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Hi! been reading your post, and no offense meant my dear, there is a lot of things that is not right for me.....again, i am not being mean, just my point of view.

My husband is a Permanent Resident now in the U.S. from the Philippines and I as a US. Citzn was the one who petitioned him. We are now living in the US. together. Husband has a child from previous relationship many years before we were married. They were never married so the child is illegitimate. The thing is, husband thought he was too young to be a father before and ran away from responsibility and left the unwed mother of the child. The mother Hid the kid for many years leaving my husband without any contact with his daughter for many years.

>>>>> you clearly stated that the your husband, the father of the child you wanted to petitioned RAN AWAY FROM RESPONSIBILITIES AND LEFT THE UNWED MOTHER OF THE CHILD....this clearly states that he is not man enough to face his own problems. And I can't blame the mother if she hid the kid from him, HE ABANDONED THEM!

Now, husband is still trying to have contact with this child and have custody. When the child was born,child did not carry the last name of the father when child was Born ,we knew that from his daughter's school info.

The child is living in the Philippines with the mother. My Husband would like to petition his daughter here in the US. What can we do? the only contact we'd have are news from our family members/friends in the Philippines about his daughter. And the only contact is by my mother in-law and sister in-law visiting the child in their school but the STEP-father's request is to have distance from the child and not allow communication. Although school principal have tried to communicate with the mother, as mentioned, the mother still doesn't allow contact with us.

>>>>> I applaude him for trying to make up with all the losses. But then again, I can't blame the mother nor the step-father if they don't allow any communication with him. And I can't blame the mother too if she didn't use his last name....I won't either!

I had communicated with the child's mother's sister because she friended me on facebook and be-friended me after on Facebook.

Husband works hard in the US. and tries to send financial support AND package with daughter's school stuff and some money)but the mother's sister(who be-friended me on Facebook) just got mad when she found out from the principal that we are sending packages for the child SHE then be-friended me on facebook saying that my husband is still a bad father and should just accept throughout his life that he abandoned his child long time ago so he will never have right with his daughter at all and saying that we should just give to the orphanage all the stuff we want to give his daughter.

>>>> I agree with the sister, he is indeed a BAD FATHER! But I don't agree that HE WILL NEVER have the right with his daughter, He is still the father.

How can we go about this process? We are also careful with this process because we don't want to spend Money on a lawyer here in the US. BUT we really want her here. Where do we start to Petition his daughter? will an evidence of a DNA test proof help? Please help my husband have right to his daughter he'd never have contact with for 10 years. I hate seeing him crushed and sad everytime he mentions his daughter. Any advice or help would be appreciated.

>>>> Again, its in the Philippine Law that mother has the right for the daughter. If i may ask, how old is the daughter? have they met? and why do you want to petition the daughter after abandoning her for a long time? Do you think it will be easy for her to bond with her father who abandoned her when she was born?

Just my 2 cents.

I met hundred of Filipinos in United States specifically California, Nevada, and Filipinas on internet I chatted with. Sometimes, I'm wondering how my other fellow Filipinos think or feel or handle about people who say you're lucky to have him once they found out about your status. I personally didn't dream of marrying an American, but a Briton man. Yes, I did date someone from London for four years. I broke up with him due to his perfectionist problem. For example: he told me how to sit, how to hold glass, spoon, teaspoon, don't burp like a cow, and so on! Of course, I appreciated he taught me how to be formal included how should I live my life. However, I get pretty little suspicious with women telling me HOW LUCKY I AM TO HAVE MY HUSBAND BECUASE HE BROUGHT ME IN UNITED STATES. Honestly, I become skeptical about women from my own country that some of them may not looking for genuine relationship, but take advantage of foreigner men looking for good Filipinas-we are known as good mother and wife.

Here is my questions:

1.) Do you believed in choosing partner that you have to be wise or just go with I may be lucky with him?

or

2.) What do you think of Filipina women that just looking for men on internet hoping to get lucky?

3.)Do you ever think it will affect our next generations if we get more bad Filipinos in US? If yes, are you willing to help the immigration someday to prevent this case?

