tany1157

You have the answer. That is to hire a qualified attorney, at the very least get a consultation from one.
I suggested Laurel Scott to you in your other topic, she conducts free chat consultations, perhaps free short phone consultations.
immigrate2us.net has extensive hardship letter advice and examples.
Your efforts to contact the embassy for a reply have not resulted in an answer due to privacy issues.
You can try to get your senator ask the embassy that your husband will be seen and at that time be given a reason for
misrepresentation/ineligibility in writing.
The very nature of misrepresentation is intentional, therefore do not get annoyed when people suggest to
look to your husband for the answer. They are trying to help you be aware of something.
I have not made a judgement and left the possibility open that CO's make mistakes and gave you precise examples
of such and the need for an attorney to overcome it, be it a mistake or not. No magical solution exists and your options are nearly exhausted.

You don't get it, it already IS a big problem. A waiver isn't something you should do on your own or take lightly... you have to figure out how to prove hardship if he's not with you, why you can't go there instead. A lawyer usually is the only way to do this effectively.
The truth is your husband probably knows. The CO is supposed to tell him. Any chance he forgot, was so nervous he didn't hear it?

Your husband knows....whenever this ineligibility was bestowed upon him in the past(as a result of HIS actions), he was told what happened and why.However you do not have any RIGHT to know. Information about visa interviews, the results, etc, is private....and protected from outside 'sharing' by INA 222f....your husband knows....he just doesn't want to reveal...
You are the one who can file an I 601 for the ineligibility...which is 212 A 6Ci....but only your husband knows what brought this about. The VOs do not make this stuff up...

Thanks guys. We ended up finding a bank that actually knows how to deal with perm. residents... Left the one who insisted we sign the wrong paperwork!

Let's not derail this thread talking about odd balls. I apologize for mentioning anything OT.

Giving up on words - just going with emoticons....

Yawn...can we please go back to OTHERS sharing THEIR stories? Enough with the KAT show.. you have more than shared your opinion based on your circumstance. Must every thread turn into us being subjected to the same story... just told thru different words? I am sorry if this offends anyone but really I was enjoying reading the posts you ladies were sharing and becoming encouraged thru those posts... the OP came up with a great topic IMO...

I like waving in my web cam...I do many private fun things too
It is what we have for now... So Be It
But What someone might see as negative Major adjustments and Sacrifices...another couples see as finally
we are a family and can move on to growing together.
Lets Roll!!!!

You seem to be saying both, as evidenced by the quote below from one of your posts in this thread...
"Secondly, it is very uncommon for a single man to marry a girl with kids overseas so most do not have the tools to take on step parenting. This is not a one case situation. This is most cases."
You also highlighted the "overseas" part of it, which has no bearing on step-parenting or parenting abilities at all.
You also say "we" in most of your first post about the topic. Speak for yourself - replace all those "we's" with "I". The majority of the women who have responded do not seem to be in the same situation you have described, experienced and in which you fully participated. Continually generalizing their experiences because of your own actions and your husband's is offensive.
I didn't have children when I met my husband. Perhaps, I get a medal in this bizarre world of vj-mena because of that fact.

I pray for everyone that your adjustments with your new husbands and your children come together as well as one can hope for. When one comes as a package deal, so to speak, you pray that the man who receives that package treats it with much love and respect.

And pardon my French, but could you be more fcuking patronizing? No one is offering any experiences here in search of your totally unasked for validation! It's like you're holding up scorecards here. Stop it, please. It's interfering with how people interact on this forum, and it's impinging on people who just want to have discussions without unnecessary and inappropriate drama.

It is quite brave of you to assume that people who sponsor foreign spouses don't think of their children first. I don't normally take anything personal on this site, but how dare you assume that I, or anyone else, puts our children on the back burner for our own needs. Some people certainly do, but I am not one of them. You know nothing about me, or many other people on this site. My sons needs and what is best for him are always the forefront of my thoughts. I would never let a man come before him, and as much as I love my husband, his needs are second to my son's needs, and he has always accepted this. I am also inclined to not take advice from a person who let her and her kids be abused over and over again by a horrible man. The day my husband tries to manipulate/control/abuse me or my son, his azz is out of the house. I don't care how much I love him, I just don't roll like that. Next time you should choose your words better...just because you let yourself/continue to let yourself be manipulated by a man is your problem, and does not mean that every foreign spouse will be like that. Men/people will treat you the way you LET them treat you. And yes, I was in a manipulative/abusive relationship once....I had the sense to get the hell out, in case anyone thinks I don't know what I am talking about.

