cool

There is no body i can discuss all this with.

She Found the recordings in computer , i recorded her talking about ex marriage being fake.

she took computer out and throwed it to floor. i went tshe started beating me, it was a struggle i could get in home and call police

i was running out without almost nothing out.

now she is saying she will tell uscis and remove my file.

do i deserve this? i been so loyal to her, she calls me Islamic Terrorist, Gay, ... All that. i have audio recordings of every thing.

i dnt know what to do i dnt want to go back either i have given 5 years of my life to her.

She calls the police again today just because i did not apologize to her for a mistake she did, police officers came talked to both of us. they were very friendly to me.. they knew what was going on.

one officer said to me if she is trying to USE 911 she may get in trouble for it.

i wonder how can i file against her that she is Abusing me, She is Mentally Ill. i recorded her talking about her ex marriage That it was not real marriage it was to get financial help from that man and get him a GC.

if i file against her... What Are Chances.. How it Works?

came to US on k1 had interview on march 2008, still waiting for GC approval

believe me the pain i m going through is Not Funny at All

Still facing all this Stuff from her, Every day a new Lie....

i have a Question if any body knows the answer i will be thankful

in August this year will be 2nd anniversary of our marriage still waiting for green card, every time we go to infopass they say its under process last time they told its under "Investigation" , Contacted our Senator and got a reply from USCIS saying that its security checks and stuff and they can not compromise on national security.

i wonder what if i get divorce from her after our 2nd anniversary before getting GC? will i still have to go back?

i really dont want to go back now, and she is giving me hell... do i have fire for me on both sides?

i have decided to try my best to work it out as i been doing to at least untill to our 2nd marriage Anniversary. if things get better i will be with her if not i will tell her that "Enough is Enough"

Were you aware that her ex-husband was also someone she brought over to the US before you two married?

no i was not untill i went to my interview for Visa because she had to send me divorce decrees, she did not bring him here he was already here on visit Visa.

what ever she told me since we met was a lie truth came to me time by time, and she says i did not want to loose u. thats y i told u some lies.

i believe in Almighty God when i married her i did not have any intention to leave her after some time.. no way .. i have to answer in front of God one day i be so sympathy with her.

I vote it's a troll.

one little sign is he claims he started working 3 or 4th day after getting married.... ead takes at least 60 to 90 days after filing.

something just doesn't sound genuine about this one.

Sounds like someone who isn't familiar with the process and isn't really going through the paperwork most of us are familiar with that goes with the k1/ead/aos.

-S.

Dude you are forgetting about the 90 Days EAD that they Stamp at JFK

well first of all it seems like she is lazy and probably went looking to get a guy from different country so she can hold the whole green card over your head... but at the same time why are u letting her do whatever she wants... be a man and tell her something.. my husband even here yet and i already told him how the whole credit report works lol... but what i dont get is when u say "oh your son dnt have to pay me any thing just help me in the Bills..." what does that even mean.. if u guys are married u share everything.. it seems more like ohh im gonna marry ur son but all he has to do is help with the bills and thats how he can pay me back for marrying him????????????????? (no offense)

well i have tried every way to make her understand the things, but she thinks that world is against her for no reason and she is the Right and Innocent one.

i m not a Troll.

she dnt like the friends i make, so i have no body to share what i m going through. when she starts talking about something it takes a hour to stop her some time a Day.. so she got on my nerves last nite saying that U need to look for an other better job"not for me but for u". and i said since i stepped to this country i did not have any space to do any thing... she did not even take me to show the city.. only place she showed me was where i work now

She used to be so nice before i came here, as time came closer of my arrival she started talking about what i m gonna do here"Job".

about her ex husband she told me that he helped her in hard times which i later found out that they did a "Paper Marriage" means he paid her money to stayed married until he got Greencard.

She used to tell me that she make more then 3000$ a month when i was back home, i was not greedy to use her for my joys but i m just mentioning.

she goes out to club some time with her friend and come home drunk around 5 Am and some time dnt even bother to come home until 9 AM.

and me only place i go to is Work, and then home... i cant even stand close to a Female because she will blow like a bomb but she can talk with any body and tells me that when she can not get help from me she have to get it other ways through friends.... help means $$$$$

she cries about ohh i have no money and i tell her i guess u have to work to earn money.

i Can write a whole book about her.

and yes i created an Id just to discuss my problem, i used to be a well known member here while i was waiting for my k1 visa nad she checks computer and this site all the time to pick something against me.

I just want to know that what law says here about marriages? specially when u bring a spouse from overseas?

is this true that just because i m man i have to take care of here luxuries?

i dnt want to go back home now because it took me alot to make my family agree about our marriage. i used to tell my parents that our life will be better.

i can not even have a Account in any bank now because she used to deposit checks in my account and she signed some body else's checks and deposited in my account which was a fraud .... so now i m in Chex systems for something i did not do .

Guys i dnt know how to tell all that in just one Post, but will try to explain the Situation

My Wife and Me met online in 2005 decided to meet in person and when she went back to US filed for me.

came to US got married, even before we got married she asked me to look for a Job, because she was fired from her retail job, even before i got my visa she used to say once u come i will stop working.

well on every thing she have different "Alien" opinion then me .. actually from every body else around.. she dnt like to have any friends and not even saying hello to neighbors and i m totaly different so we have argument all the time about all the things

well 3rd week of my arrival in US i got job it was 4th or 3rd day of our marrige.. i m working... she decided to move to a Big apartment so "SHE" decided that we are going to move 3 bedroom apartment... she said it will be ok she gets partial disability money..

after 1st month of paying rent it was too much and she asked her ex husband to move with us so he can help in rent..

WHAT could i do?? i earn 1200$ and just rent was 830$ .. more over she used to use her ex husband's car whenever needed... so then she started saying buying me a CAR, we went to a car place choose a car financed it. i(Now i realised almost after one year that we have 25% APR because she have very bad credit)

i mean all this mess in her life and i feel like she got me here just to make her life easy.... Her ex husband moved out becasue we moved to a small apartment after few months .. infact we moved about 6 times in just 17 Months:S

i m amazed "Thats American Life"

when i was back home she said to me and my mom .... oh your son dnt have to pay me any thing just help me in the Bills... but eventually every thing came on my shoulders now ... i can not just explain all of this pain i m going through i feel so embarrassed. she is addicted to Alcohal and smoking so i have to pay for every thing.

Some time when we argue she says she will go to USCIS and remove my file...when i say that i will file against u that u r abusing me and using me to make her life better. she Calls me a Terrorist because i m Muslim, she says sorry then.

She is on Prozac and Paxil.

is she right in saying that i am responsible for her all needs she dnt have to work?

we will be married 2 years this agust still waiting for green card.

Please give your opinions