venus644

Thanks for all the replies. Actually I dont give a rip what anyone thinks of me posting here. It is of concern to me and I decided ahead of time I would take the helpful remarks and be thankful that based on some remarks I dont have to tolerate the people I would not wipe my butt with.

Will take all into consideration.

This is the end to the massages I will receive on this thread. Again, thanks for the helpful comments.

Maybe some of here would not believe and think it is weird.... but i have an office mate in the province that even up to this time... she doesnt like the lights on when they make love. She is uncomfortable... she doesnt like that his husband would see her naked body. Her reason is... she has no beautiful body... she is so insecure. And believe it or not.... she told us that she never , never see his husband bird ( vice versa ). They are married for 12 years , could you immagine that?

There are really cases like this in some filipina ladies in remote areas. So, maybe... better explore her to the world of wilderness slowly until she use to it.

I hope this isnt too forward a subject, but frankly I dont know where else to talk about this at.

Me and my wife got married in January 2008. The day of our marriage, she was going to go "home" which was 45 minutes away, so she could teach at her school the next day. The only reason she didnt do that is because it affected me so much, on our wedding day, that I cried.

We are together now. To this day I have not seen her naked. When we make love, the lights all have to be out. She wont let me touch her sexually unless we make love, and then only on her breasts. It really affects me....... We go round and round about this.

Is it cultural? Am I an idiot to be so affected? It is affecting our relationship.

Am very serious with this topic.

Thanks

Where did you meet your fiancee? Some women from provinces or small town are conservative type. Knowing teacher in rural areas , they are very conservative. They are timid and shy it is not easy for them to be naked , especially when it is their first time to explore sex in bed. She is uncomfortable... just be patience.... educate her until shyness over come.

Well, thats your opinion, his opinion and its my opinion too... I really dont find it bad..because he is american he cant correct filipina grammar or give his opinion?....

Owwws... really? You dont bother even if your husband opinion is offensive ? Wow!

well.. whats wrong of giving opinion? that's my husband's opinion.. is he not right? I've read the thread, and there is nothing wrong about it. He is actually right...

Respect his opinion..

and do your part too.. you are trying to be idi*ts again..

maybe you and your husband should start your own forum.

happydancer, teach me to be calm. i'm biting my lip on this one.

Hehehe.... common follow me.... take a deep breath.... count one two ten. Begin! 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 and..... ten! Now, calm down. Relax sister...

During my research on the visa interview, I've come across a couple of things that I'm wondering are true:

First, I read that if you met your fiancee through a family member or a friend, it's a warning sign for the interviewer. Why would this be?

Second, if you tell the interviewer that you want to work in the States, this raises another red flag. I guess there are obvious reasons for this, but my fiancee does plan to work because we want to start a family and hopefully have a house of our own someday. If we want these things to happen, I can't be the only source of income. So, what is she supposed to say?

Thanks for your input.

Just remember that your interview is for K1 visa. You are going to the United States for the intent of marrying your fiancee. This two answers are both suspicious... so better answer .... your intention of going is for marriage not for work. Just my own opinion.

I met my fiancee because her family has been long time friends with my family. We were introduced four years ago, became friends, and eventually progressed to love and engagement. If this is suspicious, then what is she supposed to say?

A perfect answer is your fiancee gonna go and see you and marry you and stay and live with you forever.

OK, we'll just focus on the main reason for this whole process -- to get married and be together. Thanks for your input.

Good luck! It is very simple and understandable, K1 visa is for marriage purpose. Infact, one of the question raised during my interview was a misleading question. She asked me , you are going to USA for work? I replied, no... im going to see him and marry him. K1 visa are not allowed to work , you can only work as soon as you recieve your green card or done of adjusting your status.

I done my interview within five minutes , no hassles and a quick approval.

During my research on the visa interview, I've come across a couple of things that I'm wondering are true:

First, I read that if you met your fiancee through a family member or a friend, it's a warning sign for the interviewer. Why would this be?

Second, if you tell the interviewer that you want to work in the States, this raises another red flag. I guess there are obvious reasons for this, but my fiancee does plan to work because we want to start a family and hopefully have a house of our own someday. If we want these things to happen, I can't be the only source of income. So, what is she supposed to say?

Thanks for your input.

Just remember that your interview is for K1 visa. You are going to the United States for the intent of marrying your fiancee. This two answers are both suspicious... so better answer .... your intention of going is for marriage not for work. Just my own opinion.

I met my fiancee because her family has been long time friends with my family. We were introduced four years ago, became friends, and eventually progressed to love and engagement. If this is suspicious, then what is she supposed to say?

A perfect answer is your fiancee gonna go and see you and marry you and stay and live with you forever.

During my research on the visa interview, I've come across a couple of things that I'm wondering are true:

First, I read that if you met your fiancee through a family member or a friend, it's a warning sign for the interviewer. Why would this be?

Second, if you tell the interviewer that you want to work in the States, this raises another red flag. I guess there are obvious reasons for this, but my fiancee does plan to work because we want to start a family and hopefully have a house of our own someday. If we want these things to happen, I can't be the only source of income. So, what is she supposed to say?

Thanks for your input.

Just remember that your interview is for K1 visa. You are going to the United States for the intent of marrying your fiancee. This two answers are both suspicious... so better answer .... your intention of going is for marriage not for work. Just my own opinion.

Please read the VJ guide on answering the DS form. One of the DS form ask if you intent to work in the US. Answering "YES" is not an issue.

For some it is not an issue ... but sometimes it become an issue if the pre-screener is somewhat strict. You will be grill by a lot of questions if you make a mistake in answering a follow up questions.

