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You are giving ultimatiums to your husband without ever having met his family. I'm sorry, you don't "tell" your spouse to move away from his family because they might or might not act rudely to you. Marriage is a compromise and if his family are jerks you can chose not to be around them. You're getting all bent out of shape because of the "idea" that they don't like you, and putting your foot down abotu things that haven't happened yet.

I think EVERY parent out there has a RIGHT to be concerned about any of us marrying someone from another country, particularly those of us who met online. Perhaps they just don't understand what is going on, maybe they think your English is not so great, maybe they have a hard time understanding accents, and just MAYBE the things your husband told you is true and they don't use the internet etc, maybe they are shy and have a hard time just picking up the phone and talking to a stranger.

You should take a deep breath and rethink how defensive you're acting. They'll like you or they won't, but getting mad about it now is not the way to handle it. Furthermore, if it bothers you THIS much ask for their addresses and write them a letter. See what happens.

Thank you for the advice, but dont give me wrong, I have never told about this worries to my hubby or threaten him in any way. I love him and want him to be happy. I was just thinking out loud about when i move there and if they treat me pretty bad or act unfair with me I probably would not be able to stand it and will think of moving out of the city. I know my hubby will support me. We even have talk about moving to a bigger city because we have a business we want to develop when i move there, so that would be a very good reason to.

Still what keeps me thiking and im very thankful to is that his parents sponsored him on the Affidavit of Support.

I guess if they hate me they would not have done that. That s why i keep sending gifts even thou i dont get any reply. We have to be greatful.

I had a similar thing happen to me - his family never came to our wedding - not even a congratulations on marriage card. We always bought things for them when traveling - not even a thank you.

I understood what it was about once I met them - and am glad to stay away from them. Seems I'm not good enough because I'm better educated, have better working experience, better job and friends all over the States.

From what I experienced when first visiting before the final move here and then after the move, we're better keeping to our own lives. And that's what we're doing.

My advice - stay away from in-laws and if you have to be at a family event stay courteous. I find a way to have something planned on that particular day and let my husband go if he wants to - most of the time he stays with me.

Yeah, once i move if they keep that attitude , i think i will tell my husband to move to another city. I dont want to make him be apart from his family but if they dont treat me nice i will do that.

If I understand well you are not in the Us yet. If this is the case don't worry. While I was 'dating' I only saw my future in laws 2 times. They just needed more time to know me better. Now we see each other more often.

Yes thats what im hopping, maybe they will like me when they get to know me. We will see.

So you haven't arrived in the US yet. Does your husband resides with his family, or will you'll live alone? Ask your husband to do a 3 way call between him/you and the family. This way you can get to speak to them with hubby on the phone. This way you can gage everyones comfort level with each other.

If hubby won't agree to this, well this will give you some answers as to where some of the problems might exist.

I havent arrive to the US yet, im waiting to get the interview date.

He is very close to his family, and they all live kinda close to each other. But luckly my hubby lives alone in his own house.

I honestly get a little nervous about pushing them to talk to me. Still i will think about yur suggestion. Thanks!

Is it down to a culture divide? I mean, what cultures do yourself and your husband/his family come from?

Im latinamerican hispanic, he is an normal american guy.

Hello everybody.

I want to share something that makes me a little worried. I dont know if somebody is in the same situation.

I know my husband for 6 years, we are married 2.5 years. Our marriage goes well. The thing that makes me worried is that His family seems not to care about getting in touch with me. I have never talked to them, nobody from his side came to our wedding, and things like that. I have get in touch thru e mail to some young nephews that got curious about me but thats all.

I try to be very polite to them, I send gifts for them with my husband, e cards for christmas, mother´s day, birthdays. etc. But i have never ever got a "Thanks" reply or a simple e mail from his parents or siblins. I ask my husband about it and he comes with things like They are shy to write me back because of their spelling being not that good, or they are not familiar with computers or they are too busy and only says Thanks thru my husband.

When he is with me and call his family sometimes they will says HI thru my husband but never ask to talk with me on the phone not even on our wedding day!

So what do you think? Is it normal? do they hate me? am I not good enough for them? Prejudice??

My husband always says how his family cant wait to meet me. I think: Come on! really? if they never bother to get in touch with me or know me.

I am a very well educated person, got degrees, speak some languages. I know they can feel kinda intimidated for this but still, my husband is not. So why his family acts that way?

