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Posts posted by bhajishah
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Hello! I am new here! I am planning to marry in December and I am wondering if any of you are going to Pakistan this time as I would like to go with someone. If any of you are please message me! Thank you!
husband going to see his mom in two weeks (PINDI). leave JFk on the 20th come back oct 3rd.
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Salaam,
I can not believe I found this thread on the fifth page?? Has Pakistanis given up on Immigrating to the United States. ??
well wanted to stop in and say. Sister Fatimah Mary how is it going??
Of course immigration lost his paperwork for citizenship last october. However did gind it and Manzar has testing and interview for citizen ship on May 27th Alhamdullilah its almost over.
Marraige doing fine after all its Pakistani-Gori !!! Hooray for diverse marriages. bridging gaps, building understanding!!
Since then he has became top seller , and has started a business with a friend which Alhamdullilah is up to 3 warehouses. WOW
We are selling this house of soo many yrs and moving to North of Philadelphia for a few yrs, and transfer different places around country to set up same business. Which is great for me if i want to continue my healthcare career.
My parents which I was taking care of sadly passed away, two weeks apart in December.
thats about it from out side
Best wishes for all
ALLAH HAFIZ
C F shah
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All good quedtions to ask yourself as well, falling in love is easy, staying is the struggle.
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Questions to Ask a Prospective Marriage Partner
Don't just rush into marriage. Sort out these key issues in advance.
Compiled by Chloe Chaudhry. Derived from Bent Rib: A Journey through Women’s issues in Islam by Huda al-Khattab.
The following questions are offered in the interest of helping Muslims to think through issues important to marriage. You may wish to ask these questions when you’re considering someone for marriage, either of them or just of yourself. You may also wish to ask them of an intermediary, who may be able to provide you an unbiased perspective. Some of the questions may seem "unIslamic", but they deal with the reality of today's social situation, and NOT asking a question may ultimately prove to be a bigger mistake than asking it.
GENERAL QUESTIONS:
Why are you interested in marrying at this time?
How would you describe yourself?
What do you consider your greatest achievement to date?
Describe three experiences you’ve had that you’ve benefited/learned from.
What has been the hardest obstacle you’ve faced thus far in life? How has it affected you?
If there was one thing you would like to change about yourself, what would it be?
What are your goals for this life? What would you like to accomplish before you die?
What are you looking for in a spouse?
DECIDING WHETHER TO MARRY:
What role do you think parents should play in helping to select your spouse?
What process do you want to use to determine whether you have found the right spouse? Phone? E-mail? Chaperoned or unchaperoned in person? How much time do you want to decide?
DEEN (ISLAMIC LIFESTYLE):
What do you do to feel close to Allah (swt)?
How to you hope to get closer to Allah (swt) through marriage?
What do you want to improve about yourself Islamically?
How many times per day do you pray? What about while at work?
How much Qur’an have you memorized?
To what extent are you involved in the Islamic community?
Do you fast during Ramadan?
How do you determine how to distribute Zakat? How do you give in Sadaqa?
Have you been on Hajj or Umrah? When would you like to go?
Are you affiliated with a particular masjid or Islamic group?
How important do you think it is to only eat Halal meat?
How important do you think it is for women to wear hijab? What about men?
How do you like to celebrate religious holidays?
Do you go for jummah prayers?
LIVING AS A MUSLIM MINORITY:
Do you have non-Muslim friends?
What do you think Muslims should do on Western holidays?
EXTENDED FAMILY:
What do you think parents/extended family’s role should be in making important decisions: wedding planning, child rearing, vacations, where you will live?
What do you do if there is a conflict between your spouse and your family?
Are you comfortable living with extended family, particularly as they age? Are other accommodations possible?
How much time do you anticipate spending with your extended family, in person or by phone?
Would you describe the character of your family members?
What have you learned from observing your family that you do or do not want to incorporate into your marriage?
PROFESSION:
What career path do you plan on taking?
Will both husband and wife work outside the home?
Under what conditions would you be willing to move to further your or your spouse’s professional growth?
How much time do you spend at work?
How do you plan to balance time at work and time with the family?
What kind of business functions will you ask each other to host/attend?
Would you encourage/support the idea of me going back to school for advanced degrees?
How would we support ourselves if we both had to be in school?
INTERESTS/ACTIVITIES:
How do you like to spend your free time?
How much time do you spend watching TV?
What interests would you like to share with your spouse?
How much time alone would you like to have?
How do you feel about separate vacations? Business trips? Conferences?
SOCIAL LIFE:
How much time do you want to spend with friends? By yourself? As a couple?
How would you feel about your spouse having friends of the opposite gender?
WHERE TO LIVE:
Where do you want to live? Why?
Will you want to live near your extended family?
Do you prefer city? Suburb? Countryside?
Do you want to live in the U.S. or abroad?
How important is it to live in a large Muslim community?
CHILDREN:
How many children do you want to have?
When do you think you’ll be ready to have children?
How will you distribute responsibility for child rearing? Diapering?
What do you think it is important to teach children?
What is your view on raising children? Do you spank?
To what extent would you be willing to utilize family members, friends, baby sitters or day are to watch your children?
How will you ensure your children have a good Islamic education?
