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A job can make all the difference in the world. When she comes back, tell her to get one. It will keep her busy, get her some friends, and allow her to make some extra money to send to her family. Not having a job and just staying at home can drive anyone mental. When I arrived here, my husband and I lived in a small town too. I had no friends too, no job (I only got my EAD five months after my wedding), no high-speed internet to get in touch with my family, no money except for the $5k savings I brought fr the Philippines (which wasn't much). No drivers license. Nothing to see except trees and trees and more trees. I was bored and depressed (at that time I denied that I was). I had thrown tantrums that my husband claimed he's never seen before. I had threatened to leave probably more than a couple of times. I was extremely critical of the surroundings (boring and quiet), the "country", the people, the cows, the grass, the culture, etc. I hated the get togethers and I was extremely suspicious of the people around me (e.g."They don't like me and are just pretending to like me"). Money was tight too. We were living paycheck to paycheck.

Anyway. We've been married almost four yrs and we're happy. The first year was tough but I found a job as soon as I could. We moved to the city. Every time I got a raise, we'd move to a better place. Now we own a house and we don't have any other debt. My husband had bad credit so I had to work on mine alone to the point now where I'm improving his credit too! I still don't have filipino friends here which tbh is ok. I have friends at work and my closest friends are still back home. I keep in touch with them daily. Here I hang out with my in laws and my husband 100 per cent of the time.

I think the biggest help was me getting a job. When my husband and I fought, prayers helped. When things were tough, the commitment really helped---through thick and thin

And of course, there's love. Love kept me here. And love kept my husband fr throwing me out when I threw the worst tantrums ever !

Her sending money home will continue to be an issue until she gets a job (that's my guess). We don't have that problem since I don't send money home unless there's an occasion. And we always try to make it fair (e.g. If we give his mom a 100 dollar gift on her bday, we'd give the same amt to my mom).

Good luck. I hope you and your wife make it. The first year is always tough. You're not alone.

thank u for your story it sounds exaclty like my wifes and my situation how can such a little person make so much noise is wat id like to know lol

my filipina wife is not happy here in the usa she is critical of everything around her my friends my family dont get me wrong we do love each other and she is a good wife in the sense of her duties at home of cooking cleaning etc. but nothing seems to make her happy more than a week at a time we live in a small town no other filipinas close to us for her to have as a friend but so many woman here have tryed to makes friends with her she is not interested at all makes no attempt to be social at all an is jealouse of everyone that is close to me including my mom and my daughter so i decided to send my wife back to philippines for a visit for us to take a break from this marriage we have been married 5 months i miss her very very much but last nite even tho we are still so far away from each other when we are chatting she gets the bad attitude with me again i cant take it anymore its not worth it im done i guess my question is now that she is in philippines how do we o about getting a divorce .

5 months?? wow.. its not enough.. if u don't mind how old are u and ur wife??

so now she in the philippines?? hope everything went well to u both..

Divorce is not a solutions..

god bless u

iam 43 she is 33 yes she is in philippines right now

give yourselves a chance to know each other more....5 months is quite short time to make a drastic decision like that more so if you said you love each other.

good lick to you and keep us posted.

yes they can see and chat to each other everyday and they do

my filipina wife is not happy here in the usa she is critical of everything around her my friends my family dont get me wrong we do love each other and she is a good wife in the sense of her duties at home of cooking cleaning etc. but nothing seems to make her happy more than a week at a time we live in a small town no other filipinas close to us for her to have as a friend but so many woman here have tryed to makes friends with her she is not interested at all makes no attempt to be social at all an is jealouse of everyone that is close to me including my mom and my daughter so i decided to send my wife back to philippines for a visit for us to take a break from this marriage we have been married 5 months i miss her very very much but last nite even tho we are still so far away from each other when we are chatting she gets the bad attitude with me again i cant take it anymore its not worth it im done i guess my question is now that she is in philippines how do we o about getting a divorce .

i guess 5 months of being married is not that long...you are still in adjustment period of your marriage...i bet there is a way you can both figure out to make your marriage work...divorce shouldnt be the immediate solution for it.

believe me i dont want to get a divorce either like i say i love my wife but i can not afford her moods financially or mentally i work hard for my money like all of us do and this process has been very expensive draining my savings to none and is it normal for her family there asking for money every month seems like it somthing all the time

Sorry to hear the problems you are having. You will just have to file for the divorce and have her served with the papers. You will have to look up the exact requirements for your state. Have you tried any counselling? Do you think she will ever change her ways or even try? It sure is tough because of the journey that you had to take to get this far. Definately talk to her about it though. You may want to a Divorce lawyer just to find out your options.

i have taken her to pittsburgh into the strip district a couple of times to get her dried fish an other philippine food but it doesnt impress her much i i thought she would be fine here in usa i knew she would miss her family but she worked in tiwian for 6 yrs with out going home so thought she may be able to handle this transition well she i 33 yrs old not a 20 somthing

my filipina wife is not happy here in the usa she is critical of everything around her my friends my family dont get me wrong we do love each other and she is a good wife in the sense of her duties at home of cooking cleaning etc. but nothing seems to make her happy more than a week at a time we live in a small town no other filipinas close to us for her to have as a friend but so many woman here have tryed to makes friends with her she is not interested at all makes no attempt to be social at all an is jealouse of everyone that is close to me including my mom and my daughter so i decided to send my wife back to philippines for a visit for us to take a break from this marriage we have been married 5 months i miss her very very much but last nite even tho we are still so far away from each other when we are chatting she gets the bad attitude with me again i cant take it anymore its not worth it im done i guess my question is now that she is in philippines how do we o about getting a divorce .