Remember K1 visa is not a working visa.

During my research on the visa interview, I've come across a couple of things that I'm wondering are true:

First, I read that if you met your fiancee through a family member or a friend, it's a warning sign for the interviewer. Why would this be?

Second, if you tell the interviewer that you want to work in the States, this raises another red flag. I guess there are obvious reasons for this, but my fiancee does plan to work because we want to start a family and hopefully have a house of our own someday. If we want these things to happen, I can't be the only source of income. So, what is she supposed to say?

Thanks for your input.

Just remember that your interview is for K1 visa. You are going to the United States for the intent of marrying your fiancee. This two answers are both suspicious... so better answer .... your intention of going is for marriage not for work. Just my own opinion.

The rage of this very thread actually shows how valid it is. People will strick in a negative way to things. If you read the original post it was not meant to offend. But some got rubbed the wrong way. It nothing but pure evidence....

If you heard Chip Tsao a guy from Hongkong who called the Philippines slave country, maybe you can realize and understand why visayan people reacted that way. I understand maybe you have no bad intention in your thread just like Chip Tsao did.

Filipinos hated Chip Tsao, and even our President did not accept until now his sorry even he asked to filipino people that he did not meant it.

hi! I have some old in IDs here during my college days but I changed my signature when I was in 3rd year college. Is it ok to submit my old IDs even if I changed my signature? My name is not change only my signature.. thanks!!!

Maybe it could help. Try also to secure a certified true copy of your voters registration record. Voters affidavit is a good proof of evidence that you are in the same person who appeared in your NBI clearance. Go to your municipal COMELEC or wherever place you registered and get copies. Your NBI record, passport, school records, and even your CENOMAR should match together.

What they asked you to submit? Follow their instruction and accomplish , you will be fine.

i wonder what the smudge looked like.........

Here is an example. I found this NBI clearance on the net and drew the smudges into the light box to show the difference. to me it looks like ink from the printer it is 2 or 3 thin lines just as shown here. but they are a lot straighter, no longer than 1.25 inches.

Tell your fiancee not to worry... if she did not fake the documents , there is nothing to worry about. They just need more clarification about the NBI clearance , it is standard way of holding approval once they found something questionable or not clear. Just comfort her and give a moral support. Good luck!

Hello all,

I received a good response from another post that I had up and it raised a good point of cancern:

a good point , about waiting till she is married to file for the passport and apply with her married name or apply for the passport before we are married and then change the have to update the name on her passport after we are married. I wonder which is the better wahy to go? What is involved with updating/changing your name on the passport after marriage?

what is the best way to go? apply for the passport before or after marriage? Also, if she obtains the passport before we get married can she still use that to come to the US on the k3 or cr1 visa, with itin her maiden name?

Basically, is it optional to update the passport to her married name or is it mandatory?

Not sure whether to have her apply now or after; don't know which way would be more beneficial.

Thanks much

Steve

Since you do not have a plan to apply for a K1 visa , the best thing you could do is wait after your marriage. It is more beneficial if you apply passport in her married name less effort and less expenses.

sa totoo lang, madali lang makakuha ng degree. pero aanhin mo yun kung di mo naman alam kung paano gamitin yun? mas mahalaga pa rin na magaling kang dumiskarte sa buhay, may degree man o wala. minsan pa nga yung iba ang dami nilang credentials sa pagaaral pero di naman matanggap tanggap sa trabaho. at isa pa, hindi naman basihan ng talino o pagiging edukado ang pagiging magaling sa english. magkakaiba kasi tayo ng galing. yun nga lang dito sa amerika, mas makakalamang ka kung nakakapagsalita ka ng english. pero hindi pa rin nangangahulagang mas nakakalamang ka sa talino.

I disagree, sinong maysabi madali lang makakuha ng degree? Of course not.... ilang years mo yan pinagpupuyatan, pinagagastusan, minsan ayaw mong ma inlove para lang i priority mo ang schooling di ba? For me, napakahirap mag aral at makakuha ng degree, siguro kahit matatalino diyan nahirapan din kumuha ng degree.

Alam mo ang mahirap... pagkatapos mong makakuha ng degree kasi mahirap maghanap ng work na fits sa course mo, di ka papayag na kung ano ano lang trabaho ang papasukin mo. Unlike sa walang degree, kahit ano pwede. Dito mas madali dito kung magaling ka , at may skill ka. Tama ka, lahat naman tayo may kanya kanya galing at talino. Meron nga dyan 2 degree pero lang work talo ng vocational lang di ba?

I listened to the speech of President Obama last night. He said that america is one of the developed countries with high college drop outs.

I am just curious if the pinay members here in VJ are also college drop outs, which I think may not be true. I guess there are many pinays, who are here in america, are educated and even college/masters degree holder (sic).

If you are a college/masters degree holder, you're invited to join in this thread and be counted. This is just for fun. You deserve to be recognized!

This appears not to be good example of how "to construct ideas using English with correct grammar and spelling". Are you sure you finished high school?

By the way, I am humbled to say, in a grossly glorified thread like this one, that I am educated.

I think, we filipinos can be fluent in english but according to my english teacher , no one ( filipino) is perfect in using english grammar correctly. We can speak fluently but grammatically wrong.

Well, i have a degree in Bachelor of Arts in Sociology and with a masteral degree also in Public Administration, but i do believe , im not perfectly fluent and i have poor english grammar too. In fact and in truth my english subject grades from first year to second year were all 3.0 ( hehehe)