It is quite brave of you to assume that people who sponsor foreign spouses don't think of their children first. I don't normally take anything personal on this site, but how dare you assume that I, or anyone else, puts our children on the back burner for our own needs. Some people certainly do, but I am not one of them. You know nothing about me, or many other people on this site. My sons needs and what is best for him are always the forefront of my thoughts. I would never let a man come before him, and as much as I love my husband, his needs are second to my son's needs, and he has always accepted this. I am also inclined to not take advice from a person who let her and her kids be abused over and over again by a horrible man. The day my husband tries to manipulate/control/abuse me or my son, his azz is out of the house. I don't care how much I love him, I just don't roll like that. Next time you should choose your words better...just because you let yourself/continue to let yourself be manipulated by a man is your problem, and does not mean that every foreign spouse will be like that. Men/people will treat you the way you LET them treat you. And yes, I was in a manipulative/abusive relationship once....I had the sense to get the hell out, in case anyone thinks I don't know what I am talking about.

It is quite brave of you to assume that people who sponsor foreign spouses don't think of their children first. I don't normally take anything personal on this site, but how dare you assume that I, or anyone else, puts our children on the back burner for our own needs. Some people certainly do, but I am not one of them. You know nothing about me, or many other people on this site. My sons needs and what is best for him are always the forefront of my thoughts. I would never let a man come before him, and as much as I love my husband, his needs are second to my son's needs, and he has always accepted this. I am also inclined to not take advice from a person who let her and her kids be abused over and over again by a horrible man. The day my husband tries to manipulate/control/abuse me or my son, his azz is out of the house. I don't care how much I love him, I just don't roll like that. Next time you should choose your words better...just because you let yourself/continue to let yourself be manipulated by a man is your problem, and does not mean that every foreign spouse will be like that. Men/people will treat you the way you LET them treat you. And yes, I was in a manipulative/abusive relationship once....I had the sense to get the hell out, in case anyone thinks I don't know what I am talking about.

Well after looking at Mohammed year after year online, she was excited to finally meet him in person. They both were very nervous LOL but things went so smoothly and life is good for them both. The first few months, my daughter taught hubby how to work the Wii and play Mario Cart with her. This year, my daughter took her first French class and Mohammed was very helpful in teaching her how to speak and write French. Tomorrow is the last day of school, and she was awarded high honors with a 98% class grade average of the entire French class at her school. We are very proud ...
So short story, we are all very happy and life is a blessing for us.

It is quite brave of you to assume that people who sponsor foreign spouses don't think of their children first. I don't normally take anything personal on this site, but how dare you assume that I, or anyone else, puts our children on the back burner for our own needs. Some people certainly do, but I am not one of them. You know nothing about me, or many other people on this site. My sons needs and what is best for him are always the forefront of my thoughts. I would never let a man come before him, and as much as I love my husband, his needs are second to my son's needs, and he has always accepted this. I am also inclined to not take advice from a person who let her and her kids be abused over and over again by a horrible man. The day my husband tries to manipulate/control/abuse me or my son, his azz is out of the house. I don't care how much I love him, I just don't roll like that. Next time you should choose your words better...just because you let yourself/continue to let yourself be manipulated by a man is your problem, and does not mean that every foreign spouse will be like that. Men/people will treat you the way you LET them treat you. And yes, I was in a manipulative/abusive relationship once....I had the sense to get the hell out, in case anyone thinks I don't know what I am talking about.

It is quite brave of you to assume that people who sponsor foreign spouses don't think of their children first. I don't normally take anything personal on this site, but how dare you assume that I, or anyone else, puts our children on the back burner for our own needs. Some people certainly do, but I am not one of them. You know nothing about me, or many other people on this site. My sons needs and what is best for him are always the forefront of my thoughts. I would never let a man come before him, and as much as I love my husband, his needs are second to my son's needs, and he has always accepted this. I am also inclined to not take advice from a person who let her and her kids be abused over and over again by a horrible man. The day my husband tries to manipulate/control/abuse me or my son, his azz is out of the house. I don't care how much I love him, I just don't roll like that. Next time you should choose your words better...just because you let yourself/continue to let yourself be manipulated by a man is your problem, and does not mean that every foreign spouse will be like that. Men/people will treat you the way you LET them treat you. And yes, I was in a manipulative/abusive relationship once....I had the sense to get the hell out, in case anyone thinks I don't know what I am talking about.