Is that line really bothering you too much that you are willing to help immigration with fraud issues?

We have 2 main reasons why we are here...its either we are using our heart (LOVE), because we want to be with the person we love and being practical, which they always say as fraud or just using USC to seek greener pasture.

Whichever, who cares?! that's their life....

And how will you define "BAD FILIPINOS"? are those the one who kill, rob banks? or because they commit fraud that they are BAD? then I would say Filipinos are not the only people who are bad here in US, some countries do that too. So are you also gonna report them to immigration too?

Maybe friends tell you that you are lucky that your husband brought you here because they know that your husband love you so much that he wants you to be with him, that's why he put forth effort to bring you here. IT's not that easy to bring someone here, you have to have a lots and lots and lots and lots of patience for that.

And if you are worried that maybe in the future your kids would meet those BAD FILIPINOS, then tell them to stay away from them. It's still how you raise your kids, how you teach them moral values in life.

And sweetie, don't think about other people's life too much......it will kill you.

And they are gazillion of Filipinos ive met na mayayabang nakatungtong lang sa states, but excuse me, i wont waste my time thinking of them or thinking why they are here or whatever reasons they have.....i have my life and they have theirs.....ika nga ni claudine ""MAHAL MO BA KO DAHIL KAILANGAN MO KO? O KAILANGAN MO KO KASI MAHAL MO KO"?--from movie MILAN....so whatever reason they have, its their choice....at ika nga ni John Lloyd kay Bea "...AND YOU CHOSE TO BREAK MY HEART" (and that's for the BAD FILIPINOS who chose to break someone's heart just to be here)

just my 2 cents everyone.....just my 2 cents! inuulit ko po....just my 2 cents!

Thank you so much for these... Sometimes it really gets hard. It's not easy to be cheated on, to be left behind with a new baby...it makes you question your value, your worth. It shakes the confidence, but in all these, I have to think about my baby. I have to be strong for her, try to make the best decisions. She doesn't have anyone else but me. I do not have a choice but to make this work.

Thank you very much.

Very well said

hmmmm.......i bought him a heart shape cookie for 2/$1.50 and i bought another one for me coz it really looks yummy...i couldn't share the cookie i bought for him....so i just bought one for myself...PLUS..its cheap and on sale!lol

Its the thought the counts.....your love is still the most important thing!

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY EVERYBODY!!!!!!

Awwwww.......this is soooooo sad Rest In Peace Maria.

May GOD continue giving her family strength......My prayers are with her family

hooray!!!! congratulations and wishing you and your family more blessings...

SAD but true. Our father left us when I was 2 and my younger sister 1. Afraid that he might not support us financially, he sacrificed and went to Saudi Arabia as a Communication Engineer, which is 5 times bigger than his salary when he was working in the Philippines.

Imagine leaving your 2 and 1 year old daughters and not seeing them grow, not be able to hug them when they cry because of an imaginary ghost on their closet, a call from them during christmas and new year just to say thank you for the balikbayan box you send, or a call from them that they recieved an award or a star in school but you weren't there to share that happiness with them.

I'm an 80's baby, and we dont have email, webcams or yahoo messenger,or skype before. We just call my father once a week or send him mix tape with us singing and saying how much we love him.

I remembered the time that all me and my siblings do is ask something from him (spoiled little brats as we call it) we know that he won't say "no", that is when I realized how selfish we were to him.

And now that I'm already here in US, I feel what my father felt when he was away from us. He must be thinking of going home a gazillion times, but never did because all he thinks about is giving us a good future.

So, for those people who have parents or loved ones sacrificed being away from them to give them a better future , I salute them! And my prayers are with them....

They are the true HEROES! and im glad we have our own hero at home

Nay.......

Bitterness get us nowhere......

I hear ya!

dealing with my own Sh!t too!!!

Life really sucks ........

Some people try so hard to get their loved ones re-united......and some lucky ones that have it.... do not even appreciate what they got

go figure this screwed up world......

