Ginalisa

Thanks everyone for the comments and the unsolicited advices. Eveerybody's exercising their right to freedom of speech, and so am I. I just want everybody to know that not all situation here in the US is always sugar coated. And learn from what I experienced and mistakes. I am not putting a bad label to my fellow Pinays, like what one commentator said regardless of color,race and age sone people are born with rudeness in their veins. And for the record, my husband's ex wife and I are really civil to each other. I've been to her apartment many times and she is nice to me (I don't know behind me) we even exchange presents this christmas. It's just that her bestfriend is narrowminded.

It is expected that filipina would be rude to you. She is the bestfriend of your hubby's ex-wife. A kind of attitude that majority of women would do irregardless of nationality; stick with their friends and be nasty to the other woman. No brainer here.

Reality check... please analyze your scenario before posting bad comments. Your generalization is kind of unfair towards your fellow filipinas.

I WAS just expecting that she would act like a civilized person.. I didn't do anything to her. The no brainer here is treating your kababayan as your enemy. People who treat other people like that are just not civilized at all.

hi OP...don't let those type of people, especially those type of fellow kababayans get to you. she's doing exactly what you said...which is disrespect you and embarass you because husband's ex is her friend. there's a lot of filipinos here in the states like that....na they try to over do one another. you're not missing much by deciding not to be friends with these people...those types of "i can outdo you" people you don't want to be friends with anyways. but don't let it deter you from going to other filipino gatherings. not all of our kababayans have that kind of attitude.

Hello TravellingNomad,

Thank you so much. Yeah, many people not only Filipinos have the "I can outdo you" attitude. AFter the inccident I am now careful and cautious in choosing my friends. Have met a few Pinays here but I am only worried that they would do the same to me.

Stay away from people who dont make you feel accepted. I'm sure you can eventually find friends who are sincere and humble. Another advice is, keep a few chosen friends!

Thank you Pinky & Danny.

I sure have one Piay friend here who doesn't treat me bad.

I am sorry about your experience with her. Sometimes, our own people is the one who hurt us. Sometimes, we have to be careful in choosing friend and people. Make friend with them who have the same spirit with us to make everything easier.

Thanks Uta, I feel sorry too. I learned a lesson that should choose who to befriend with. It's hard to find true freinds these days.

There are rude people from evey corner of the world.. were you surprised that a fellow Pinay could be rude? Did you never meet someone in PI that was rude? I have met several Pinay that were rude and I dont label every Pinay as rude because of the actions of a few..

The woman is best friends with his ex and you are surprised she wasnt polite and thrilled you were with him rather than her best friend.... Its just as much in his lap as it was hers for taking you to a situation like that.... If he was in a couples bowling league with his ex and then he shows up with you as his new bowling partner, the other people who were best friends / members of the group with the ex would not likely treat you the same as the ex at first... it takes time to adjust to change and get used to new people and situations...

You have the point there, thank you. I have been expecting that she would act like a civilized person.

Hi Ginalisa,

I'm sorry to hear about your sad feelings to some kababayans who been there also for american-filipino marriages who have that kind of attitude. You better stay away from those kind of people if you find you are not welcome by her / them and have an open conversation to your husband that he will avoid talking to that friend of him coz you are not comfortable with her." Parang ganun lang cguro ". I am certain , not all filipinos(a) treat each other that way.

Actually i am interested to know you also since my fiance is also from Washington State WA, at the moment i am waiting for the appointment letter from the USEM Manila, hoping to have it early January, God willing.

So stay happy and enjoy the Yuletide Season out there. Happy New year

tess129

Hi tess, thank you so much. Yeah I stayed away already from them, it just hurts that I don't have somebody to talk in my own language, but I'm getting the hang of it. My husband's children are rally nice to me. Where in Washington is your fiance?

I am a Filipina living in Washington state. I have been here for more than a year but I only have one Filipina friend, My husband ntroduced me to her and she and her husband were very good people. I once attended a party for another Filipino here. My husband personaly knew her and they seem fine. At her house, she was always asking my husband about his ex-wife who happened to be her "bestfriend". I was so ridiculed and I felt I am not welcome to their house and party. From that point on, I never go to any Filipino get together. She was so rude and uneducated, they are also some kind of "socialite" and they are trying to outdo each other by having fancy clothes and gadgets.

I am just sad that there are Filipinos like that, treating their fellow kababayan like ######.

thank you so much,

i just arrvied in the US and I don't know what to expect from USCIS or NVC or from the US government.

Give me an idea guys, your words will help. Thanks in advance.

good luck..

I uploaded a copy of an Instruction Sheet I requested from St Mary's for the CFO process for k1,k3,IR/CR1

Visa holders.

http://www.visajourney.com/gallery/display...0&uid=65394

Note: This was St Mary's in QC,,, but, the requirements should be similiar

Regards,

wow, great idea..

thank you so much.. take care and God bless to both of you.

Only one requirement that I know of Have a Valid Visa to exit the Philippines complete the Class and get the stamp.

Some do take the class before recieving a visa but they get no stamp. They keep their reciept for payment and complition of the class and after recieving their visa. Go back and get the stamp.

Hope this helps

Oh Rosie loved her two day stay in Cebu since she had never been there. The class is a day long so I sent her there a day early and she spent two night and two days in Cebu.

Rosie and David

wow, thank you so much.

cebu is a nice place,

hello,

i will be going to cebu tomorrow for my cfo sticker,

i am wonderign what are the requirements to get the sticker..

i hope you can help me guys,

thank you so much.

congratulations

congratulations

congrats and am happy for you both.

hello,

good luck i wish you get your appointment soon.

It's okay if you just print some chat logs, don;t print them all..

in my case when i had my interview, i brought two envelopes of chat logs and the pre-screener and CO didn't even bother to ask for it.

hello,

i got my visa yesterday and we have the same problem,

my husband's name is christiaan but it is spelled on my data summary as christian.

i think it's okay, ayaw kabalaka dai, duha na ta hehehehhe.

To abbynsheryl, DouglasFiel and Hoot,

Thanks a lot. I will just leave it the way they wrote it.

Anyway it's just the data summary, all the papers inside are correct.

thank you so much for the suggestion.