I think that any mom bringing someone over here needs to understand the impact of bringing someone new into the family unit. Too often, these relationships are all about the mom's desired and not enough about the kids. Also, with the divorce rate among these couples after status, its very important that the immigrant spouse realise their impact on the american kids as well. These relationships are a lot more involved because of the fact you are sponsoring someone, they are relocating from a foreign country etc, unlike meeting someone stateside and building a potential relationship or marriage. Too often, it seems as if the relationships do not really incorporate the kids..there is a lot more to parenting than talking on yahoo or skype, and boom, someone is a dad. So many of these guys are not emotionally prepared, as much as we would like to think they are, to come over here, adjust to a new life and then all of the sudden, have a kid thrust on them.
Having been through this journey and I am now 6 years into it, I would advise anyone marrying from overseas like this, petitioning for a foreign spouse to make sure your kids have some kind of support system or counseling. When things are good, they are very very good but when they go south, things can go very badly and yes, it does affect your kids. If the foreign spouse is only it in for papers, that affects the kids for a lifetime. My children became very attached to the man I married. He on the other hand had swung back and forth between caring about them to just caring about himself.
I think that these relationships , if handled incorrectly can cause permanent damage to kids. These men that we are petitioning over, some have never been alone in their whole life, then to be thrust all of the sudden into a new culture with new people and kids to take care of and nurture. I think taking the whole transition very seriously is a given and also its important that the foreign spouse understand just how important it is to be a good step parent to the american kids. I have met very few mena who have been divorced from their american sponsors that continue to keep in touch with the step kids after divorce. I think there is a general perception that perhaps we are more used to divorce etc and its not a big deal to leave or cut off contact afterwards

In addition to that, I'd withdraw the AOS of course!
p.s. if he's not even there, how does Einstein propose receiving his green card? It's my understanding that he thinks since you've submitted the AOS package, he should wait for the mail. I'd keep a rat trap in my mailbox if I were you.

I'm sorry, but you give absolutely horrible advice. Your ONLY suggestion is to always "leave them be" ... the husband has said he no longer needs his wife for anything now that he can "disappear in the US" and the wife has no idea where he is. And this is a situation that should be ignored, in your opinion? Horrible.

Please let's use the system to look for missing people,desperate families that their kids just vanished or their husband left the house to work, to meet a friend and never came back home, not to look someone that said i have all documents that i need and i dont need your help anymore, emailed her saying he doesn't want anything with her.We have thousands of daughters,sons,wifes,husband missing and nobody knows where they are.People that care about their families and were victim of violence.Let's not use our Judicial system to look for an adult man that packed his stuff and left his wife.

He emailed her already and made it clear he doesnt want to be with her. He is not a missing person he is a %$#&$ that left her , and she needs to protect herself.

My son is 7... Him and my husband had a pretty solid relationship over the years, but finally meeting in person....the look on his face at the airport said it all. Thank God I captured it on film. We are still wayyyy early in this adjustment phase, but so far, those 2 adore each other. My husband started caring for him before/after school a week after getting here. They have a routine. They ride bikes together and horse around. My husband went to the dentist with him this morning, as my son requested he be right next to him during his cleaning. We also had their end of the year class party today, and my son was so happy to introduce his stepdad to his classmates My husband has been very supportive, cheering him on at all his baseball games, helping him with his homework and such. I really couldn't have asked for a better relationship between them.

My son is 7... Him and my husband had a pretty solid relationship over the years, but finally meeting in person....the look on his face at the airport said it all. Thank God I captured it on film. We are still wayyyy early in this adjustment phase, but so far, those 2 adore each other. My husband started caring for him before/after school a week after getting here. They have a routine. They ride bikes together and horse around. My husband went to the dentist with him this morning, as my son requested he be right next to him during his cleaning. We also had their end of the year class party today, and my son was so happy to introduce his stepdad to his classmates My husband has been very supportive, cheering him on at all his baseball games, helping him with his homework and such. I really couldn't have asked for a better relationship between them.