I feel afraid to move there even more knowing how they react with me. I try not give it too much importance because i dont want to make my husband worried or knowing him he might get mad at his family and i dont want that.

So what can i do? What should i expect when i move there?

Hi friends.

Im getting so frustated in this waiting and more with all the problems me and my husband are having..

Im from Bolivia living in Mexico for 8 years now. I have a son from a previous marriage thas lives in mexico with me. Im already a mexican citizen since 2007. I met my us husband on 2005 and married him in mexico in 2007( right after i got my mexican citizenship). We filed in october 2008 for K3 get the I130 NOA1 10 days later. My husband sent the I 129F too but it was returned to him 2 times for not sending it to the right place ( he send it to chicago), so at the end he got in touch from someone from the USCIS and he was told to send the I129F again but still no response from receiving the I129F. WE called together to the USCIS last april and they gave us a ticket number ( for a checking status request or something like that) . So days later my husband got a letter from USCIS saying they were sorry for making us wait too long and it was a mistake from USCIS that it was taking so long and that they were going to process our documents fastly. Weeks later my husband was asked to send a better copy of his passport and he did. Thats the last thing we heard from USCIS.

Actually with the crisis, this year my husband is having problems with his job and have a lack of money to pay his last year taxes and he is all down and depress thinking that this will make USCIS deny our case. And i guess thats why he is not putting too much effort in calling USCIS and asking them whats going on. He s looking for another job and until this new job happens it seems he is not wanting to know whats going on with our K3 status. I dont know what to do , i offer to help him pay his taxes but we are afraid that this wont matter for USCIS because he cant show a stable job in the first term of this year or something like that.

Also year ago I had like 3 USA tourist visa denials , last time i tried to get it was in 2005 but since i was applying for this US tourint visa in mexico and by that time I wasnt a mexican citizen yet , they keep telling me to apply for this visa in my country, which i couldnt because i was living and legally working in mexico.I never understand the denials because I was a bussiness professional with a masters degree trying to make myself and my kid a living, and from me there was no reason. So i just stop trying the US tourist visa.

Maybe all that mentioned before is affecting our case, but there s no way for me to know because everytime i try to get in touch with the USCIS its the same answer as shown online, Just the NOA1. We are 2 months away from the time line for NOA2 and i dont know what to do.

Please Any advices will be very well appreciated? im getting very desperate.

Forget the K3 and go with the CR-1. MUCH, MUCH better visa and cheaper in the long run. You will get the GC within a month of arrival. If at that time you have been married for 2+years you'll get a 10 year GC also saving you having to remove conditions.

Is your son being petitioned also?

Thank for your reply, yes my son is also petitioned thats why we didnt ask for the CR1, we are thinking on chaning to CR1, but what about my kid?, i wont leave him.

You couldnt get a tourist visa because of the millions of Mexicans that are pouring over the borders with no intention of returning, visa or no visa. They have created a history that cant be denied. Your " strongest ties" are to your husband & nothing you can submit to them could change that in the mind of the interviewing officer.

The taxes will have to be paid before any visa is issued. If he doesnt have the money he can use the accepted IRS method of paying them back in monthly payments which will help with the visa approval.

If money is driving what you have to do, get a K 3 & K 4 which will be cheaper at this time. The initial problem with that is you will not be able to work until you can get an EAD card wich will cost about 350 bucks & take 3 or 4 months.

In the end a CR 1 would be best but will cost more right now. A K 3 will mean you will have to suffer thru the AOS process later but you may be in a better position to pay the fees later & you would have up to 2 years to do so.

If your husband is working now he should keep the job until the visas are approved. If hes not he could submit the 134 with his latest info & see if they accept it. That is what I did & we were approved.

Your answer about the kid isnt clear to me. Did you submit a 130 for him? . Each immigrant requires a seperate 130. If his 130 is approved he could get either visa.

The mistakes made in the original submission certianly affected the timeline of your case. USCIS admitting they made mistakes helped you get back in line faster. Checking status is worthless. The info they give you is not correct or current. Your case is simply going thru the system with the thousands of others & will be approved.

Thanks for replyin to me. My kid was included in the K3 with my I 130, we understood that with k3 you only fill one I 130 , there you include the beneficiary and the kids in the same I 130.

Hi friends.

Im getting so frustated in this waiting and more with all the problems me and my husband are having..