hi iam sad to say my wife and i are not going to make it in this marriage iam not mad at her i just want her to be happy and that would be for her to go home to the philippines back with her family the question i have is can she travel home and make it thru immigration with out her green card we have not finished all of the aos stuff yet just did biometrics my udaerstanding is she can leave usa but not return is that right . sorry to bring anyone down from there happiness with this topic

thanks

hi there i was wondering could my wife visit back to philippines before aos is complete she is homsick would like to do this for her.

hello everyone i have a question my wife of one month thinks she can not apply for her social security card becouse her visa has expired is this true or does it matter becouse we are married now. thanks .

on my wifes paper work for aos wat last name does she use mine or her maiden name

hi i wonder if someone could answer my question concerning I-864 FORM does it need sent with my wife and I papers when filing change of status we were married last saturday the 4th of july. thank u

hello i was just wondering if anyone had there interview on april 7th and if so have you recieved your visa yet .

thanks

thank goodnes visa approved april 7th my fiance teresa tells me interview not difficult at all that medical exam days was more nerve racking. i do have question tho wonder how long before visa will be delivered now that it is easter time?

How does she know she was approved?

Also! Did you guys have a co sponsor?

Where does she live?

the consul told her at the end of her interview that she passed. she lives in bislig

thank goodnes visa approved april 7th my fiance teresa tells me interview not difficult at all that medical exam days was more nerve racking. i do have question tho wonder how long before visa will be delivered now that it is easter time?

What happened at the medical exams?

she told me that the medical examiner was rude there and it was 2 long days there but did meet 2 new friends.

thank goodnes visa approved april 7th my fiance teresa tells me interview not difficult at all that medical exam days was more nerve racking. i do have question tho wonder how long before visa will be delivered now that it is easter time?

It depends on where your fiancee stays or resides. I live in cavite and i received myvisa after 3 days. Maybe you will have them within this week.

Congrats!

wow that would be awsome i am hoping that i could fly her here on the 18th thanks for the hope she lives in bislig.

thank goodnes visa approved april 7th my fiance teresa tells me interview not difficult at all that medical exam days was more nerve racking. i do have question tho wonder how long before visa will be delivered now that it is easter time?

It depends on where your fiancee stays or resides. I live in cavite and i received myvisa after 3 days. Maybe you will have them within this week.

Congrats!

no we did not have a co sponsor

thank goodnes visa approved april 7th my fiance teresa tells me interview not difficult at all that medical exam days was more nerve racking. i do have question tho wonder how long before visa will be delivered now that it is easter time?

hello wonder if someone can help me my fiance lives in bislig midano area so its long trip for her to manila her interview is april 7th and we was wondering if she can pick her visa up at embassy or have it shipped to a address in manila instead of going all the way back to bislig .

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thank u so much for your replys very helpful

hi just wondering if anyone can tell me how much the courier service 21 is in the manila embassy my fiance has interview on april 7th. thanks

I guess its a way to give me more money without the government actually paying for it now. Its a future tax break. I preferred the bush method of giving me a check for $600!

Its actually less effective. Since most people wont consider a check like that as part of their normal income, they tend to splurge on foreign made goods. This way, slightly less money is being taken out in taxes, which will make it more likely that it will be spend on necessities here. Like housing, food or transportation.

as a hard working american i take this stimulus package as an insult they give there selves a raise and me as a single american man being a coal miner where there is no easy job is offerd 15 to 20 $ a pay they can keep it they need it worse than me what a joke

i like to see approvals on vj gives me hope and makes me smile

i love milk but i didnt mind the milk in manila for breakfast it was ok

they dont have shirts big enough for me iam husky its for little girly guys lol.

hi i called march 2nd for my fiances interview appt. for an april spot and we was given april 7th interview date

hello if u want to book ticket to ur wife u can do it via online and send the itinerary to her and she can print it and all ur wife do is to present the printed itinerary and her passport together with the Cfo stamping and most important her visa and the brown big envelope containing confidentials files needed for her point of entry..when my husband book me a ticket he book at northwest airlines then my point of entry detroit then goin to philadelphia coz myhusband from new jersey...u can browse in the northwest website...thanks

thank u everyone it will be easier than i thought then .

hello i was wondering if someone could help me with a question i have about the best way to book a flight for my fiance from manila to pittsburgh pa once our visa is approved i was concerned how she would recieve her tickets . she is not planning on returning to her home in bislig pi she is waiting for visa in manila and flying from there to usa thank u so much always a big help to me.

hello just letting anyone know that i had to re-schedule my fiances interview in manila from march 10th becouse of passport not arriving to her in time and i got a april 7th appt for her we was very happy that we didnt have to wait months for another chance just letting others know that may be in same situation.