Rich and Bey

I was blinded by love. I know that is a stupid statement and now I look back and I say why did I put up with everything but I thought she would change. I thought she loved me. I wanted to believe it so bad that I never focused on the bad stuff. I always thoguht that we would be together. We were for five years and remember I could never prove the cheating. So I had nothing but what she said and I wanted to believe her so badly.

Remember one more thing she came back a second time after she left and I chalked it up to just missing her country so I truly believed she loved me. She was with me all the time. We talked on phone all the time when she was in Brazil. She called me and she would write me and everything. Now she wont contact me at all. She knows I love her still.

ummm...wow...bummer story the whole way through.... I'm sorry but this is a sad story, not to tread on your feelings, but didn't you sort of have a feeling of what you were getting into? I mean with suspecting the cheating and her being mad, and all the other stuff?

I was blinded by love. I know that is a stupid statement and now I look back and I say why did I put up with everything but I thought she would change. I thought she loved me. I wanted to believe it so bad that I never focused on the bad stuff. I always thoguht that we would be together. We were for five years and remember I could never prove the cheating. So I had nothing but what she said and I wanted to believe her so badly.

I want to share my story with everyone. I met my wife in Brazil five years ago. We do not have any kids together. I gave her everything she ever wanted. I loved her so much. I always suspected her of cheating but could never get anybody on her side to help me. It was like everything would always go her way. We were married two and a half years ago in the United States after she came here on the fiance visa. She was angry all the time and I couldn't understand why because she was given more than anyone was ever given in her life. i took her places and bought her everything. Showed her love and just adored her. She was staying on the computer to all hours of the night and i didn't want to be a jealous husband or one of those husbands that told her what to do but I would question it and she would say she just didn't wnat to go to sleep. THat she was just listening to music or lookiing at things on the internet. There is a twenty year age difference between us and she was 28 and I am obviously 48. I loved her more than life itself. I would have done anything for her. So I am an acocuntant and one day in January of 2012 she comes to me and tells me she wants to go back to Brazil and I ask why and she just says she isn't in love with me that she loves me but not in love with me. I was devastated. I didn't understand why she was saying this. So i was so upset and got mad like a normal reaction and just kept saying I knew you would do this to me because in our relationship when we were dating she did it to me 4 years earlier and broke it off with me. then when she had the fiance visa we were married and she wanted to go back then to Brazil. So i sent her back and we waited for the marriage visa for another year because she wanted to come back again. So she was here a year and did it to me again. all this time was on computer to late. when she first came she was very good in January of 2011 the second time. then started all of this in december of 2011 again to me. SO we stayed together for a month and everything was great it is now february of 2012. all of this time she was going to school she was graduating in July 2012 (this month). Well February comes and we go places but I was so busy with tax season that we can only go out a few times a month but i took her out every saturday night. I would work late and be very tired and promise her to take her to mall and things but just couldn't do it so she was mad. February 28th 2012 she lies with e in bed and tells me she loves me so much. I didn't understand why she was saying this to me. Asking me what we will do for St. Patrick's Day and thing slike that. I didn't think anything about it. the next day February 29th I take her to school and drop her off and I drop my son off to school. he is 19. I went to work and the funniest thing is it was a little slow at work that day so I decided to go to my daughters basketball game and go home and take my wife to the mall. I had been promising her so I went to the game and bought a pizza and went home. I went into my bedroom to tell her I was home and we will go to the mall and I couldn't find her. She was gone. All of her things and everything was gone. I fell to my knees. She didn't leave me a note or a text or call me. she went to airport because she took a shuttle and I saw the number on her phone. I called them and they told me. She never graduated school and never was able to get the two year visa either. She is gone. To this day she will not talk to me. I have not heard from her since february. In march I went to brazil and stayed with her mother and her mother couldn't find her either. Her mother tells me she hasn't heard from her either until this day which I do not believe. last I heard she was staying with her mother now but I do not know for sure. She has spoken to my daughter a little but wont say anything on where she is and who she is with. I talked to her friends after she left and found out she was cheating on me before she came here in January 2011 while we were aiting on visa. What made her come here while she was seeing this guy and I heard she went down to be with him in February but I heard she was being smothered by him and left him. She would always talk to me and now will not even talk to me. i ask myself all the time how can a woman that is married not even talk to her husband. Hasn't mentioned a divorce or anything. I am just assuming she just thinks I will get a divorce. i do not know. I hope I made this clear. There is a lot more things that happened also to this story but this is the jist of the story. If anyone wants to know anything else. I will explain more. I was devastated and once again when I tried to find anything out from family and friends they all protected her and once again everything goes her way. she said all these bad things about me and said she was a prisoner here and couldn't do anything. ALso I left one thing out that she drinks beer all the time. She is an alcoholic. I think she just wanted the party life of brazil.

Thank you.. they said i need to wait for a January interview now... So let's see.. i was hooping for december...

Finally the case was completed on the 20th.. SIF!!! Called NVC this morning and they said most likely a january interview. So let's hope it is the beginning of January...

Finally SIF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! woohoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kim- Woo hoo!!! :dance: :thumbs: Congrats on the SIF!!!! Any date on the rescheduled interview for yourself?