Bitterness much??

hmmmmm...........female's reproductive organ is just small, how come you can't find the G-Spot? or maybe you are not that good...

that research, still needs more studying and more female......hey, if they need a woman to study, im just a message away! hahahahahaha......

I used to try to get a rise out of Merlaine by telling her what the temp was here off and on. I'd tell her "baby, it's 15 degrees here today" and I never got a reaction from her at all. Then I finally asked her what the temp was there and she had no idea. It dawned on me that she has no idea at all what 15 would feel like. She's never felt 60 much less a -20 windchill like we're having now! LOL I'm taking her straight to the mall to clothes shop when she gets here lol

Hahaha...i have the same answer when they ask me about the temperature in the Philippines. All we know is we have summer, rainy days and typhoon! we just have HOT and COLD weather..PERIOD! we don't care what temperature it is.

Hey,it's not really fun adjusting to the temp here...Pinays are flipflops, shorts, sleeveless chick...

Sometimes I don't feel like going out, coz I feel so overdress sometimes. People here in TN says its just chilly, Chilly?!! i couldn't even walk outside without my knees shaking and talk without my jaw shaking too....men, its freaking freezing!

I told my husband once, "to you there's always the option of divorce... (the american ways and laws have shaped this thinking) to me there is no option but til death do us part. The only instance when I'll get divorce is when I am getting abused - physically."

I agree on this....

.......and EMOTIONALLY Ivy!!!

What if you really didn't used him for greencard? But He used you for personal gain? (that will be the same pain as using him for greencard)

Oh! I ddn't know that you will still be interested answering my question..hehehe

Called USCISfor the 4th time and finally they told me that they had a typo error on my zipcode, so it was undelivered...they will deliver it again....

Thanks for the replies....

Cool! love fishing when I was still in the Philippines.....

I don't have a boat or things for fishing...

That would be more fun if you were with your wife...

I've read though that you have to send I-90 form for the replacement. Anybody here who requested replacement for GC?

better to call USCIS they will tell your friend what he/she have to do

Hi D!!..teka lang ha!

My friendlost her GC too....yes, call USCIS and ask for replacement....i think replacement cost $300,im not really sure about the EAD..i think its the same.....

Buntis! sa FB nlang ha?!!hehe

parang kilala ko yang friend mo na yan MA nsa pinas yan ngaun dba

hahahaha..naku,kilalang kilala mo yun! dahil daw sa katangahan kaya nawala....lol

I've read though that you have to send I-90 form for the replacement. Anybody here who requested replacement for GC?

better to call USCIS they will tell your friend what he/she have to do

Hi D!!..teka lang ha!

My friendlost her GC too....yes, call USCIS and ask for replacement....i think replacement cost $300,im not really sure about the EAD..i think its the same.....

Buntis! sa FB nlang ha?!!hehe

Bwwaaaahahahaha lol Kmusta na ang SSsooooooo ? Talagang kinalimutan na nila ang tambayan dati dito sa BJ lol.

Pink.. How you doing na ba.. ? Post ka naman picture baby mo kung nanganak ka na...

Weasel, Kumusta yung AOS mo.. na fix mo na ba xa ?

Mariel ano vvaaa... Dito ka na ba states ?

Update naman kaya.. It's always good to know kasi na we are all ok and happy sa mga married life natin noh... or kahit not sometimes lol. Busy na busy na talaga cla sa life nila sa U.S lol. Good Luck na lang and Happy Holiday sa Lahat ng Wifey !

Btw, Post ako some pictures dito of my 1st X-mass Party from our company ! Super enjoy ako lol.

<<<<<< Me and Marriott Crew lol

<<<<< Me, Friend Teaia and our GM...

<<<<<< Hubby, Me and our F&B Mangr.

<<<<<< Co-worker doing their lil dance step lol.

...... and the last but not the least.....

<<<<< Me and BJ member Loving_G with our pups at home.

Ayun lng... Ano ba !!! Sana ma bored din kayo like me para present again kayo sa Ssoooo lol.

Hellooo......ok lang naman ako dito...siguro bored ako ngayon kaya nagreply ako sayo..hehehe....

