

Awesome, congratulations.

Wait for the RFE so that there is a case number assigned. That way your document will get married up to your file.

It will cause a delay, but if you send it right off it will be minimal. This process is an exercise in patience. Don't let it sap your enthusiasm.

Best of luck.

Great, thank you. "Minimal" delay doesn't sound too bad. I have my decree sitting right here, so then the RFE comes I can probably do a 1-day turn around.

just wait for RFE

Oh well, I had a feeling that might be the only real option. But I still had a little hope. LOL

Anyone have an idea what kind of delay this might cause? Days? Weeks? Months? Application placed in the "get to this when hell freezes over" pile?

Hello, my fiancee and I checked, rechecked, and triple-checked our I-129F packet (she was here on a visit). Then I mailed it out the packet to the VSC and realized just hours later that we overlooked something (repeatedly). I didn't include a copy of my divorce decree with the packet. Is there any way I can send the copy of the decree without having to wait for the process to get stalled by a RFE? Also, if I have no choice but wait for the RFE, does anyone know how much this is likely to delay the process assuming I respond immediately to the RFE? Darn, I really thought I had everything in order.

Thanks in advance for any help you can offer.

Yay! Congrats.

Wonderful news. Congratulations.