SamM223

"Common Knowledge is Philippine Woman are considered the Most Beautiful Woman in the World, as you probably know by now."

What a dumb statement. That is strictly a matter of opinion and taste.

There are beautiful women ALL over the world.

Men just go to the Phillipines because the pretty women there are very easy to get for old, fat or young, dorky Americans. Now THAT'S Common Knowledge.

I am so sorry to hear what you have gone through, you were acting in good faith and were taken advantage of. I hope you can move past this once it is over and find someone who will treat you well. Maybe you should steer clear of Middle Eastern countries; as an American woman you will always be held in low esteem by these men, they don't even respect their own women. Anyway, Good Luck in whatever you decide to do.

On an advice note, I know personally of a family member in FL who married a woman from a small South American country (she was here illegally and he didn't want to lose her so they got married a month after they met). She was likeable, but in the back of everyone's mind was that she was doing it for her green card because they were a very oddly matched couple. She was pretty, vivacious, great figure and very outgoing and demanding of attention. He was basically a wallflower.

Anyway, after about 2 months the problems started, she was on cocaine and quickly cleaned out his bank account and filed for divorce.

We thought he would be screwed because the area they live in is solidly filled with the Latin community (judges/attorneys/police, etc.) and he is Caucasian. She asked for alimony and for the Support Affidavit to be upheld. They did award her a $10K lump sum alimony but said that because she could NOT prove that she could not support herself at 125% of the poverty level, that they were not going to enforce the Affidavit.

We were all very surprised that they chose NOT to enforce it, but happy because we felt so bad for this nice guy who was getting screwed over (sounds like you). Not sure how she managed to still remain here (doesn't say in the divorce documents and he isn't talking because I think he is so embarrassed).

He sounds like he is healthy and able to work, so if he cannot prove to the courts that he can't support himself (but can afford to go to high-end prostitutes), maybe you have a chance of getting it revoked.

So keep your head up, like others have said, it seems that the U.S. is not too stringent on enforcing these Affidavits. I understand in Canada they do, but for some reason, I guess we have bigger fish to fry at this time.

I am ashamed my wife has chosen the comfort of illegal aliens.

Birds of a feather flock together.

You are obtuse and you are lovesick, you will realize this later when you have finally moved on. Someone has to tell it to you straight and maybe you will actually think hard about it. This is tough love.

OK, I was trying to hold my tongue but I cannot.

My Goodness. Come on! Are you really that obtuse? You want to help someone who wants nothing to do with you? For what? Are you thinking if you stay in her good graces that maybe she will come back to you? Not gonna happen and I don't know if she is leading you on or not, but something is happening that is keeping that hook in your jaw.

I guarantee she is working very hard right now trying to find someone else who will help her stay here.

Get a clue. Please. You need a good hard kick in the pants.

Sorry to be so harsh, but you sound like a lovesick puppy who keeps coming back only to be kicked again.

I would say you should send a copy of the divorce papers to immigration before she starts claiming that you have been physically and mentally abusing her. That way you can intercept any claims she may make. Because why would she fight a divorce if you have been abusing her?

And then move on with your life.

If she is indeed looking for a green card, then she will most likely find someone who will help her get one. They are a dime a dozen it seems.

You claimed I was doing a "disservice to my country". That is one thing that is great about America, for the most part, we are free to speak our minds. So if someone's feelings get hurt in the process, that is too bad. My feelings have been hurt many times, I got over it. I feel I am standing up for my country, not doing it a disservice.

And FYI: I was not replying to the OP on that particular post, I was replying to another respondent from the Phillipines.

See? If there was no one to stir things up a bit and say the things that some people are thinking, but don't want to say, this would be a really BORING board!

I enjoy a vibrant dialogue. If everything were peaches and cream and all soothy-soothy, people wouldn't keep coming back to the board.

Well, gotta run. Anyone else who wants to bash me, feel free. I'll read it later.

Well that is my opinion and I already recognized that I may sound bitter and angry to some who can't read between the lines.

This is a forum so everyone is free to say what they like. So I choose to play the Devil's Advocate.

I, for one, will always defend my country. I am not saying the U.S. is the best country on earth, because every country has their share of problems.

One thing about Americans that people often take the wrong way is that we speak our minds; I am not going to coddle this person so her feelings are not hurt. She implied that Americans do not have the same values as Phillipinos (sp?), so I have every right to defend myself. Whenever there is any kind of crisis in the world, American people are always at the forefront, donating time and money to help out.

Any Americans care to step up or are you going to just try to be "politically correct"?

"Personally, the Philippines is still the best country to be with.."

Well, if it is indeed "the best" I'm sure your husband would be willing to go back with you then. Unless of course there are too many American immigrants bogging down the Phillipines' immigration offices.

As a proud American, I am always going to defend my country, even if I come off sounding angry or bitter. If this country wasn't so great, why are so many people trying to get (and stay) here?

when i tried to discuss him bout this issue he said that he was just re evaluate what other people might think about it!! but for me no matter how people think i really dont care!!! i appreciate philippines ,my country and im proud that im filipino .coz filipino traits is far apart from americans i miss the warm hospitality and courteousness of filipino and how resourceful and appreciative they are.i miss home:(

I take offense at that comment. If you have not met ALL Americans, then I would appreciate you not making such comments about us. In fact, what you are doing is EXACTLY what you are upset at your husband for doing.

The truth is, and I'm sure many people will admit it, that many women from Third-World countries DO marry men they have met only once to get to the U.S., regardless of the age difference. You see the pictures all the time, even on this board, of young, pretty women with men who could be their grandfathers.

This may not be your case, but hopefully we won't see an e-mail from you in the future saying you cannot take it anymore and how can you get a divorce and stay here in the U.S.

You even see the posts from these women all of a sudden wanting a divorce right after they get their conditional green card. They have endured what they claim to be "years" of verbal or physical abuse and all of a sudden, now that the green card is in hand, they "cannot take it anymore". I was in a similar situation myself and a few months was all it took for me to hightail it out of there.

So anyway, I am sorry that your husband is so uncouth, but that shows that he does not respect you. Perhaps you do not respect his American culture either, since you imply that we Americans are not "warm, hospitable or courteous).

Think about your own actions and words in relation to what your husband is saying. Maybe he is being passive-aggressive because he has heard you complain about how you think Americans are rude?

Your best bet would be to return to your home country if you are not willing to try and make the marriage work.

The way you put things, sounds like you really just wanted to get to the States and maybe figured having a child might be an anchor to stay here.

I know lots of you will get upset by what I am saying, but this is my opinion.

What will staying in the U.S. do for you? You should go home and be with your family who can help you with your child and will accept you and love you no matter what.

Let me caution anyone to at least meet the person you are going to marry and spend a reasonable amount of time with them before getting married. If you do not, then you only have yourself to blame. People can only keep up an "act" for so long, after a month or so, they will tire of it and go back to being their old self.

Thank you! That is a definite relief.

That didn't even occur to me in my brief panic.

Hi All:

Is anyone concerned that with California's current government's budget crisis that they may start to shift some of the California applications to Vermont, thereby pushing up back further in line?

Aren't they taking mandatory days off without pay?

Just a little concerned since we have all been waiting so long, it would be awful if we had to wait much longer than our expected NOA2 approval date.

Any thoughts or reassurances out there would be appreciated.

Honestly, I wonder how many less of these petitions would be clogging up the system if there was no choice to come to America, but the American had to move to where the person lived.

Wild guess - a whole lot, especially from many of the third-world countries (Phillipines/South American/Asia).

Just my opinion, but I suspect many people feel this in their hearts, but will not admit it on the board.