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He is flying to go back home this wednesday. I am really having a hard time with it. I am trying to stay strong. He has been in the U.S for one year. I am looking for some advice on how other couples make it work?

Does anyone feel that it would be best to hire a lawyer? How has it been doing this on your own? I am not ready to get one yet. but i am trying to inform myself with what is the best thing to do. So i am just trying to ask questions and see what i can find out.

I get what the OP is sayin....travelin alone to any foreign country takes a bit of balls imo. But the OP has to follow her heart and know what she is comfortable with...only she knows. Deano's right, the req's are now met, so she could file without going....

I am going to go to pakistan! I told my family! I am looking forward to seeing him and his country!

Could He come on a student visa and we get married? I am just looking for more information. I am confused on what the big differnce is between this and k1? Would he just have to change his visa staus??

Is he already here on the student visa?

or do you mean to apply for a student visa so that he can come and marry you?

if so, coming under another visa with the intent to marry AND STAY to adjust status here is fraudulent.

oddly enough, i don't find it too far out of the realm to travel to another country for the purpose of studying and ending up falling in love and maybe even marrying...search the VJ site...

Thank you! I am going to go visit him. And i think he will come back on k1 visa later on.

I get what the OP is sayin....travelin alone to any foreign country takes a bit of balls imo. But the OP has to follow her heart and know what she is comfortable with...only she knows. Deano's right, the req's are now met, so she could file without going....

Thank you !!! I am going to Pakistan!! I am excited i have told my family today!

Well if you are planning to marry this man in future, you're going to have to physically meet him to start the process. If you are that nervous, like I said...pick a third country where you feel more comfortable and he can be allowed to travel to. Only you can decide what's best for your situation.

Good luck.

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I met him in dec 2008. He was going to a local college in my home town. Thank you for your advice

If you are too nervous, perhaps a third country where you both meet would be better...

I am just wondering if it is realistic for me to go? It does not help trying to calm my parents fears. My mom thinks i will be stuck in pakistan and wont be allowed back into the U.S

I had gone twice to see him and a third time to attend my bros wedding. Where in Pakistan are you going?

I would be going to Islamabad. He is studying there.

What was your first visit like? Sorry if its too personal than feel free not to answer question.

I had gone twice to see him and a third time to attend my bros wedding. Where in Pakistan are you going?

I would be going to Islamabad. He is studying there.

Yes, there are loads of couples that have visited each others country.

Are you concerned you will go all the way there and he won't be there to meet you?

My main concern is that i am a young american going to Pakistan. He will be there for me. I am also trying to calm my parents fears. It does not help with everything going on over there. I guess i am just trying to talk to other couples and what its like to be so far away? Plus what they felt when they went to the other country? I love him and i dont want to regret not going. Plus its hard for me to get vacation time. I will have two weeks in dec. Do you think that my trip should be 2 weeks instead of one month?

Could He come on a student visa and we get married? I am just looking for more information. I am confused on what the big differnce is between this and k1? Would he just have to change his visa staus??

I am thinking about going in December. But i am really nervous. I know i should just trust that he will meet me at the airport. It does not help that i would travel alone untill i get there. I Guess i would just like advice on how to calm my nerves? I am sure there has to be other couples that have gone and visited each others Countrys.

if ur both ready to get married at this point in time then u will need to make sure that u make enough money to show support if not then get a sponsor or co sponsor as in a family member or friend that makes enough.

Yea thank you everyone! I am so gald to be getting advice. We will have to wait. Because of the state i live in they require alot for us to get married. Like we have to prove we want to get married because we love each other. Plus he has six months of schooling to finish back in Pakistan.

if ur both ready to get married at this point in time then u will need to make sure that u make enough money to show support if not then get a sponsor or co sponsor as in a family member or friend that makes enough.

What kinds of things does the co sponsor??

What kind of visa is he on? Unless it has a home-stay requirement (some J visas especialy do), the easiest would be for the two of you to get married now and him to adjust status without leaving the USA- that is assuming you are ready to get married right now of course!

If you wish to wait for whatever reason, you must first decide whether you want to get married in the USA (you'd need a k1 visa for him to come back as a fiance, then get married within 90 days), or get married in Pakistan/ somewhere outside the USA, in which case you'd get married, then apply for the CR-1 visa. More info on all the options are in the VisaJourney Guides

Thank you for your advice!! It is helpful. It is confusing and i am just trying to figure all this out. We would like to get married in the U.S. But in the end if i can be with him it does not matter where i get married. I did not know if being younger was going to be a huge problem or not with trying to get the k1 visa.

I am 22 years old.I am a U.S Citizen. He is 23 years old. He is from pakistan. We met in my local town. He came to the U.S as a student. We fell in love. We want to get married and we are looking for advice. So if anyone could help us that would be nice. He has to leave the u.s because of his visa that he is here on. He is leaving in 2 weeks.