What would you do if you could not have children?
Do you want your children to grow up bilingual? In what languages?
MONEY:
How many personal savings/checking accounts would you want?
Who should be responsible for paying bills?
What about prior assets?
How will you determine how much should be spent on the household? On personal items? On charity?
How much should either person be able to spend by themselves without consulting the other?
How much should be paid out in maher (dowry)? Up front versus deferred?
If we were on an uncomfortably tight budget, and your brother asked you for a generous loan for a third attempt at a start-up when the first two had failed, would you give it to him?
What would be your top five criteria for developing a financial plan?
LAST NAMES:
Should the wife change her last name?
What last name should the children carry?
HOUSE:
How do you feel about cleanliness, neatness and housework?
How do you feel about knickknacks and artwork?
Who is responsible for work around the house?
What are the household chores you are used to doing?
Have you ever lived alone? Have you ever had a roommate? Have you always lived with your parents?
How do you feel about pets?
What are your preferences in terms of food? Mostly from your own ethnic group, or a more diverse palate? Only home-made, or also convenience or from restaurants? Meat or vegetarian?
If we were both working and we both got home about the same time, would you expect the wife to always be the cook?
How do you feel about smoking?
DIFFERENCES:
What are your pet peeves?
How should disagreements be resolved?
How do you act when you get upset?
How would you go about making you spouse happy when s/he was feeling down?
What would you want your spouse to do if you disagreed about something?
What if the disagreement is over an interpretation of Islam?
Who would be your choice of arbiters, or how do you feel about arbitration?
How do you feel about marriage counselling?
MONOGAMY/FIDELITY/HONESTY:
What are your views?
What is your experience with families with a second wife?
Will infidelity automatically end the marriage?
CULTURE:
What role does culture play in your life?
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Start building ships again Britian, sail to Canada though
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you know what i say, whatever floats grandmas boat. It is good alternative to empty nest syndrome. however plan on sharing wages and social security to its fullest extent.
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Leave uncle TOm alone!! he is a gr8 guy
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Uh not tellig is malicious and abusive. Im sure if he wanted to press it he could. no problem
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It all takes time through Pakistan, it really doesnt matter
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ahh just divorce the playboy bum. let ALLAH sort em out!!
Let everyone know youfiled for divorce, his family, immigration etc.
then run away.
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Yah and dont look at it for companionship and 50/50
look at it as long term international adoption of say 13 yo boy
likes girls, computers, video games, holly wood , fame and fortune.
then you be allright
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Both them got to stand togehter and kick her AZZ, or she needs to stand alone and kick both AZZez
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Move a boy toy into the USA house.. See how he likes the 50/50 american way.
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Pills B bread flour, mix with 25% whole wheat and wrm water, knead , roll and walla fry
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uh yeah its abuse, and knowingly to have sex someone without informing is AGINST the law
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Islam hate me uh yah..thats it.
there is two sides to a story...and three sides to a penny. Love struck blind all sides from sight
simply put, as said b4. in america etc.. religion is a belief.. many other places it is A WAY OF LIFE..
If your man is saying no problem to who you are and what you believe....then he is bsing you, if he is from a strong family culture and says its ok your 45 yo and im 25 look at Khadija.. blah blah.. no need for children.. ill love adopt accept yours and your exes.. HA wow yah really believing this...Hello fergie spell it out D-E-L-U-S-I-O-N-A-L
I can marry christian. no problem..bcoz face it he knows once your wife you have littlee choice.(again not a bcoz all cultures have jackasses, its that all cultures have DIFFERING social standards and Practices ie norms)
MY WISH is that woman was of Islamic of mind b4 getting tangled in marriage , ISLAM means submission. bcoz in the end,, you know your submission and faith lies in GOD ALLAH.
Im Muslim b4 marriage.. and even i know that there is much truth to this article....Islamic culture is what it is, marriage is Islam. think it good think it bad. who cares
Main thing is it right for you..............???
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he beetter have had seearch warrant!!! just saying
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one ####### stupid ghost hanging out in stats department at the court house..
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Wot kind of business up there in the mile hile?? Mile high curry and tandoori???
mine still sales and now college books online etc. had to do consult in fcility in aroura fo 2 months. no time to chat with anyone after the hail and wind storm knocked the ####### out of things
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not a good idea to do a cheap hotel in ALGIERS,....eh Im just saying.. Yikes.. you do realizee they do have drug dealers and hookersw HIV etc theree as well....
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dont forget phillipino, chinese and maybe some new Latin dishes
always a favorite of the arab immigrants
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a good leather kit (belt for muth and boot for butt)
and boundries have laid out from get go
and oh yah Omar
im the companion, i should enjoy time with you
Im not mOMMY, here to take care of you and only you. get facts/priorities straight up front, and we will get along JUUUST fine!!
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kewl its about time thy cut the chicken and beef prices,, seeing how the things run around in our back yard!!!
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doesnt seem to matter.. smooth french talking princes fast turn into frogs......afteer marriage and arrival to usa.!!
oldies but goodies?
in Middle East and North Africa
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Im back to say Wa Salam and wazzup! only for a bit. The longterm addicts and junkies of this joint are a bit creepy:S