Berber Mama

American woman married to a Moroccan male here. We have had our ups and downs the last 5 years. We have 2 sons. I love him and dont regret our marriage, but if for some unforseen reason we divorce in the future...theres no way in hell I'd ever marry another MENA man.

I don't think that visiting multiple times is as important when filing for a K-1 visa as it is in filing for a marriage visa.

The red flags come into play when a couple gets married a few days or weeks after meeting in person for the first time (although there have been couples who have secured a visa even in those circumstances).

Good luck to you both.

Associating all Muslims with terrorism is the same as associating all Christians with the Ku Klux Klan. It's ridiculous.

Exactly. Meanwhile I let him go on saying "sh!t" instead of "sheet" (which still cracks my daughters up), and a whole host of other mispronounced words. I simply don't have the energy and figure his friends at work will clue him in.

Lol. My husband has a problem with pronouncing popcorn. He says "poop corn" most often. He gets so mad when I correct him that I don't even bother doing it anymore either.

Interpol and the State Department had issued warnings if the burning went through... http://news.smh.com....0910-153g7.html

I read that the burning had been called off so I think that everything will be okay.

I can understand most of his Egyptian soap operas but I think it's more that the actors overact so it would take a complete moron not to know what is going on.

Other than that I only know a few words here and there. I haven't lifted a finger to learn anything.

Honestly I would only do it to be able to talk to his sisters but their arabic is so colloquial he'd have to teach me himself and I hate it when he tries to teach me because he's a wicked perfectionist and no matter how I try to pronounce a word he says, "la la la, like this....... not like that.....". I think "la" was my first word other than habibi.

I have the same problem. I will ask him what a word was that he just said on the phone. I will repeat it exactly how he said it and he's always dumbfounded. Then we go around and around until finally he goes "oh you mean"...and then says the word exactly how I just repeated it to him. It drives me crazy.

Good morning to all. Happy Thursday.

Are men stoned as well for adultery? For some reason I highly doubt it.

I would say to take everything with a grain of salt. Ask God for wisdom to understand the transition - that it will be one for both of you and not just your immigrating spouse. I don't care how much you thought that something was quaint in his country, it might begin to bug you in your own home. I also advise to prepare yourself for the rest of the visajourney - getting the visa is the first step - AOS, Removal of Conditions and maybe even citizenship are all stressful. Be ever mindful that your lives are subject to review and approval by USCIS. It adds additional stress, but if you are prepared for your upcoming interviews or various process stages (like knowing your crucial dates for applications) you will find it to be somewhat gratifying that you aren't running around like a chicken with it's head cut off.

Amen to that!

Hi,

I hope this finds everybody well. I have a question. After reading the reviews for the Moroccan Embassy/Counselate, I am a little concern, considering that most people are being denied. My question is should I file the K-1visa process or move there for a while.

Some people I have met that did the required were still rejcected for lack of evidence to show that it's a real relationship.

I am confused to know what exactly do they want you to show to convince them that it is a real relationship, and would it be necessary to move there to show that the relationship is for real.

Any suggestions or advice would be helpful. Starting the process soon.

Moving to Morocco will in no way be convincing of a "real relationship".

Original username btw, sounds oddly familiar.....

Since your husband is the one who cares about it and already knows how, wouldn't it make sense for him to teach her, or at least help you teach her? I know men can be somewhat useless at times though.

Time sure does fly. Adam is 7.5 months, I can't believe it. He'll be starting "school" in September. He's so close to crawling, but drops and army crawls at the last second instead. Any day now...

We went to take photos this past weekend. I'm sure you all will appreciate him in his Moroccan outfit:

OMG, how cute is that. He is a doll. Where on earth did you get the outfit? Was it special made?

My husband's POE was at Atlanta. He was out in 30 minutes. Atlanta is a HUGE airport. I've gotten lost before and I have been there a dozen times.

Tamiya (NOT falafel, fuul not hummus)

Koshary

Ok now I want some!

Wow, that is the dish that I saw on Anthony Bourdain: No reservations. I didn't know what the name of it was but it made my mouth water.

I love tfaya!

My husband didn't fly directly in. He stopped in Frankfurt Germany. It's not a problem as long as you're only passing through as someone else stated.

We got his green card after six weeks.

As for the social security card, that's another story. We signed the DS-230 to have it automatically applied for but we never got it. We too went to the SS office and the lady told us that he had not been put into the system. We had to order his at the SS office, and he got it about 14 days later.

I'm happy that things are going well for you both.

That first year is hard. You talk about him hating to be dependent on you but it was me who hated him being so dependent on me! Everytime he wanted to go somewhere, I had to go with him. He was afraid that someone would engage him in conversation and he wanted me to be there in case he didn't understand. When he wanted to make a phone call, I had to do it for him. He was too scared to take the driving license exam for the first year. He was afraid of failing. I had to chauffer him around everywhere. I even had to drive myself home from the hospital after the birth of our first son. It definitely caused some strain in our marriage.

Thankfully he gained the confidence to start taking risks and he is very independent now. My advice to anyone is don't coddle them too much when they get here!

Happy anniversary Sandra! I'm glad everything is going so great for you.

Have a great Tuesday everyone.

Use whichever name you use now legally.

Congrats Aya and John. Wishing you both a lifetime of happiness together!

The movie script certainly wasn't very originial. I kept getting up and walking into the other room. I couldn't stay interested in it. My husband enjoyed it though.

I too have brought back spices, olives, dates, honey. Heck I even brought back one whole suitcase full of Tirma chocolate. They opened my suitcase in Casablanca when they screened it because they couldn't figure out what it was. That was embarrassing.

I even brought back "sahara sand" for a souvenir upon the request of a friend.

I never declared anything because I was afraid that it would be confiscated, yet I never had my bags opened and inspected.

Congratulations! Your ex-wife's cooperation must have been very helpful.

Here is a question for woman. Why do men tend to where white (which reflects sun light and is therefore cooler) and yet it seems everything woman wear is black (which must be hot)

Black isn't see through like white is.

Yeah I can imagine it's hella hot.

I agree that the teacher should tell her that the father doesn't want it to be removed... but maybe the girl does it anyway? Children tend to have a mind of their own, not always doing what they are expected to do.

If it's so important that she wear it, then he should put her in a school where she is likely to see other girls wearing it and might want to keep it on her head.