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    To Those Who Are Married, Not Married & Soon To Be Married

    in Philippines

    Posted

    (this was sent to me centuries ago) BEWARE: dont correction me and dont english me cause im not graduation!!! :lol: bato bato sa langit ang tamaan ASKAL!

    When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

    She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

    She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

    The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

    In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: shedidn't want anything from me, but needed a month's noticebefore the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

    This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

    My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

    On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

    On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

    Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

    I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head.Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

    The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. These create an environment conductive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

    "I will keep a smile on my face and in my heart even

    when it hurts today. I know that the world is a looking glass and gives back to me the reflection of my own soul. Now I understand the secret of correcting the attitude of others and that is to correct my own." !

    Congratulations for this happy end !! You made the right decision for your family !!

    NOT POSSIBLE TO LOG IN

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    HELLO

    NEED HELP !!!!!

    My acces to my case status account was denid when i just tried to log in.

    Several times, I had this message :

    Access To Selected Resource Not Authorized.

    You have not Logged In or Your Session has Timed Out.

    WHAT DOES IT MEAN ???

    Thanks

    Lili and Pres

    its probably because you tried to log in too soon after the last time..look on the left hand side and click the link that says like "my case" or something...sorry, i cant remember what it says exactly..

    I've already tried several times a day and i have never had this message.

    I'm not sure, I've read somewhere on VJ that people couldn't log in and they had their

    NOA 2 soon after.

    If only it could mean that someone in working on our case !!!!

    vermont processing times

    in China

    Posted

    "USCIS Processing Time Information for our

    Vermont Service Center

    Posted: March 16, 2009

    The table shown below is intended to be a tool for customers to view our processing times. When applications and petitions are completed within our target timeframes, those timeframes will be shown (example: 3 months). If we are not meeting our target timeframes a date will be shown (example: April 16, 2008)."

    That what is written on their site. I understand that they seem to be less late on processing the cases they received.

    They seem to deal with cases from much later than last may.

    Maybe it means that we can hope !!!

    GOT APPROVAL NOTICE!!!!!!

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    What do you mean? :) At first, on VJ, I just entered in the date that I thought was right for an NOA1 after I submitted my paperwork to my lawyers (they got the NOA1 and submitted everything, but I didn't know when, so I just put a date around when I thought). But in fact, when we got our NOA2 in the mail, it showed us that our petition was sent in December (NOA1 on Dec. 18) instead of November (when I sent the paperwork to my lawyers to begin with).. is that what you mean? I changed my VJ info to reflect the proper dates :) Hope that's what you meant!

    Hi Naz&Omi

    This is what i meant : when you filled in your timeline on VJ, when you entered your NOA 1 date, there was a message saying : " your case may me adjudicated between .....th and ......th"

    So i wanted to know if you received your NOA 2 within these dates, or earlier or later ?

    Just to know if people still waiting can hope having their approval in the right time !!

    Thanks for your help

    NOA 2 / VJ TIMELINES FOR MARCH

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    HELLO EVERYBODY

    HOW MANY OF US ARE WAITING FOR THEIR NOA 2 IN MARCH?

    IF YOU HAD THIS MESSAGE :" YOUR CASE MAY BE ADJUCATED BETWEEN MARCH ....th AND MARCH ... th"

    PLEASE LET US KNOW - JUST TO CHECK HOW RELIABLE THE PLANNED TIMELINES ARE !!!!

    AND TO ENCOURAGE OTHERS STILL WAITING !!!

    THANK YOU FOR YOUR ATTENTION

    It keeps changing. As of now, mine is between March 23 and April 3.

    MIne is APPROVED today!!! So, I guess the system is reliable, and better it came earlier.

    CONGRATULATIONS !!

    NOA2 Approved!!

    in Philippines

    Posted

    Ok... I just got a letter in the mail Thrusday that the NOA2 section was done and approved and was getting mailed to the NVC center to do whatever it needs to be done.

    I have called the NVC center today.... i know it to early but just checking on the case number that you guys are talking about on the forum.

    So im sure after couple more days later I should be able to get the case number MNLXXXXXXXXXXX.

    My question is.... what else do i need to do???

    Some people saying they doing sending form and stuff to nvc..... and others havent said anything. Please help...

    Also:

    (K-1 visa)

    I'm about to mail fiance'e in manila the 2nd set of the I-129F packet including:

    original picture (w/ date codes)

    invoices (orginal)

    I134, my W2 from 2006-2008 and W4 2007/2008

    signed letter from my job saying my pay and position and lenght.

    all that should be good for interview? (she has other stuff like letters, gift, and chat)

    THANKS SO MUCH FOR ANY HELP!!!!

    CONGRATULATIONS !!! PLEASE FILL IN YOUR TIMELINES !!!

    CAN HELP OTHERS WAITING

    NOA 2 / VJ TIMELINES FOR MARCH

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    HELLO EVERYBODY

    HOW MANY OF US ARE WAITING FOR THEIR NOA 2 IN MARCH ?

    IF YOU HAD THIS MESSAGE :" YOUR CASE MAY BE ADJUCATED BETWEEN MARCH ....th AND MARCH ... th"

    PLEASE LET US KNOW YOUR TIMELINES - JUST TO CHECK HOW RELIABLE THE PLANNED TIMELINES ARE !!!!

    AND TO ENCOURAGE OTHERS STILL WAITING !!!

    THANK YOU FOR YOUR ATTENTION

    ON COMPTE SUR VOUS ALEX ET SHERRY, GLENN ET MARC, MOLLY ET ALCIN ET LES AUTRES FRANCAIS

    VISA JOURNEY TIMELINES RELIABLE ?

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

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    HELLO VJ MEMBERS !

    JUST A QUESTION FOR COUPLES WHO HAVE ALREADY GOT THEIR NOA 2 :

    WHEN YOU WRITE YOUR NOA 1 DATE, YOU HAVE A MESSAGE : "Your case may be adjudicated between ..... and .....")

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    FOR ALL OF YOU, DID YOU GET YOUR NOA 2 RIGHT IN THE DELAY YOU WERE TOLD ?

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    WE HAVE AS ESTIMATED DATE : MAY 27TH AND JUNE 07 TH

    THANK YOU FOR YOUR REPLIES

    The VJ timelines are the best you will ever get. They are based on actual experience. I doubt one in 100 will be spot on, but as close as anyone can estimate. Our approval came more than a month earlier than projected. Am I complaining? :)

    I hope it will be the same for us !!!

    December '08 Vermont K-1 Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    Hey all! I've been reading all of the other posts and getting mine ready to send in and it's going on TUESDAY! PurpleFrog, I am so happy to see that someone else too pictures of their stuff - I actually carried mine around with me while I was gathering all of the docments, afraid to leave it anywhere - what if something happened to it??? Good luck everyone!

    PLEASE WRITE YOUR NOA 1 DATE ON YOUR TIMELINE TO HAVE AN ESTIMATED DATE FOR YOUR NOA 2 !

    IT HELPS !!!!

    THANKS

    Touched, case not updated, approved!

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    I got touched last Feb 19th, then again on the 20th, but online status still says "Case received and pending." Today I opened the mailbox and there is our NOA2 paper copy! Approval date - February 19, 2009. Still no change in online status, never got an email. Called NVC and has already been forwarded to Guatemala City on the 25th. Don't trust the online status! Now I've got to get focused on the next steps!!!!! :dancing::dance::dancing::dance:

    We are the same..got approve but online satus say"case received and pending"..we got the approval letter feb 26, 2009...so happy!!but dnt know what to do next?pls help :thumbs:

    Where exactly can you see if your case is "touched" ?

    Thank you for your help

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