Mrs. D.-I can't help anyone with my AOS experience really. All I did was wait and fret and worry and ponder moving everything to Peru a half dozen times and mapping out all of the details. Not very useful to anyone But thank you

Tom- Yeah. I looked over his paperwork, even though we went through the packet line for line and I told him what to put where. It kinda sucks though because I will have to write a note to NVC saying that while he is married and filed jointly...I am only using his income (even though they make you put the couple's total). Luckily I have his W2's so they can figure it out (I hope!). He also sent me other papers that were filed which has me wondering if I should send them or not. I know that technically I don't need to send all of his junk in but I'd hate to get an RFE for it. Off to explore the VJ site for sure.

Rich- That is too bad to hear. I hope it is something that they will just let you bring to the interview stage. Could it be the same issue as Kevin?

We still have many hurdles to over come but hopefully we will continue to move in the right direction.

I hope everyone has a great weekend! Mine will be full of copying paperwork and going over my lovely package to send it out on Monday from work. I'm not looking forward to the bill though...

Teya i do not know. i will ask them on monday if i can do this. i think it is the federal police certificate. i found out this morning after hearing the AVR. so monday at 7:30 in the morning i will be their first call and ask them if she can scan it in and send it to them via the scanner if this is what it is and bring it with her to the interview. they have all this from last year and i am aware that the police certificates expire after 6 months but she wa shere for 8 months last year so she was only there for 2 weeks before we reapplied. so hopefully they will find it in their hearts to allow us to bring with us to the interview.

Well just called the AVR and it said that we are missing some documents. to wait for the l;etter and mail them in and allow another 6-8 weeks of processing. I am so sad about this. i do not know what could be missing. i sent in everything they needed. copies of everything and now i need to wait until monday to find out. this is not good. nwo i need to wait more time.

Congratulaions to Kevin for his case complete. I am so happy for him..

i just was able to get through to NVC now and going through the system as i am typing this. it took at least 15 times. and of course no updates...

JD my ds3032 took about 10 days to get entered into the system. i sent it on a monday and the following week sometime it went in. very very frustrating. just have to be patient but i guess all of us are frustrated and really losing our patience.

Yesterday i called the NVC and got through on the first time. i couldn't believe it. i thought the world came to an end and i was the only one left.. lol... Senior how did you get this done so quickly? i hope we see some more sign in fails today.

We should have a category that says SIF. wow this wait is really exhausting. i called again today and they keep telling me 6-8 weeks. i feel like saying that is how long its been since i have been approved. i am tired. so they are telling me basically to wait until november. this i know is not right but come on. it seems endless here.

Good news to everyone.. when do we get this SIF already? this is brutal. i been approved since august 26th. i sent my paperwork in september though they logged in the ds230 docs on the 30th.. the 24th they logged in the aos stuff. this is now october 11th. wow. it seems like forever for this. i am tired.. i think i need a vacation from this stuff. lol..

oh yes i read that she had a SIF.. sorry. i came home late from work and had to make dinner so i tried to take a short cut senior...

Congrats I&G and Milena!!! Hope I get SIF soon too!

WHo is milena? did she get a SIF also?

Congratulations to everyone that was approved... hopefully we will see some sign in fails soon. i know i am ready for mine. this 6-8 weeks is killing me.. lol...

I had hoped you'd feel guilty for your terse jibe at my intellect and you'd apologise; but, some people are hopeless when it comes to feeling compassion and remorse. I hope your ill behavior is only truncated within the confines of these boards and doesn't spill over into your real life.

Well indigo what can i say. i know you was joking. i was just going with the flow. i was just playing with you but its ok i understand your position. i was just joking with you but fine i will apologize. i thought with all the frustration and stressfull waiting on this board that i would play around a little with you but i guess you don't like to play. i respect that and apologize for my joking and will for now try to be more serious to you.

No. No. I completely made that up. It wasn't the computer or Excel. It was me. I'm mentally retarded. Totally incapable of formulating even the simplest of thought such as the sky is up and the ground is usually toward the bottom, let alone such complex matters like Gregorian dates. No, Sir, I cannot do those at all. I'm very stupid. I can't believe my company continues to pay me a salary to come up with newer ways to make more money and make their system so very efficient. I'm totally not capable of that. I can't even do dates. I'm a total failure. My mom should've aborted me while she had the chance.

-rolls eyes-

LOL... that is a good one...

indigo we are going with the theory that excel f***ed up... ok lol.. i am with you.. what ever happened to theory a computer was only good as a person that puts it in.. lol..but i am supporting you ont his one buddy... lolll i will back your story. i got your back...

(06-12-2010) - (22-08-2210) = 14 days. Looks about right and what everyone expects. My NOA2 was approved on 02-10-2010. I should start calling on 16-10-2010. I'll start calling starting next Monday.

indigo i don't know where you are getting 14 days from that maTH. BUT I AM WITH YOU.. YOU MUST BE SO HAPPY FROM THE CELEBRATION.

COngrats to everyone that was approved.. thank god...

Congrats Indigo!!!!!!!!! i am glad are approved!!!!!!!!!

JD congrats on the progress. still a waiting game for me but i see someone in september received a SIF so that's good. i would expect to see a lot of SIf's soon. hopefully.

Congratulations Loto!!!!! Great News for sure....