Yep, I'm already here sa states, 2months na ako dito but been busy with a lot of things....

Been practicing how to drive an automatic, hirap ako kasi yung kotse ko sa pinas manual, so naghahanap ako ng clutch lagi..hehe....but im doing good naman,wala pa akong nababangga at napapatay na tao...hahaha

First time ko rin nakakita ng snow....but im not really liking it kasi I dont like cold weathers, mina-migraine ako...

Mag-FB ka kasi..nandun lahat kami.....naglolokohan!hehehe

Here's a picture of me and my dog "gretta"..she's a giant schnauzer..at siya ang baby ko ngayon...hehehe

Has my fiancee`s honesty killed her chances of getting her visa? During her medical exam she admitted to using drugs 1 time 7 years ago. I`m devastated thinking that now because of her honesty she might not get to come here.

Same thing happened to my bestfriend..he admitted drug usagebut that was 20 years ago..he was scheduled for Psychological Test after a week.....went to his interview and was "denied". Thinking it was 20 years ago....

And now, I'm looking for Lawyers in California to help him with his appeal...Appeal will cost us $3,000-4,000....

At least your fiancee was honest enough to admit....

Anyway, just to CHEER YOU UP! wanna share this article I read.....

NEW HOPE FOR PEOPLE WHO “ADMITTED” DRUG USE TO DOCTORS AT ST. LUKE’S

By Michael J. Gurfinkel

In two recent decisions, the Administrative Appeals Office (AAO) held that when an alien was not given an adequate definition of a drug crime, including all essential elements, any admission or confession by that alien of the crime could not be used against him for immigration purposes. This is great news for people who were refused their visas due to admitting drug use during their medical exam at St. Luke’s, Manila. If they did not receive an adequate definition of the crime, or warning about the consequences of admitting drug use (which is a lifetime ban), there may still be hope!

By way of background, in 2002, the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals, in Pazcoguin vs. Radcliffe, held that an alien could be banned for life for admitting, to the doctors at St. Luke’s, that the alien had “used” drugs in the past. The ban applied even if the alien was never charged or convicted of any drug crime, and even if his drug test turned out to be “negative.” The lifetime ban results from the alien’s mere admission to the doctor or psychiatrist, of the use of marijuana or some other prohibited drugs in the past, even if the use occurred many years ago. Thus, people petitioned by US citizen spouses, other relatives, employers, etc., and had waited years for their petition to be current, found themselves banned for life, when the doctors asked if they ever tried marijuana or other drugs at any time in their life, and they said “yes.”

The AAO disagreed with the Ninth Circuit’s reasoning in Pazcoguin. First, the AAO held that because the alien’s residence was in the Philippines, and not the Ninth Circuit (which encompasses the western states), the Pazcoguin case was not controlling authority, and the AAO was not bound by the 9th Circuit’s ruling outside of the Ninth Circuit’s jurisdiction.

Second, the AAO stated that AAO “conducts the final administrative review and enters the ultimate decision for U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) on all immigration matters that fall within its jurisdiction.” Therefore, it would be the AAO, not the Ninth Circuit, that would have the “final say” in cases arising outside the jurisdiction of the Ninth Circuit.

Third, in a decision by the Board of Immigration Appeals (BIA), Matter of K, the BIA held that the “validity” of an admission (or confession) for purposes of inadmissibility, required that the alien “be given an adequate definition of the crime, including all essential elements, and that it be explained in understandable terms.” The reason for this rule is to ensure that, “the alien would receive fair play and to preclude any possible later claim by him that he had been unwittingly entrapped into admitting the commission of a crime involving moral turpitude.” Also, it must be explained in plain English.

In these recent AAO cases, (one involving a petition by a US citizen spouse, and the other a petition by a parent), the applicants admitted to drug use only during a medical/psychiatric examination at St. Luke’s, in connection with immigrant visa processing. There was no evidence showing that the applicants were provided with an adequate definition of any crime. Further, the applicants were never charged with, or convicted of, any illicit drug crime.