Im from Bolivia living in Mexico for 8 years now. I have a son from a previous marriage thas lives in mexico with me. Im already a mexican citizen since 2007. I met my us husband on 2005 and married him in mexico in 2007( right after i got my mexican citizenship). We filed in october 2008 for K3 get the I130 NOA1 10 days later. My husband sent the I 129F too but it was returned to him 2 times for not sending it to the right place ( he send it to chicago), so at the end he got in touch from someone from the USCIS and he was told to send the I129F again but still no response from receiving the I129F. WE called together to the USCIS last april and they gave us a ticket number ( for a checking status request or something like that) . So days later my husband got a letter from USCIS saying they were sorry for making us wait too long and it was a mistake from USCIS that it was taking so long and that they were going to process our documents fastly. Weeks later my husband was asked to send a better copy of his passport and he did. Thats the last thing we heard from USCIS.

Actually with the crisis, this year my husband is having problems with his job and have a lack of money to pay his last year taxes and he is all down and depress thinking that this will make USCIS deny our case. And i guess thats why he is not putting too much effort in calling USCIS and asking them whats going on. He s looking for another job and until this new job happens it seems he is not wanting to know whats going on with our K3 status. I dont know what to do , i offer to help him pay his taxes but we are afraid that this wont matter for USCIS because he cant show a stable job in the first term of this year or something like that.

Also year ago I had like 3 USA tourist visa denials , last time i tried to get it was in 2005 but since i was applying for this US tourint visa in mexico and by that time I wasnt a mexican citizen yet , they keep telling me to apply for this visa in my country, which i couldnt because i was living and legally working in mexico.I never understand the denials because I was a bussiness professional with a masters degree trying to make myself and my kid a living, and from me there was no reason. So i just stop trying the US tourist visa.

Maybe all that mentioned before is affecting our case, but there s no way for me to know because everytime i try to get in touch with the USCIS its the same answer as shown online, Just the NOA1. We are 2 months away from the time line for NOA2 and i dont know what to do.

Please Any advices will be very well appreciated? im getting very desperate.

Forget the K3 and go with the CR-1. MUCH, MUCH better visa and cheaper in the long run. You will get the GC within a month of arrival. If at that time you have been married for 2+years you'll get a 10 year GC also saving you having to remove conditions.

Is your son being petitioned also?

Thank for your reply, yes my son is also petitioned thats why we didnt ask for the CR1, we are thinking on chaning to CR1, but what about my kid?, i wont leave him.

Hi friends.

Im getting so frustated in this waiting and more with all the problems me and my husband are having..

Im from Bolivia living in Mexico for 8 years now. I have a son from a previous marriage thas lives in mexico with me. Im already a mexican citizen since 2007. I met my us husband on 2005 and married him in mexico in 2007( right after i got my mexican citizenship). We filed in october 2008 for K3 get the I130 NOA1 10 days later. My husband sent the I 129F too but it was returned to him 2 times for not sending it to the right place ( he send it to chicago), so at the end he got in touch from someone from the USCIS and he was told to send the I129F again but still no response from receiving the I129F. WE called together to the USCIS last april and they gave us a ticket number ( for a checking status request or something like that) . So days later my husband got a letter from USCIS saying they were sorry for making us wait too long and it was a mistake from USCIS that it was taking so long and that they were going to process our documents fastly. Weeks later my husband was asked to send a better copy of his passport and he did. Thats the last thing we heard from USCIS.

Actually with the crisis, this year my husband is having problems with his job and have a lack of money to pay his last year taxes and he is all down and depress thinking that this will make USCIS deny our case. And i guess thats why he is not putting too much effort in calling USCIS and asking them whats going on. He s looking for another job and until this new job happens it seems he is not wanting to know whats going on with our K3 status. I dont know what to do , i offer to help him pay his taxes but we are afraid that this wont matter for USCIS because he cant show a stable job in the first term of this year or something like that.

Also year ago I had like 3 USA tourist visa denials , last time i tried to get it was in 2005 but since i was applying for this US tourint visa in mexico and by that time I wasnt a mexican citizen yet , they keep telling me to apply for this visa in my country, which i couldnt because i was living and legally working in mexico.I never understand the denials because I was a bussiness professional with a masters degree trying to make myself and my kid a living, and from me there was no reason. So i just stop trying the US tourist visa.

Maybe all that mentioned before is affecting our case, but there s no way for me to know because everytime i try to get in touch with the USCIS its the same answer as shown online, Just the NOA1. We are 2 months away from the time line for NOA2 and i dont know what to do.

Please Any advices will be very well appreciated? im getting very desperate.