The AAO further noted that the St. Luke’s doctors and psychiatrists who obtained the admission or confession about drug use, “did not provide the petitioner with a definition of a crime to which he was admitting the essential elements.” Thus, no adequate warning was given to the applicants. Accordingly, under Matter of K, that admission or confession of drug use could not be used against the applicant.

Moreover, the AAO noted that doctors and psychiatrists at St. Luke’s perform “examinations for the benefit of the U.S. government to determine if grounds exist that render aliens inadmissible to the U.S.” Therefore, there is no reason why the St. Luke’s psychiatrists or doctors should be exempt from providing adequate warnings or definitions of crimes, especially when the admission they obtained would later be used by the Embassy to ban the visa applicant for life for admitting drug use.

The AAO concluded that, “the evidence in the record is insufficient to support a finding that the applicant is inadmissible.” Therefore, the applicant’s waiver application “is unnecessary.”

If you or your relative were banned for life for admitting drug use, these AAO decisions are great news. I strongly suggest that you seek the advice of a reputable attorney, who can evaluate your situation, and hopefully help lift the lifetime ban (for admitting drug use) because the admission or confession of drug use was not properly obtained.

Being paranoid again..... :wacko

Been here for 2 months now (Tennessee)....but I haven't received my GC..

I change address at my POE and I ask the immigration officer if I should call USCIS and inform them that I have changed address, but she told me its okay coz she already changed it for me.

And now,its been 2 months and still no GC...called USCIS customer service and ask about my GC, and they don't have any idea about my greencard... the last update they have in their system is my NOA1..and that was ages ago, they havent update it eversince...

This is the number that I've been calling... 1-800-375-5283 (or am I calling the wrong number?or been talking to a stupid operator? or am I just stupid?! )

If she was not arrested of prostitution, she is free of not answering the question if she has been engaged in prostitution.

oh really? if she's never been arrested, in your opinion she can answer no to this question?

Have you ever been arrested or convicted for any offense or crime, even though subject of a pardon, amnesty or other similar legal action? Have you ever unlawfully distributed or sold a controlled substance(drug), or been a prostitute or procurer for prostitutes?

note that it does not ask if one has been arrested for prostitution. it asks if one has been arrested or convicted of any offense or crime.

the part about having been a prostitute or not is a yes or no, not a maybe only if arrested.

Yes sir, in my opinion....if i have been engaged in a prostitution, and wasn't arrested..then I wouldn't have proofs in NBI or any police records...then I can escape that question easily....(just correct me if imwrong please...hehe)

you'd be wrong to answer it no if you had. and misrepresentation earns a lifetime ban.

Yes, i know that sir....but how would they know or what proof?

Sorry for this,coz i don't know where I read it (not in VJ)..but the girl that has been engaged in prostitution denied it because of no proof and been granted visa.

****thank you for the correction

If she was not arrested of prostitution, she is free of not answering the question if she has been engaged in prostitution.

oh really? if she's never been arrested, in your opinion she can answer no to this question?

Have you ever been arrested or convicted for any offense or crime, even though subject of a pardon, amnesty or other similar legal action? Have you ever unlawfully distributed or sold a controlled substance(drug), or been a prostitute or procurer for prostitutes?

note that it does not ask if one has been arrested for prostitution. it asks if one has been arrested or convicted of any offense or crime.

the part about having been a prostitute or not is a yes or no, not a maybe only if arrested.

Yes sir, in my opinion....if i have been engaged in a prostitution, and wasn't arrested..then I wouldn't have proofs in NBI or any police records...then I can escape that question easily....(just correct me if imwrong please...hehe)

here goes,

My Fiancee fessed up to me on the phone just earlier, she comes from a poor family for Hilongos Leyte, she left and went to Manila to find a job, when I met her she was working at a waterstation. Now here is the kicker, she said its been on her mind for a very long time and wanted to tell me this so she can clear her conscience. During our conversation out of the blue she told me that she needed to tell me something, she said she used to work at a BEER HOUSE and would have sex with men for money, she claims she only went out 3 times till she no longer can take it as she was starting to lose respect for herself. Should I be affected by this ? should I lose sleep over this ? right now I am in a world of confusion and so much thoughts are racing thru my mind.

WHAT DO I DO ?

WHAT would you guys do ?

ADVISE ME PLEASE ?

I am so sorry I hear you buddy!

In our society today, common prostitution is just in the corner. We cannot pinpoint if the caused of this act, by poverty or something that urged them to do just for fun of it. Or we may call it for pleasure or better than that it thrills them to do it... Mostly, youngster of today was not left by society in guidance: If what is good or bad. We are intittled to our own choice in life.

It's not only the poor people who commits prostitution, being rich or having a good paying job is free from prostitution. You will be shocked to know that rich stupid people do it too...just for fun!

your fiancee earned my respect here...not all people has the guts telling this to the person who they really love. I know deep inside her, she knows what would be her consequence after telling you of her past....but did it crossed your mind too, that she surely do love you this much that she risked by telling her deep dark secret?

If she was not arrested of prostitution, she is free of not answering the question if she has been engaged in prostitution.

Yes, it would be easy to find someone after dumping her...and you'll start from scratch again...and I know this situation will affect you finding someone in the future..and that wouldn't help you, it will make you more confused.

If you can forgive and forget, then go. IF NOT, then you can let her go..it's really hard to earn trust and respect again.. and its hard living with the past..there will come a time that this thing will be opened again and that will be a yuckie argument......But then again, its still your decision....

just my 2 cents....

* Well, some recieved their GC within 30 days and some less than 30days, but for me...i still don't have my GC and it will be 2months now....

Mariel!!! I didn't know you're here in the US already. I did not get to read about your interview and flight experience. Did you post anything about it? Anyway, welcome to the USofA. Post ka naman ng iyong US adventures.

Ate Pinay, Yep...im here na...lol

REQUIREMENTS na ba yun dito sa VJ?!!hahaha....hmmm....nahihiya ako e...hehehe

Im super duper busy with some stuff....nakakainis nga lang at super tagal nung GC card ko...ganon ba tlga yun?or dahil nasa tennessee ako kaya medyo mabagal...hehehe

I'll be active ulit dito sa vj pag tapos na inaasikaso ko...hehehe

While waiting for your flight here, spend as much time as you can with your family and friends in Pinas co'z you are really going to miss them. My first 2 weeks was exciting coz I was busy with hubby and going places and do stuff together but later I realized...wait a min, I am not here for a vacation...this is my new home now...my new life...and then later hubby find me crying secretly at night when I miss my family LOL Just be prepared to deal with homesickness. When you get here, you might want to apply for SSN if you are planning to work right away. With the immigration matter, you don't have much things to do yet until you applied for removal of conditions...and that would be 90 days before your conditional GC expires.

Have a fun and safe trip!

Hi There,

I understand, the stamp which would be given to me at the POE is my temporary GC, right?

With my temporary GC, can I already apply for a job provided I have the SSN?

Where can I apply for an SSN?

I plan to work January or February when winter is over as for sure I will be doing a lot of adjustments. But I want to help my Hubby by having my own job, hopefully early next year.

By the way I will going there on a CR1 visa. I just need some clarifications if I got it well.

* I would get my GC within 30 days, ryt?

* Then 3 months before the expiration of my two-year GC, I need to file for AOS?

Thank you ellmvl.

Have a safe flight sis! enjoy your time with your family......

* Well, some recieved their GC within 30 days and some less than 30days, but for me...i still don't have my GC and it will be 2months now....

* 3 months before your conditional visa expires you should lift your condition, that would be the 10-year GC...

* for the SSN, some received it and some don't. but i suggest you to go apply for SSN, it will just take 2weeks or less.....so you can start finding a job.

Goodluck!

nagpalit kana lang din ng name sana pati siggy mo pinalitan mo na din para nde obvious sino ngaun ang IDIOT?

sinong IDIOT?!!

" the world is already full of idiocracy and hypocrisy, dont add up!"